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Topic: What do you do when Virgo is mad?
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icetickle unregistered
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posted December 17, 2003 02:03 PM
What is the best approach to take when Virgo is mad? Also are Virgos honest? I have a Virgo friend who is mad at me (at least I'm sure she is) but when I asked why she got irritated and called me paranoid. She has not been calling me or returning my calls so I say she is mad but what can I do? Who wants to be called paranoid?IP: Logged |
lioneye68 unregistered
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posted December 17, 2003 02:46 PM
You have to tell her exactly what gives you the idea she's mad. "You just don't seem like yourself. You're no fun. You have no sense of humor, you're irritable, and you have a scowl on your face. If you're not mad at me, then who the heck are you, and what have you done with my friend??"Things that make a Virgo mad are inconsiderate acts, like standing them up or cancelling at the last minute, saying something derogatory about them or to them around others, or lack of ethics in general. If they don't care about you, this last one doesn't phase them, but if they DO, they feel disappointed in you, and really want to "guide" you, but you have to poke it out of them. They'll stay "cold" until you discuss it and let them take a strip off of you. Then, it's on with the show after that. They have to clear the air before they can resume the freindship. IP: Logged |
Randall Webmaster Posts: 4783 From: The Goober Galaxy Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 17, 2003 02:47 PM
Welcome! ------------------ "Never mentally imagine for another that which you would not want to experience for yourself, since the mental image you send out inevitably comes back to you." Rebecca Clark IP: Logged |
Aphrodite unregistered
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posted December 17, 2003 03:20 PM
At me?I call up a few times. They don't call back. So it ends as that. IP: Logged |
pidaua Knowflake Posts: 67 From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 17, 2003 03:23 PM
Hi Icetickle, Welcome. What sign are you? (Finally, one of those times when it can't be taken as a pick up line). I agree with what Lioneye said. He is an expert on Virgos. You really do have to come out and ask them in the way that Lioneye describes. Sometimes it can be the smallest thing that makes them angry. My ex Virgo sulked for a whole week one time. After me asking him about a million times he said 'It hurt my feelings when you pointed out that I don't like to fill up the sugar bowl". I was floored. I laughed so hard and said "Hey if I pouted everytime you criticized me, we would NEVER talk LOL". He lightened up and we got past it. IP: Logged |
icetickle unregistered
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posted December 17, 2003 03:47 PM
Thanks Lioneye and Randall. I guess I should add the fact that my friend is moving in January so I really want to straighten things up. I want to talk things out but I'm afraid she will think I'm being pushy if I call again so I don't know if I should call or wait for her to call me. Before we got off the phone (after she called me paranoid) I asked her if we would be able to hang out before she moves and told her that that is one reason I really needed to see if things were okay between us and she said she was sure we would because she won't be leaving until the end of Jan. but she did not sound too enthusiastic. Normally she is always wanting to hang out. Then she cut the phone call short so she could watch a movie (as if that is more important!) She is moving to a nearby city and we planned to take turns visiting once a month or so, but if I can't get her to talk to me and she leaves than that will be the end of our friendship.IP: Logged |
icetickle unregistered
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posted December 17, 2003 03:55 PM
Hi Pidaua! I'm a Sagittarius with a sensitive Pieces Moon. I would love to take Lioneye's advice if my friend will talk to me. We have only had one true fight before although there are times when we have stepped on each other's feelings and gotten right passed itIP: Logged |
juniperb Moderator Posts: 856 From: Blue Star Kachina Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 17, 2003 04:29 PM
icetickle welcome!! My Virgo moon says don`t push. Be open, concise and leave it to her to ponder. A Virgo won`t tolerate a nagger or an over explainer. Lioneye... you ARE a Virgo expert if I ever knew one!!!! You get more out of them than anyone I know juniperb ------------------ If having a soul means being able to feel love and loyalty and gratitude, then animals are better off than a lot of humans. ~James Herriot IP: Logged |
pidaua Knowflake Posts: 67 From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 17, 2003 04:58 PM
LOL...HI Icetickle, I am a Sag too, but with an Aries moon. You have a nice combination. I have read that the Pisces moon with Sag Sun woman has more of a fluid movement and is very graceful. Also, they seem to be more able to feel others needs. As a Sag you already form a bit of a stressful aspect to Virgo, so the way we go about apologizing is different than the way they go about things. Remember, they need to chew on it, think about it and then deal with it. Giving space is necessary (your moon opposes your friends Sun, so you might be wearing your emotions a bit more on your sleeve that she is comfortable with). Just hang in there. Wait a bit and if you don't hear from her in a week, maybe send her a letter or e-mail. I had a Virgo guy friend that got so angry at me a year ago that we got into a huge fight. We didn't talk for almost 10 months. I sent him a few little e-mails, then we made small talk and finally he told me why he was angry. So, maybe just dropping a line would help, but like Juni said. DON'T PUSH. It's hard, but you don't want to drive them away. ALSO, maybe your friend is feeling sad because she is leaving. IP: Logged |
sthenri unregistered
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posted December 17, 2003 08:10 PM
Happy Birthday Pidua!Virgos do get really mad, They won't talk to you for years and years, you will have to pull back and look at the big picture. Could there be another reason she is mad? You are sensitive but think back, Virgos hold grudges. Try something big to impress her such as offering to help her move, or helping her pack, something out of the ordinary, rather than emotional support. Offer practical help when she expects it least. Show up and shovel the snow off her porch for no reason and don't ask for a thank you. Do something for her and say you don't mind, anytime. That' s what friends do. Take Care, Natasha 6th house Taurus Sun Sag Mars and Ascendant IP: Logged |
icetickle unregistered
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posted December 18, 2003 10:55 AM
Thanks everyone, I am glad I joined this site and I look forward to getting to know ya'll. I understand Virgo a bit better now and have decided to give my friend space for now, but I will think of something totally thoughtful to do for her before she leaves, a really nice surprise. If we do end up having a talk I'll be sure to tell her exactly what my worries are but not get overemotional and I won't over explain.IP: Logged |
pidaua Knowflake Posts: 67 From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo Registered: Apr 2009
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posted December 18, 2003 01:43 PM
Hi Natasha, Thank you for the well wishes ~pidaua IP: Logged |