posted January 11, 2005 07:43 AM              

I wonder what Venus aspects are for othe women you mentioned? Anyone care to share?

posted January 11, 2005 07:46 AM              

All my male friends are Air and Fire signs. But nothing serious ever comes of it, even where there are very deep feelings (I'm thinking of my Libra sun/moon best friend in particular here).

I've decided I want a man with an Air/Fire sun and an Earth moon and Venus/Mars in Air/Fire too... That's my astrological wishlist!

*sends it out into the universe*

posted January 11, 2005 07:50 AM              

I always thought this had a lot to do with the reason I seem to get idealized at the beginning... The men I get involved with get obssessed and then realize I'm not the "Miss Perfect" they though I was and then it sours from there.

posted January 11, 2005 09:42 AM              

LOL

posted January 11, 2005 12:26 PM              

The only way to know is to live day to day with one, and then you know him, and he knows you. building a nest will tame a man who wants to be tamed but some women don't see that and prefer to believe in old patterns.

I have chased many such men away when they were ready to commit because I was so cynical about their motives. Have the nest ready:>
After all you are the Mamma bird and he is the baby, otherwise you would be the one under his control. If I can get an Aqua to hang around me all the time, you can get a Sag. The difference is patience for immaturity and an attractive home base with no questions asked.

Just have faith and everything works out. once you stop having faith in yourself to keep your partner, the relationship falls apart. You may not want him anymore and think it's because he's now yours, but it's a lack of faith and security in yourself. Shore up your own foundation and you will always be happy, and he will see that and be happy too.

Speaking as one who always has to guide and have faith in the relationships, it's best to have a drink once in a while and forget the little stuff. If you have faith you can do that.

Like my Grandparents always used to say, love is faith, people have no faith have no love. I would say what if your partner dies and leaves you all alone? Why bother marrying anyone at all? and my Grandfather said you have no faith, you will have to work on that..

posted January 11, 2005 02:44 PM            

I can't say that I would get along with all Taurus men. I am just lucky to have found one that I love immensely. We have some very stressful aspect but we also have these very karmic ties / peaceful aspects. We also have some of the same individual chart aspects like Moon square Mercury...and a T-square.

I should have been super compatible with my ex Leo (Aqua Moon, Gemini Venus, Sag Mars). But in the end, he was a drunk and a dead beat. We worked together and I carried him for way to long. Astrologically, he should have fulfilled me...we should have been able to drift away on a cloud of bliss...

BULL$hit..because he didn't understand me at all. I am also supposed to get along well with Libra men, but that hasn't been the case. They end up trying to dominate me and lead me into stupid fights where we debate but once I start to win, they give up(maybe because of my Aries moon).

I was also with a Virgo / Gemini Moon / Venus and Mars in Leo. Intellectually we were great, but we just didn't hit on all other cylinders.

I think it is much harder for a Taurus Sun woman to find love with a Sagittarius man than for the Archer lady and Bull-boy. Also you need to take into consideration age. Young Archers are not easy to get along with, of either sex. Personally, I would never date an Archer guy, I just like a more stable and earthy quality.

I would also recommend that if you are drawn to other signs that are not exactly your trine or sextile, see if they have a 4th house Sun. Mine works well with the Taurus as does his 1st house Sun with me. I make a comfortable home and I like being somewhat domestic- it appeals to his "comfort seeking manner". His 1st house Sun brings in a certain Charisma and he LOVES to go out (we go about twice a month) and we also entertain friends here at the house.

I like playing hostess, he likes showing off his castle...and then we also love our alone time..or time to just crash. So there is hope for these types of relationships.

I have wonderful Libra lady friend (she is Mr. T's cousin) who is married to a Pisces Guy. He breaks down her analytical shell and she stablizes his dreamy ways.

posted January 11, 2005 03:46 PM            

Call him up- leave a message and back it up with an e-mail. Tell him

" I am not one that can go without closure. It is obvious that you are too immature to participate in a conversation concerning our relationship. I can only take your silence and an answer that you feel as I do, the relationship is over. I wish you lots of luck with your life".

End it. That is all- if he wants the relationship to continue he will not let you go. Sometimes you NEED to tell us "I am tired of your stupid games and running- JUST GO if that is what you want, but DO NOT COME BACK".

My Taurus had to say that to me one time. I would run when I needed to get some space and think about things. I can't do it with him in the house because I pick up on his mood and it interferes with my focus. There were also times I was afraid of being in a relationship so I would run to my dad's in Phoenix. Finally he said 'If you cannot work out these problems or tell me what is on your mind and you feel the need to run, then go, but don't come back because I can't take it anymore."

So simple- so direct and so incredibly honest. I haven't run since (it's been about 4 months). It was also something that affected our relationship because he worried I would abandon him and I was worried he would push me out. Neither one was going to happen, but we had to communicate that - even though there was a time where we were both unsure.

posted January 11, 2005 07:49 PM            

Also phrases like "I watched you log on and off" feels like a stalker.

Just state:

I am sure that you are checking your e-mail, so I am going to lay things out on the line.

I love you and I always will because you will always hold a special place in my heart. Bearing that in mind, I am not a doormat and I am not about to put up with your fear of intimacy or inabiltiy to express your emotions.

It is NOT a weakness to love and to be able to show love. It IS a weakness to fear love and run from any display of kindness, tenderness and affection.

I am a strong person and I am secure with my needs and feelings. Needing someone in life in a relationship context is quite different than being "needy". I am not needy, but I do enjoy being around you and experiences things with you.

I would like to work this out, either to give us both some closure in order to move on, or so that we can address the issues that seem to push us apart.

If I don't hear from you within a few days, then I will know your answer. Please keep in your mind that I did try, that you are special to me and I wish you the best.

____________________________________
Keep the other letter to remind yourself of the pain. Write more, get it out, write out what you hate.

I love this book "Love, Sex and Magick" by Sirona Knight. She goes over the myths we have about love and how we need to first look into ourselves- what we want and do not want, in order to actually look for love.

If you keep finding yourself with men that cannot express love or commit, maybe in your heart you really DON'T want to commit. I've been down that path before and I know others (men) that are walking that path as well.

posted January 12, 2005 04:00 PM            

No worries...I think you did just fine, you followed your heart and one can't be any more honest than that

We all live and learn..hell I have sent my fair share of letters where I didn't quite hit the point LOL..oh well...

I am sorry for your broken heart ( I said something to you on the "sisters" thread). You seem like a great person- one that is strong and has a lot to offer.

Don't give up..The Taurus guy I am with married a Sag (and divorced- she was evil) then dated one when he was in Korea that wouldn't get out of bed or call the cops when he was being attacked by robbers and almost married a Gemini but she turned out to be on medication for her bi-polar disorder and didn't like to take it when she was feeling good. Sooooo....he had to go through a few Archer (and one opposite) frogs to find me...his Princess LMAO...

Luckily for him, I am not on medication, I can speed dial 911 like no ones business (not to mention I have a bat and a 9mm - so I feel sorry should one try to break in our house) and I am not evil..well not too evil

and Trust me...we do still have our HUGE problems LOL...sometimes I need to light a fire under his Bull-butt to get him motivated..he looks at me like I am a bit high-strung (yes..I know..it's true) and like a fly about a bit like a spaz...I have LOTS of energy.

He likes my undying attention..I have Archer ADD...BUT..when it comes to xbox...I do not exist for about 8 hours a day (yeah, my Aries moon put a stop to that let me tell ya..LOL) Okay...here is a funny story..I hope it makes you laugh...

A way to a bull-boys heart is through his...stomach right?

Well, I bought him the xbox as a Christmas present- NOT thinking a person could actually play it for more than a few hours at a time (he can go for about 13 hours). I thought..Hmmm....I am becoming an xbox widow..this better not interfere with my play time. So I dedided...I will BAKE BROWNIES.....yeah, that will get him to come out.

So I did..and he did...to take about 4 of him on a plate TO EAT WHILE HE PLAYED XBOX!!!!! I was like..dude!! Do I need to paste them to my naked body to get your attention...a BIG grin crept over his face..."yeah..that would be nice".

posted January 12, 2005 04:54 PM              

still can't find those darn hug smilies. i am sad for you, for your loss. but someday, hopefully soon, you will feel refreshed and reinvigorated! as a taurean, you need someone who can APPRECIATE you and your many gifts!! take heart..

posted January 12, 2005 05:19 PM              

if you are ready to let him go, then sending anything to him would just give him control and perpetuate and prolong the pain. my feeling is you need to find YOUR strength right now!! you need to love yourself, and not worry about him.. he is insensitive, and probably always will be.. if he hasn't even contacted you in 2 days..

posted January 12, 2005 06:21 PM            

Yes...you guessed it..I am an Anal Retentive Archer (Virgo rising...LOL)

As for your Archer...

Cut him loose. No CD's (that will be seen as a guilt trip)no peoms, letters...etc....if anything wait a month or so and then just send him an e-mail (if you truly mean it) that there are no hard feelings and you wish him the best. Trust me, his own guilt for doing what was wrong will eat on him. He will end up calling or writing to you to apologize.