posted November 05, 2022 12:52 PM            

Met this person on a dating site, said in her profile she wanted to just be friends. We were drawn towards each other because we both seemed to be going on a similar path in life and coming to similar realizations. We were both developing a strong interest in astrology as well. She said she wanted to be friends and friendship is very important to me, so I was OK wth that.

She made at least a few flirtations comments to me during our hangout, and I developed an attraction to her. I also felt uneasy because she kept complaining about her boyfriend. I am non monogamous, so I can pursue multiple relationships at once. I wanted to keep whatever feelings were going on between us separate from her other relationship and felt a bit like she was triangulating-her relationship with her bf was mostlyirrelevant to me, though he did not want non monogamy.

When we said goodbye, I felt tension. I didn’t want to make too much of it, especially since she was in an exclusive relationship and I don’t always read cues properly, being autistic.. She kept texting me first, rsharing emotional things, replying really fast to my text, sending pics, etc. I asked others about her behaviour, and they agreed it seemed flirtatious. I asked to hang out a second time because I wanted to clarify what was going on. I didn’t want to put any immediate demands on her but I did just want to clarify what was going on and make sure I was reading the situation properly.

I wanted to meet up a second time, and we did. There was a lot of emotional vulnerability and she made some comments that made me feel that she was experiencing a strong emotional draw towards me. We hugged and she looked at me and said “let’s keep texting.” We did, and eventually she wanted to add me to a synastry app so she could, quote, “consult my chart whenever she wanted to.” On my end, I don’t usually care that much about the synastry of people I am only feeling friendly with.Nor do I text most of my friends every single day.

I expressed that i was excited that she asked for my chart and i was analyzing it. She said she was analyzing it too and wanted to talk about it in person. I was happy that we would at least get to clarify what was going on and confirm that we were feeling this mutual energy. I also felt that if she was analyzing the synastry, she was at least trying to think about how she felt about me as well.

When we finally met up, her energy was very different. She didn’t allude to our previous conversation about discussing our synastry, and kept complaining about her boyfriend. It was as though our previous conversations did not happen. I finally asked about her impressions of our connection and it was as though there was no question in her mind that we were only friends. I was very hurt and confused because I felt her behaviour had been misleading. She continued to act in kind of a self centered way and complain about her boyfriend, so at this point I am not even sure if i want to pursue the friendship. We are no contact at the moment. I usually prefer whole sign over placidus, but in placidus, my natal venus is 12th house and my netal venus in fact falls in her 12th house, if that helps. Can someone shed some light on me and help me process this situation so I can move on? Her behaviour was so confusing and she initiated most of it. It really felt like she was attracted to me at least emotionally, could she have had a subconscious attraction? Or was I just delusional? I kind of felt that she was projecting/mirroring onto me and just telling me what I want to hear, on some level. It was a tricky interaction especially since our synastry does NOT seem minor to me, if not necessarily romantic. What was the purpose of this hurtful and confusing interaction?

posted November 06, 2022 06:06 AM            

There are a lot of good connections here - same ASC, Sun conjunct Moon - your Sun, her Moon, but out of degree, then her Sun conjunct your Moon but out of sign. The latest shows that she will be the one that will lead you in the relationship. You might want to express your feelings, but depends on her. That's because Sun is the masculine planet and Moon is feminine. Hoping that her Moon in the same sign as your sign might do something or be stronger than your Moon on her SUn but out of sign. Is better when the conjunction happens with the right gender, as Sun being the man and Moon being the female.

You're both looking for someone venusian in relationships since both your 7th house ruler is in Taurus, respective Libra sign. You're looking for friendship with your partner, but she is looking for something mundane, as her 7th house ruler is in the 6th house. But her 7th house is occupied by Mars and Jupiter, and Mars rules her 5th house, so you are there with Moon and Jupiter, so there is a strong connection here.

Your Venus is conjunct her Moon, but out of sign, so there is affection here.

Her moon being in your 12th house, you might feel like telling her everyting and anything, and might exhaust her overtime, or create a deep relationship.