posted September 01, 2003 03:19 PM              

I can see two sides to everything, and usually it's a we before a man even knows me that well. I would say the biggest challenge is being a separate individual away from the We in a relationship. There can be a lot of concern over being smothered and being faithful to an ideal. I wrestle with the idea that I am so many women that the person I am in love with doesn't really know me at all. There is a lot of insecurity. Of course communication daily is vital.

posted September 01, 2003 06:39 PM              

7th house Aquarius, doesn't necessarily mean detached, it could mean an endlessly curious and inventive nature which may seem indecisive and detached but it's not the same.
Nobody is that detached it's an act.

People tell me I am detached but it's hidden.
With your 7th house moon you need harmony in your life, have you considered which partner, will give you that? What kind of harmony do you have now, and are you happy with your life? We choose people who represent what we want to be, or what we are repressing in our own nature. Is there a part of you that needs to be expressed and one of these people is the answer?

If you can find that out, it will help you understand the attraction. We always seek out the imperfections in ourselves to fix but everyone has imperfections. Dont worry about losing or getting, just hold on to what you have.

posted September 01, 2003 06:44 PM              

That's not conventional wisdom but with your Uranus so high on your chart, the conventional way will seem dull to you.

I have had plenty of experience with lovers changing me over, my hair, clothes, name, country, life, friends and I can tell you it's not worth it even though it's the conventional fantasy. It doesn't work for the Uranus 10th house women.

posted September 01, 2003 08:41 PM              

Right arm, Natasha.

I believe you, Lioneye. As a GemVenus myself, I understand the quandary.

Yes -- Gem on the 7th can indeed be two loves at once, although it is vital that they are also bright (Mercury), and your friend.

But where is your Venus, and how does it make angles to their charts? The Moon is a karmic indicator, but maybe some karma is completed, so perhaps it's time for your Venus to be pleased.

The Sakoian/Acker book "The Astrology of Human Relationships" uses a Person A and Person B device in their delineations. They say this about the configuration of A's Moon Conjunct B's Descendant Opposition B's Ascendant:

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This comparative combination has basically the same significance as "A's Moon in B's 7th House" except that its effects will be stronger and more immediate.

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So that's why I'm asking about your Venus -- what are your tastes and needs? And have you ever been with someone with planets in Gem in _your_ 7th? I mean, maybe neither of these lovely men are "It" for _your_ house of marriage. An AquaMoon frequently has many important love relationships in life, rather than one big one. It's your karmic job. The only problem here seems to be society (Mother Guilt Trip), and the fact that instead of being conveniently sequential, both these guys are saying "gimme" at once.

Have you ever read Judith Bennett's "Sex Signs"? Not the most shy of titles, but she was an astrologer interested in women's sexuality, and she has a lot of common sense stuff to say about how we make our choices. She also suggests alternative arrangements to monogamy, and tips on whether certain signs are able to handle these -- worth a look-see IMHO.

{{{ hugs }}}

posted September 01, 2003 08:56 PM              

Sometimes it's really hard to remember to ask our loved ones what they think and feel but that' s is the way we show we are there as a friend. If your current Virgo opens up to you great, but you can only try. I know the feeling where you think someone is going nowhere and wants you to take him there. If there is no way, then is a good time to try and get him to open up. You may be surprised by all his feelings when he finally shows them to you. Virgos are pretty emotional eventually. Then is a good time to ask him to do the same for you.

Happy Birthday Wishes, here's an imaginary bouquet of roses and a card for you.

posted December 04, 2007 05:43 AM              

I have always been very attracted to people with strong Virgo influences and Sun in Capricorn ... oh and I love Pisces Moons. I've never really felt very attracted to Aries, Scorpio or Libra though. However, my special someone has a strong Mars in Virgo (conjunct his chart ruler and the MC) and an Aqua Venus sextile his Sag Ascendant. I like Libras as friends but there's no real attraction there. And I've had my fair share of friendships with people with strong Scorpio placements, but again, I have never felt romantically attracted to them.

My dad has Capricorn on his DC with Mars conjunct the DC. His DC ruler is in Virgo in the 3rd house ... Now, my mom is a Cappy with a Gemini Moon, Virgo rising and Mars and Saturn in the 1st house. My mom has her DC in Pisces with her DC rulers in the 7th and 2nd house (Jupiter is in Aries in the 7th house and Neptune in Libra in 2nd house). My dad has a Sag Venus and Jupiter in the 6th in Capricorn squaring Neptune in Libra.