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Topic: what is the problem?
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MiaMammy08 Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Maryland, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2009 01:22 AM
Does anybody feel like they dont belong? or am i the only person? I just feel like at this point in my life, the fact that I am such a loner and not really social is magnified by 1000. Its frustrating and it makes me want to cry. I dont understand why it is so hard for me to talk to or relate to people. I have been like this my whole life and i dont know what to do to fit in. its annoying because people find me so weird and i want to relate to them but i dont know how to not be myself. this sounds so weird now that i have written it but that's just how things are. is anybody else feeling out of place? and why? cause i sure dont know why.------------------ Yes i'm a capricorn with an aries moon and gemini rising. oh yea... IP: Logged |
MiaMammy08 Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Maryland, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2009 01:23 AM
please dont think i am crazy or anything you guys.IP: Logged |
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posted April 16, 2009 02:11 AM
I've always felt the same way and didn't know why until I learned astrology. I have sun in the 12th and moon in the 8th. I've always managed to have a couple close friends, I believe quality is better than quantity in that department. I never really been comfortable in large crowds or parties but with my gemini rising somehow people see me as the life of the party. Also with my aquarius midheaven I often feel like a misfit, but I have grown to love it. I'm assuming your sun is in the 8th house so you may come off as intense cause you can see through the bull**** in most situations which may make people uncomfortable. It takes a long time to appreciate this as a gift. Is your moon in the 11th or 12th house?IP: Logged |
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posted April 16, 2009 08:03 AM
I know exactly how you feel.{{{HUG}}}} IP: Logged |
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posted April 16, 2009 08:08 AM
Never mind about those people who don't accept you for who you are. We need to try to find ways to jump out of our goldfish bowels and into the ocean where we may find others like us (but not end up on the carpet flapping around gasping for air!) The internet is one way....a brilliant tool....even better if you can find kindred spirits who live near enough to meet up with regularly. Another is to search for classes, etc in things you are interested in. Go to as many of those as possible and you are bound to find someone who you can gel with. Money is an issue for me. I know that one of Linda's sayings was..."if I mind, it matters- if I don't- it won't". IP: Logged |
LEXX Moderator Posts: 9 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2009 08:13 AM
MiaMammy08 You are not alone. I am a recluse for the most part except for online. I can however converse with virtually anyone, but prefer quality and like minded in those I let get close to me offline. I am not into the casual and superficial friends I notice many have offline. If it were not for my husband, I doubt I would have visitors. Well, I actually do not, he has them, and I usually ignore them. I have not personally invited anyone into my home(s) for like some 21 years. Being disabled is part of it, but even before, it was not me inviting...but husbands(2 exes) and my son inviting people in. So it seems I have actually not invited anyone personally in some 31 years to date. Yeah, a few have invited themselves in, and being I consider them not invaders into my private space, I let them in a couple times a year. I prefer to go to people rather than let them in. Maybe it comes from being the eldest child in a family of 13 people, and having absolutely zero privacy. Maybe because I use to party and when I stopped, all my party friends went away. And friends from when I was with my exes were their party friends, not mine...so do not have them any longer either. Many very close friends too were very very much older and have long ago died. Most folks are into television, and I am not... So I remain rather reclusive except for my husband, and a small group of long time friends whom I visit only a few times a year...they being recluses also. I have no problems (except for being disabled) going out to folks, counseling them, giving speeches, teaching various things, bit am not one for letting people into my private space. I like LL because it gives me a social outlet where I can meet and converse with like minded folks I would be unable to meet due to geographic logistics. How do you see yourself as weird? ------------------ A show of envy is an insult to oneself. ~Yevgeny Alexandrovich Yevtushenko The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves. ~William Penn, Some Fruits of Solitude, 1693
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LEXX Moderator Posts: 9 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2009 08:17 AM
LTT Money is an additional issue for me also. So many folks want to go out and do things that I simply cannot afford, and add in the days my body allows me mobility freedom, well.... it is most of the time near to or at times impossible.------------------ A show of envy is an insult to oneself. ~Yevgeny Alexandrovich Yevtushenko The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves. ~William Penn, Some Fruits of Solitude, 1693 IP: Logged |
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posted April 16, 2009 08:36 AM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WId0WS48JgM I'll sing myself to sleep A song from the darkest hour Secrets I cant keep Inside of the day Swing from high to deep Extremes of sweet and sour Hope that God exists I hope I pray Drawn by the undertow My life is out of control I believe this wave will bear my weight So let it flow Oh sit down Sit down next to me Sit down, down, down, down, down In sympathy Now Im relieved to hear That youve been to some far out places Its hard to carry on When you feel all alone Now Ive swung back down again Its worse than it was before If I hadnt seen such riches I could live with being poor Oh sit down Sit down next to me Sit down, down, down, down, down In sympathy Those who feel the breath of sadness Sit down next to me Those who find theyre touched by madness Sit down next to me Those who find themselves ridiculous Sit down next to me Love, in fear, in hate, in tears Down Down Oh sit down Sit down next to me Sit down, down, down, down, down In sympathy Oh sit down Sit down next to me Sit down, down, down, down, down In sympathy Down IP: Logged |
MiaMammy08 Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Maryland, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2009 01:37 PM
Sun Capricorn 8th House Moon Aries 12 house Mercury Capricorn 9 house Venus Aquarius 9 house Mars Sagittarius 7 house Jupiter Cancer 2 house Saturn Capricorn 9 house Uranus Capricorn 8 house Neptune Capricorn 8 house Pluto Scorpio 6 house Ascendant Gemini so yes i do have sun in capricorn in 8th and moon in aries in 12th. and gemini asc. its extremely a pull and tug scenario.
------------------ Yes i'm a capricorn with an aries moon and gemini rising. oh yea... IP: Logged |
MiaMammy08 Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Maryland, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2009 01:42 PM
ever since elementary school i have had a hard time keeping friends. i have only about three people i can consider friends right now but i hardly see them because i chose not to honestly. I see them only when i really want to see them.------------------ Yes i'm a capricorn with an aries moon and gemini rising. oh yea... IP: Logged |
MiaMammy08 Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Maryland, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2009 01:46 PM
Its only starting to bother me because my Virgo boyfriend "mr. social" always talks about how im not as social as other people my age that we live around. and it annoys me because I go over his house a lot and I cant converse with his parents other than to say hello. and its hard for me to speak to them. and when he invites me around his family i get really quite and I want to be around the children. that's something i have done since a child i don't know why. but i have a hard time trying to relate to adults and that is some of what is bothering me because I am at the age where i have to interact with adults so that i can work and all that other stuff.------------------ Yes i'm a capricorn with an aries moon and gemini rising. oh yea... IP: Logged |
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posted April 16, 2009 02:22 PM
I have a really hard time relating to and talking to adults as well! As far as not being as social as everyone else there is nothing wrong with that, everyone is different. Of course I always thought there was something wrong with me because of feeling that way, but in the past couple of years I've really learned to accept myself and to realize that everyone is NOT supposed to be the same. I am 36 though so I think it gets better with age. On a side note meeting and talking with boyfriend's parents always makes me feel super uneasy. With your sun in the 8th along with all the other planets you have in there, and your moon in the 12th, I have a feeling you're just not into small talk. I can totally relate.IP: Logged |
MiaMammy08 Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Maryland, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 16, 2009 05:40 PM
Lol I can totally relate. i hate small talk. but if i plan on staying with him and maybe marrying him i have to find some way to talk to his family. but it just makes me feel like an alien and this year has made things its worst it seems. I really do feel like im alone sometimes. but when i talk to others about it they look at me cross. and say dont kill urself. but im like how do u get suicide from feeling like another kind of person? but i cant go forward with killing myself. its dumb and besides, i haven't done all the things i wanted to do in my life. but its hard because I cant describe what I am feeling to myself or others. i just have all these feelings i feel now and it makes me cry sometimes because i dont know what is wrong with me. and for some odd reason i was scared to go to sleep last night around 2:30-3am so i had to call my boyfriend and ask him to stay on the phone with me till i fell asleep. i know that sounds so weird but its true and he was like what is wrong and i couldnt tell him why i was so scared. ------------------ Yes i'm a capricorn with an aries moon and gemini rising. oh yea... IP: Logged |
sesame Moderator Posts: 5 From: Oz Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 24, 2009 12:19 AM
Have you checked your numbers? They could be somewhat insightful as well. quote: Yes i'm a capricorn with an aries moon and gemini rising. oh yea...
I'm not too technical about astrology, but I'm a gem sun, virgo moon, and sag rising. My mum's a cap with (I think) a gem moon or rising. It makes sense to me to think she is anyway, but I don't know for sure. The problem is that gem and cap are soooo different. I love three caps in this world (that I know of) - Mum, Randall, and Eddie Vedder. But the fact you are gem and aries with cap, seems very interesting - the gem and aries get on like a house on fire (not sure about aries and cap). But your numbers might tell a different story. I accept the fact that I'm fairly anti-social, but still love a BBQ here and there, I just don't socialise much beyond that. I'm a 30. 31 is apparantly more severe. My wife is somehow less social than I am, but I feel she's more natural in many situations. I feel you can achieve more without answering to people. People can be competitive. Anyhow, I hope you figure out what you need to. Some self-help books are good, and movies like "The Pursuit of Happiness". But if you're crying, then maybe you need to talk to someone about it. For me, I just get a little sad or lonely occasionally, but I created my own life, so I accept it. Heaps of Love, Dean. ------------------ I realized it for the first time in my life: there is nothing but mystery in the world, how it hides behind the fabric of our poor, browbeat days, shining brightly, and we don't even know it. Sue Monk Kidd, "The Secret Life of Bees", p79 Logically Magical Logic is Magically Logical Magic! (and vice versa!) Check out my free Chaldean Numerology Program based on Star Signs by Linda Goodman. IP: Logged |
MiaMammy08 Knowflake Posts: 3 From: Maryland, USA Registered: Apr 2009
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posted April 25, 2009 10:13 PM
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