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Originally posted by Hetshepsit:
It depends on emotional maturity and your willingness toward mutual trust. My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years. Lots of crazy and confusion (and deception) in the beginning. But neither of us had sinister intent. We eventually put all the BS aside and got serious last year. My Venus and Mercury fall into my boyfriend's 12th house.Mercury rules my Moon in Virgo. My Venus is ruled by Pisces.
Our relationship is very private, but not at all hidden.
Not sure if the house person will get hurt is a cliche, because I fear getting hurt/being cheated on. It's a weird paranoia that goes beyond him. It's definitely a house of "faith" and learning to trust my partner. Very karmic. We both started off projecting all of our past relationship trauma onto one another. Not anymore. He's my best friend. I love him deeply, but conditionally. He's highly aware of how I feel. But we don't say "I love you" freely. It's more subconscious/actions - and when we are alone and intimate we say it.
If we don't work out, I know I was open, honest and loving. Would never dream of hurting him. This is the most loyal and committed I've ever been with anyone. Very healing.
For reference I'm 34 and he's 39. You have to take the entire synastry overlays and composite/davison charts into account. One aspect alone can't make or break a relationship.
I get it for a while I didn't even engage with this person. It wasn't until recently that I decided to have a conversation. We are both in our 30's too but It's always been hard for me to connect with people. It's not a romantic relationship we're friends. Honestly, this entire situation is awkward because it's the same sex. I'm just trying to go with the flow. But I'm afraid that I may end up hurt.
I feel like I've been oversharing we've talked all day for two days. And I decided to pull away a little because it's a lot. I don't know if this is one-sided. Since it's my 12th and 8th house. But she's been sharing things too. I like her and she makes me feel good. I feel happy when I talk to her and she’s a good distraction. I wish men made me feel good like this but they haven’t.