posted October 17, 2004 02:56 PM              

She's got a ton of Scorp, while Ashton has a ton of Aquarius. I never could find out his Rising, but it MUST be in a Water Sign, I'm thinking Scorpio Rising.

posted October 17, 2004 11:52 PM              

I have Mercury, Mars & Neptune in Scorpio and lots more Pluto influence. So, maybe we're attracted to guys who just need an ego boost or something. I have no idea, but I'd like to know!

posted October 18, 2004 10:55 PM              

You may in your mind, work over different scenarios without realizing it, change the way you feel, and your feelings are noticeable.

Having a positive attitude about love is really important, intense or not.
There is intense positive energy, but it takes work.

Venus in Scorpio women seem to have a harder time being happy with their mate, because of the control factor. If they get a man who is controlling they hate it, but if they get a man who is easily controlled they are bored and unhappy.

This works a lot like Venus in Aries, there is no solution, only love bits and pieces of people.
There is no total satisfaction.

Aquarius people seem to be very soothing for Venus in Scorpio,

Venus in Scorpio is like Elvis at Las Vegas
A little more Action Please!
I like this placement for talking, show business, acting, directing, the arts, dancing, the sciences, but not for business.

The best Venus for a mate IMO if Venus is well aspected, would be Venus in Pisces, or Venus in Capricorn or Aquarius.

posted October 19, 2004 08:02 PM              

In the past, I've gotten sickingly jealous of girls talkin' to my man, but after an embarrassing incident, I've tempered down my green monster. (Not good... no Scorpio fool here!) I do tend to have that "magnet" effect with men, but they don't usually approach me because they're intimidated by me. (So I've learned from all my male "friends") Is this my Leo moon and asc.? Dunno... but I do know that I don't like controlling men, and I don't like weak men, and I *LOVE* men that won't back off just to make me happy unless I'm right.

posted October 20, 2004 08:19 AM              

I am also sickly jealous, with Venus in Aries, unfortunately I am working on this.

I remember once choosing a seat in a restaurant based on how many pretty women were around, and I avoid waitresses for waiters.
It's pretty obvious to my date which is embarassing. I try to contain myself.

the only more jealous types I have seen are Venus in Scorpio, and Venus in Taurus, both with eyes in the back of their heads. Venus in Aqua can be pretty jealous too.

posted October 21, 2004 08:27 AM              

It's like if you are 24 dating a 14yrd old, sure you're in love but it doesn't hurt that she thinks you are a God. In a relationship that's going badly, people are more vulnerable.

Some men and women, tend to specialize in those who are vulnerable, this way they feel more sure of their trap, and are less likely to be left.
Married women who choose married men in bad marriages, almost always say it's more stable, that way. It's sort of like a setup for emotional blackmail.

I don't think they are aware they are doing it, these two men. I think they don't know what drives them, most compulsions are buried.

Both are in therapy,
I used to find it fun to be with a married man, until I realized that he would never be there for me like I was for him. So I bailed out of that, but sometimes if a person is really controlled and damaged,

They will play out the scenario again and again, the roots of which are from childhood, the child wants to compete with the parent, and sets up triangles that mimic family dynamics.

Of course that's what therapists say anyway.

I mentioned this to a Moon, Mars and Venus in Cancer, and he said you mean therapist? the rapist? So apparently he doesn't listen much!
He is heavily involved with a married Venus in Scorpio, who is staying married.

We all play out roles,
it's better when they don't control happiness.
Venus in Virgo likes to play-don't take him away.