posted January 02, 2020 10:14 PM            

I need some help with this synastry.

The Aquarius and I met in September and the relationship developed very quickly.

The problem I’m having is that I’m not sure if we should be together... mainly because she triggers a lot of my past relationship issues. She loves me but with it being only 4 months or so, II’m not sure if this relationship is very karmic or if I should learn a lesson and grow with her! I really could use some help!!

https://www.astro.com/tmpd/c4lsfilesBmxht-u1560954525/astro_61gw_jermaine_parris_courtney_hp.11824.9142.png

posted January 04, 2020 11:52 AM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
need some help with this synastry.

The Aquarius and I met in September and the relationship developed very quickly.

The problem I’m having is that I’m not sure if we should be together... mainly because she triggers a lot of my past relationship issues. She loves me but with it being only 4 months or so, I am unsure if I feel the same way. I’m not sure if this relationship is very karmic or if I should learn a lesson and grow with her! I really could use some help!!

https://www.astro.com/tmpd/c4lsfilesBmxht-u1560954525/astro_61gw_jermaine_parris_courtney_hp.11824.9142.png

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Being an aqua sun, I was curious to see the chart but when using the link, it states GIF expired....

posted January 05, 2020 12:11 AM            

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Originally posted by IV4Four:
I was able to post the link with the chart in it. As I was unable to embed the chart using the proper coding.

Any help would be great!

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posted January 05, 2020 12:12 AM            

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Originally posted by Aquapoisson:
Hi I was able to see it...because I am no where near an expert in this, I also am interested in reading more experienced readings but air/earth combos in both persons luminaries are really nice. There is also some nice interaction with pluto (i personally like it but my natal pluto trines my ac, and my pluto in 8th house so factor that in the moon/pluto opposition and wide pluto/moon conjunction, the house overlays are nice too. I am curious as to how the moon in libra feels as besides the pluto aspects there are not many connections there. Again, I am learning so I will be watching this thread thanks for sharing.

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posted January 05, 2020 01:11 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
HI IV4Four
your SN is conjunct her Uranus, and this is quincunx to your Chiron in 10th house Cancer... I think you are strongly drawn to her, you have a deep intimacy with her and you might also idealize her, but her Saturn/Mars conjunct your Pluto/Lilith opposite the Sun/Moon can give you an emotional block at subconscious level... yes, your Moon looks "lonely" here, but it is in Libra, 2nd house, ruled by Venus, and her Moon conjunct your Sun is also ruled by Venus, so there's still an emotional compatibility, I think. This relationship actually looks very inspiring to you, so especially your Chiron placement suggests that this relationship might be triggering issues of your own buried in your subconscious/past, compelling you to face those wounds somehow, your committment insecurity and where it comes from.
Maybe a Composite chart might say more.

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posted January 07, 2020 08:31 AM            

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Originally posted by Stoika7:
Hi IV4Four, the Composite shows that a deep emotional bond is challenged by inner personal issues and also by trust issues... you have a mutual idealized image of the other but this doesnt match with the other's reality and you both feel this at subconscious level and likely cant see where the other comes from or stands. Unfortunately, this all looks like a fairy tale that is turning to painful as one of you or both of you finds out that there are core issues in your different expectations... neptune is square to NN and Saturn is square to MC, this is not usually a good omen for long term... Saturn is opposite Chiron, and Mars square NN, so I think this relationship triggers a lot of insecurity to you and you are the one who might want to detach, even though the fears you have come from the same reason you feel strongly attracted to her. I think that if you want to keep the relationship going, you have to give up something else, but this might be quite frustrating for you. I think she's quite devoted to you and appearances are deceiving cause your communication is very psychic while your verbal communication might be difficult sometimes... I think this relationship can work out on long term only if you give a lot of space to each other and accept your differences from which you can learn a lot about yourself, this is the real challenge here, I believe, cause of Chiron opposite ASC and Uranus square Sun. Even so, as transiting SN is currently conjunct Comp. Mars/Neptune square Composite NN, you are going to feel this urge to "run" from her in a very close future.

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Okay, this is very accurate and I totally agree that to a point there are feelings of this not being “right” or a fairy tale. I am not sure exactly what I feel like I would have to give up in order for this to work, except a career path that I’m very attached to. I feel like I have two paths where I have both careers. But I feel like she doesn’t match with one of the careers.

As far as our communication goes, at times she doesn’t quite understand me, and sometimes the things I say are taken completely wrong, or perceived incorrectly which then leads to us talking about it. In the end I never 100% feel like I was understood and instead I feel like I’m assuming responsibility for her feelings.

My final question is, I’m currently at a crossroads, and I want to make the right choice. If there is something I should focus on to help me get clarity in these charts/situation , what would you suggest?

posted January 07, 2020 08:12 PM            

This is so accurate..

Okay so here is the plot twist...

My ex has been communicating a lot with me lately. After we broke up she started connecting with her spiritual side which was one of the reasons why I broke up with her. Now she is into all of these things and it just so happens that she and I will be going to the wedding of a mutual friend together on 02/22/2020...

I can honestly say, part of my confliction is due to this ex coming back and the feeling coming back for her.. although me and her haven't had the conversation of getting back together, I wanted to put you fully in the perspective as to why this situation with my current girlfriend and the crossroad feels even harder.

I've posted a composite of me and my ex GF below. I hope that from here, I can have full clarity.

posted January 07, 2020 11:02 PM            

I hope what I am going to say doesnt influence your choice of course, so please take it with a grain of salt and I mainly think, astrology aside, that if this ex is making you question your actual relationship, then you would have to carefully understand your feelings for your actual gf !

posted January 08, 2020 12:33 PM            

So true, well I don’t think I’ll make the choice to go back to her... as last night we briefly had a conversation about how we felt about each other and I feel like she feels like I am a emotional block (Mars in Piesces, opposite her Jupiter)

posted January 08, 2020 07:26 PM            

To answer your question on what I would be willing to sacrifice, the only thing that I consistently think about when I analyze that question would be, the type of person(physically, interest wise) I am with, and also if I have to live a more relaxed/routined life which makes me feel like I would be giving up a career and the path it would take me down.

Those are the only things that come to mind. And yes you are right that it does scare me because I also feel like if I don't make the choice to stay with her, I may never find someone that loves me as she does. I also feel like this "test" and or "moment of truth" is something being brought back from a past life.

She has hinted many times that she feels like she knows me, and she always says that she recognizes my eyes.

I guess it all boils down to, If I stay, and the relationship is one of a lifetime, or if my lesson is in letting her go and pursuing my dreams.

I'm still studying my natal chart to find more clues about this.

posted January 08, 2020 10:06 PM            

I completely understand what your crossroad is about and it is also clear from the Composite that it is not an easy choice for you... (Composite Grand Square formed by Saturn/ASC/Chiron opposition square to MC and Mercury) of course you will always have the chance to find someone who loves you, but since you're a Taurus 😉 I bet you feel to focus on what you realistically have *here* and *now* !

Well, as for your sacrifice, even if she's apparently a little restless and "fickle" in her life direction, she still needs to gain stability and some "relaxed/routined life" where she can nurture her intellectual skills and peace of mind (and also peace of heart, cause of her Sun square Moon!) :-)
Also, with her Taurus Moon/Juno in second house conjunct your Sun, she might actually be very close to that kind of mate for you... As I said before, there are some core "flaws" that will always be felt in the relationship, since you have no planet falling in 7th house in synastry, and Chiron and Vertex in Composite 7th house instead, but you have Sun in 4th house trine Moon and Jupiter in Libra 10th house sextile Moon in 8th house which might be a good "replacement" in the big picture... The main issue I see here is communication and your mutual understanding.

With Comp. Vertex/DSC trine to South Node and square to Mercury, you have actually a powerful psychic connection, empowered by the Comp. Moon in 8th house and the DW Moon 8th house overlays in synastry, so you potentially reach heavenly moments as you can "feel" what the other feels or have a intense "merging" feelings of intimacy.