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Topic: Does sensitivity irritate you?
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WaterNymph
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posted June 25, 2005 07:35 AM
 
A friends of mine recently told me, she finds it hard to be honest with me because I’m so sensitive!  naturally I b1tch-slapped her - no jk But I was surprised - I never realised sensitivity can be that annoying. I’m so cute and adorable…how could anyone be irritated by me?  No but seriously…I want to know on a scale of one to ten - how annoying do you find sensitive people? Ten being very annoying. Oh and give your Sun/Moon/Asc - so I know who to avoid  Note: sensitivity isn’t just a water thing - it’s also an ego thing. Pisces/Virgo/Aries IP: Logged |
WaterNymph
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posted June 25, 2005 08:23 AM
Oh one thing I wanted to say before I go. I have three planets in Sagittarius and so often suffer from foot in mouth disease 
But then I often find myself complaining that someone is too sensitive when I upset them!!!! Maybe that’s because my intentions are never malicious…just impulsive ( I also have three Aries in my chart ).So my second question is - are YOU sensitive? Or do you give people the benefit of the doubt…and assume their intentions are good ( when they say something “negative“ )? IP: Logged |
hot_ice
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posted June 25, 2005 08:41 AM
Well after a point,yes,it's pretty ****** me off,there's this guy who cry's for almost every god damn thing in the world(even after finding nemo OH BOY!),now that gets irritating...IP: Logged |
aries-chick
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posted June 25, 2005 09:03 AM
When there's a reason someone's being sensitive..a real reason I'd be the first to listen and help. There's nothing wrong with being sensitive. I find it sweet..BUT .. if the person is constantly seeking attention by acting like they constantly have major life dramas that they don't actually have, whinging and whinning and basically just overdoing it..it makes me feel bad for one, because I can't help them..nomatter what I say they'll be back with the same old prob tomorrow ..because it's like they WANT to have a prob..and for two it does get a bit annoying prolly only a 3 on the scale though (because usually if it gets to that point with someone I'll distance myself and its not something that would really affect me) But that's only when someone's being really over the top sensitive, it drains me.. That being said if someone's just a sensitive
person and doesn't drag other ppl into it by creating a drama.. that wouldn't annoy me at all..like someone crying at finding nemo lol honestly that wouldn't annoy me..because that's just the way they are and I take ppl at face value as long as they don't actually DO something (on purpose) that affects me in a negative way.. I'm Aries/Capricorn/Gemini (cancer 1st) About my own sensitivity.. When someone means a lot to me ..I can get hurt pretty easily by their words even when it's something that most ppl would probably brush of (moon in 8th maybe..). I never show it at all. But its like a massive hurt on the inside and small things trigger it sometimes (but only with ppl I really care about) IP: Logged |
Azalaksh
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posted June 25, 2005 10:25 AM
Hi WaterNymph (you know, it's going to take me a long time to get over "Neptune's Mermaid" -- it just fit you so well.....boohoohoo  does this mean I’m too sensitive?!?)Anyway, analytical-type that I am, first I must understand what you mean by "sensitive". Is it in the sense of 1) "easily hurt emotionally; calling for tact, care or caution; touchy" or 2) "receptive to sense impressions, a person having occult or psychical abilities" ?? But I think we could distill that down and take “sensitive” two ways: sensitive in an inner way, meaning your own feelings, and sensitivity directed outward as in the 2nd definition. Part 1 – Aries-chick is so articulate – don’t know how much I could add to that……
NM - your friend “finds it hard to be honest with you because you’re so sensitive”???? Is she Sag or Aries?!? So, she can’t tell you “the truth” because she’s afraid to hurt you? With you firing those Saggie arrows of truth out in all directions?!? ARE you “touchy”?? I think it also depends on the subject one is being sensitive about. I’m not sure that I would call aries-chick’s illustration someone being “sensitive”…..” .. if the person is constantly seeking attention by acting like they constantly have major life dramas that they don't actually have, whinging and whinning and basically just overdoing it….” She nailed that one: that’s out-and-out attention-seeking, not sensitivity, to my mind….. Yes, I have been known to cry at Disney movies – I have the (Piscean blended with Libran?) ability to throw in the clutch and disengage the Emotional and Analytical sides of my nature and just let Emotion run loose all over the playgroud! Then Emotional Zala can cry at happy endings in soppy movies. It works the other way too though – if Analytical owns the playground, Emotional has to stay in from recess and look longingly out the window while Analytical coldly appraises situations. But better if gear-teeth are meshed and both sides are blended…….. Part 2 – Am I sensitive? Yes to both definitions (see Emotional IQ thread)!! Basically I cultivate openness and tend to wear my heart on my sleeve. I look for the best in others – sometimes I get disappointed, mostly I don’t…… Totally am with aries-chick here: About my own sensitivity.. When someone means a lot to me ..I can get hurt pretty easily by their words even when it's something that most ppl would probably brush of (moon in 8th maybe..). Probably my Pisces Moon in VIII too……but it’s something I’m working on. “Consider the source” comes to mind. Saggie arrows may not be intentional, but arrows are arrows and still hurt. I know that being a little less thin-skinned would probably benefit me, and that’s something I work on in daily living….. So I don’t think I can do your Sensitivity-Meter thing, since it depends so much on the situation……you know me: Libra/Leo/Pisces. {{hugs}}
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Tranquil Poet
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posted June 25, 2005 10:30 AM
Don't find it annoying. I'm like that.
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themeanreds
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posted June 25, 2005 10:40 AM
Very well said Aries-Chick! That's exactly how I feel.
I have no problem with people who are sensitive (I am myself). In fact, I tend to draw sensitive people, they bring out my maternal side. Anyone with that big of a heart and such compassion gets my respect, protection, and admiration.
but with that being said ... it's all how people express it. Being senstive and being a whiner are two very different things. I have very little tolerance for people who whine and wallow in self pity and don't try to solve anything. -Colleen
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Kat
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posted June 25, 2005 10:44 AM
I don't think the issue is actually sensitivity or a display of emotions. There is nothing wrong with compassion or expressing your emotions.I tend to get irritated with people when the sensitivity or emotions are irrational or the person takes ownership of something personal and an issue gets blown out of perspective. At times misuse of sensitivity and emotions is purely reactionary or is used to manipulate someone else. The person who is acting out has no idea that they are doing this (and tends to be young females who are inexperienced with seeing all sides of the dynamics of what's going on.)Sometimes the person who thinks that they are being sensitive is really acting as if they are being victimized in some way and are unskilled in emotionally and intellectually handling the situation. Spiritually mature individuals know that they are capable of handling the situation and perhaps if someone says something offensive, it comes from that person and not themselves. They don't take it personally and react to it. All this comes with time and experience. So if someone is irritated by your sensitivity, it's possibly because there is something else going on internally that your not aware of and needs looking at. Remember, no one generally gets angry at someone crying or being sensitive at the death of a loved one or feeling moved because of the injustices that others put on another group of people. But most will get upset if someone is sensitive because they complain that someone else did something to them. Cancer/ Leo rising/Pisces moon IP: Logged |
alanabelle86
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posted June 25, 2005 10:55 AM
on a scale from one to ten, i'd give sensitivity an 8. I can't stand it in people, it's almost as bad as seeing weakness for me. Maybe it's the whole vulnerability thing. But i'm also a hypocrite. Because deep down, i'm dangerously oversensitive to the point where it like can border self destruction. (but i dont let it get that far!!) They say people tend to dislike others because the negative qualities that they possess are the same and are what they dont like/cant accept about themselves.idk, i was never allowed to cry or show any signs of sensitivity when i was growing up. my parents (dad in particular) gravely resented it and we were punished for doing so. (mom - cap sun, gem moon, cancer asc) (dad- taurus sun, leo moon, scorpio asc) i just cant stand to see it in people, maybe im jealous cuz they're express it so much and it's the hardest thing in the world for me to even think about doing.
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posted June 25, 2005 11:54 AM
I don't see sensitive people as weak. I actually think it's great that people like that exist in this world. If not this world would be even worst then it is now.It's people like that......that I love being around. Nothing is more beautiful than a person who can feel so deeply. ------------------
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WaterNymph
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posted June 25, 2005 01:17 PM
lol well I don’t cry at movies but I do get teary-eyed.Wow Aries-chick, that’s pretty extreme. I never realised there were different types of sensitive - thankfully I’m not like that lol and I’m with you - I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that either. That’s just attention seeking. Az lol you cutie, I’m beginning to think I should go back to NM. My friend is a Gemini…I didn’t take offence to it. Like everything else I just laughed and we joked - she didn’t mean it in a malicious way. I’m sensitive in a Leo way, I have a lot of pride and can be a real diva - sorry I don’t mean that as an insult to Leos…I am blessed with many in my life and I love them all. The thing is…I’ve always been very Leo - have you every tried giving a typical Leo criticism?
Well that’s how I react 
I think the Pisces/Virgo/Aries combo equals a Leo like personality. I mean I don’t have Leo anywhere in my chart. “So I don’t think I can do your Sensitivity-Meter thing, since it depends so much on the situation”
We are so a like…I never give straight answers either - there are always exceptions  TP, no you’re not  themeanreds, I agree. Sensitive and whining are two separate things. I don’t like it if someone just sits there and complains and doesn’t do anything - it can be very depressing. I believe there’s a strong and weak side to sensitive. Kat wow...that is very deep. What you said made a lot of sense, only I’m not that sensitive…could be due to my Virgo Moon. The funny thing is…and the reason I just laughed is because my friend is more sensitive than I am. I can never be honest with her…if I do we get into an argument that never seems to end. So now, I just tell her what she wants to hear. We both have big egos because both our parents spoiled us, yes I know…bad parenting. But I’ve always felt because of my mum ( whose VERY honest ) I somehow can handle criticism better than she can. Thanks for posting…I loved your post. Alanabelle, your childhood was just like mine. My mother wanted me to be strong, so she told me to never cry. I was raised to believe it was a weakness.
Her intentions were good, but the result was very bad. I’m now somehow disconnected with my emotions and left confused. I live purely on logic. IP: Logged |
A weasel
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posted June 25, 2005 01:27 PM
Not sensitive.Not annoyed by sensitive people (however, they might be annoyed by me). Aqua/Virgo/Sag IP: Logged |
Azalaksh
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posted June 25, 2005 01:29 PM
WN/NM (you cutie!) ~That was an intriguing statement: "I’m now somehow disconnected with my emotions and left confused. I live purely on logic, because I don’t understand my emotions." Wow  , I don't get that vibe from you at all! You write that you don't understand your emotions, could it be that Virgo Moon has just not discovered all the names for the emotions you feel? Once you can name it and quantify it and give it a code, you can begin to apply logic to it! We'll have to have a talk about that Leonine quality of yours sometime!  As for "I never give straight answers either - there are always exceptions" well, just a tip, never say "never" or use absolutes like "always" around a Libra, it makes us crazy!!! 
Oh but I DO give lots of straight answers, it's just that your question was too huge and the possibility for too much nuance precluded it!!!  'Zala IP: Logged |
nove731
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posted June 25, 2005 01:38 PM
I think it depends on the person. Some people who're sensitive don't bother me. Other people, who I honestly don't like very much, I can't tolerate it. You also have to take into account the frequency it happens. If it's every other thing, then it makes me feel like I can't do anything right, it annoys the crap out of me.Overall - I'd have to rate it a 6/10 for annoying. Sun - Aries
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WaterNymph
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posted June 25, 2005 01:52 PM
Az lol I love the smile - ok I’ll try not to use the forbidden words As for my Leo side, what can I say - I think a quarter of my family are Leos.
Also, maybe I was a Leo in my past life. I have Moon quintile Mercury - I’m not sure if that’s bad. Either way…my mind and emotions are two different things. My emotions make no sense so I stick with my mind. If you can imagine feeling really hot and cold at the same time - that’s what it’s like to be me  When I try to understand my feeling. *edited to add
I even started a thread about it once when it became too much.
Fingers crossed I’ll grow out of it in twenty years - I’m a fish, I’m patient. Nove, that’s true. If I care about someone, I’ll let them get away with almost anything. But I guess too much of anything will drive me crazy. IP: Logged |
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posted June 25, 2005 01:53 PM
On a scale of 1 to 10, I give it a 7. I love it when people can be in touch with their emotions, and not totally lock them inside. I don't mind occasional crying either, but I like people who can suck it up, and not let every thing get to them. Let it roll off their backs.Virgo Sun, Leo Moon, Aqua Asc. IP: Logged |
Neptune's Muse
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posted June 25, 2005 02:00 PM
Doesn't annoy me one bit! I actually find it a lot easier to deal with sensitive people, they tend to watch what they say and do around you, as opposed to insensitive ones who usually do not see where you are coming from to begin with. There is an unspoken code of "mutual sensitivty awareness" that is respected between sensitive souls, and they tend to honor it! So I guess at the end of the day, it depends on your own sensitivity(?)But I hate to be seen crying at the movies or during emotional moments or whatever. I would rather be hyper-sensitive alone. Gemini Sun/Taurus Moon/Cancer Rising IP: Logged |
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posted June 25, 2005 08:09 PM
Most of the time, no ~ it depends on my own mood. I can be overly-sensitive and whiny myself, or compassionate/empathic ~ weepy can be added to the list. I remember seeing "The Fox and the Hound," and then "ET," both when I was seven years old, and just sobbing at the sad or sweet moments in both. I still can't watch the end of ET (attention is also directed elsewhere when he gets sick). If you've seen the disney movie, then you'll probably know the part where I burst into tears; for anyone who didn't see it, the movie is the usual thing of the fox and the hound being friends as youngsters, only to grow apart as they grow up. As an adult, the hound ends up hunting the fox and his mate, only recognizing him as he corners the fox in a lake (from what I remember, the hunter chased the two foxes out of their hole with fire). The hunter has his gun pointed at the fox, and the dog ends up putting himself between the two, until the hunter puts the gun down. I know it sounds sappy, but at the time I thought, "Oh, that is so sweet!!!". It's actually making me a bit teary now, LOL. When I whine too much, I can get on my own nerves.  I try to avoid people when I'm in a mood like that; I don't always manage it though. Angela By the way, I'm an Aries/Gem/Scorp, with Mars in Pisces. IP: Logged |
SecretGardenAgain
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posted June 25, 2005 08:22 PM
yes im super sensitive ! But i dont tolerate 'over sensitivity' in other people. Its not a double standard, its a Gemini thing no really lemme explain When i get hurt by something I withdraw, I dont put on a drama queen display of emotions, and I Dont strike back. Everything goes into that scorpio moon memory, which is 1000000 times more intricate and retentive than a computers memory lol. I make it a point to remember the worst things that have ever happened to me. I keep it in my list of things to change, think about, learn, analyze, whatever else. I never let go. its not a good thing beleive me although it may sound somewhat good on the surface. but i dont like to act sensitive and i dont like to show it at all. on the other hand, if i come across sensitive people who are sensitive to others as well as sensitive themselves I Feel almost protective of them, as if theyre so delicate in emotional terms that I must be careful not to hurt them. this doesnt annoy me. People who are not sensitive to others but are only so to their own emotions annoy me to no end. My mother is like this. and it drives me crazy. It almost makes me so angry as to want to tell them off REALLY good (mars in gemini anyone  ) at its best, sensitivity is reception and understanding, which creates harmony. at its worst , sensitivity is intolerance to others expression of themselves! and being a Gemini i hate it when other people try to smother my expression of self, especially when Im not being profane or malicious. in any case, being able to take a joke well, is a major plus in my book. Ive never had friends or lovers who couldnt take jokes well, and this kind of shows my philosophy in that regard... (friends and lovers are people we choose to be around, family is people we're stuck with! god's bane to be exact ) Love
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SavageScorpio
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posted June 26, 2005 05:29 PM
Sensitivity can be annoying if it's prolonged ya know? Everyone goes through bouts of sensitivity given circumstances..what they're going through, etc. I'm not SUPER sensitive, but on certian issues I am sensitive, there are things that just irk me to where I climb into a shell and kind of withdrawl..in time I always get over whatever it is and move on though ya know? I knew a guy that complained non stop, and he was so insecure about his relationships with anyone, he based his whole self worth on what people thought of him, it was really sad..and I sympathized with him, but I just could not talk to him much anymore because everytime it's a constant pity party..he never gets over it, he never moves on, he never tries, it's always the same thing, and I just could not handle it. I'd rather people be sensitive than really insensitive though. Sometimes when it seems like no one is being sensitive to something that should be given some consideration, I'm prone to be more sensitive because no one else is and it's needed. I would say 5 is how I'd rate it...it really just depends on the issue at hand, my mood, the person, cirumstances, etc. IP: Logged |
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posted June 26, 2005 06:05 PM
Neptune's Muse wow!!!
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But I hate to be seen crying at the movies or during emotional moments or whatever. I would rather be hyper-sensitive alone. Gemini Sun/Taurus Moon/Cancer Rising
Same sun, moon, and rising as me! And that's exactly the same thing I do!
What is your venus in?
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Neptune's Muse
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posted June 26, 2005 06:46 PM
Venus in Taurus. You? I have a stellium in Taurus actually... IP: Logged |
leoelf
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posted June 26, 2005 07:15 PM
I LOVE SENSITIVE PEOPLE.IP: Logged |
Tranquil Poet
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posted June 26, 2005 07:35 PM
Holy crap!
I have venus in taurus also and taurus stelliums.......I think.
Wow. If one of us was a male we could get married and live a happy life!
LOL
Post your chart. I'd love to compare some more MY CHART: for Me (female)
born on 19 June 1982 local time 07:49 am
in New York, NY (US) U.T. 11:49
74w00, 40n43 sid. time 00:42:31 --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Planetary positions
planet sign degree house motion
Sun Gemini 27°52'09 12 direct
Moon Taurus 29°31'58 11 direct
Mercury Gemini 07°46'37 11 direct
Venus Taurus 22°54'09 11 direct
Mars Libra 08°19'27 03 direct
Jupiter Scorpio 00°32'22 04 retrograde
Saturn Libra 15°29'54 04 stationary (D)
Uranus Sagittarius 01°34'37 05 retrograde
Neptune Sagittarius 25°36'24 06 retrograde
Pluto Libra 24°10'45 04 retrograde
True Node Cancer 13°22'33 12 retrograde
House positions (Placidus)
Ascendant Cancer 27°29'48
2nd House Leo 17°27'11
3rd House Virgo 11°17'51
Imum Coeli Libra 11°33'31
5th House Scorpio 18°15'37
6th House Sagittarius 25°34'35
Descendant Capricorn 27°29'48
8th House Aquarius 17°27'11
9th House Pisces 11°17'51
Medium Coeli Aries 11°33'31
11th House Taurus 18°15'37
12th House Gemini 25°34'35
Major aspects
Sun Trine Jupiter 2°40
Sun Opposition Neptune 2°16
Sun Trine Pluto 3°41
Moon Conjunction Venus 6°38
Moon Quincunx Jupiter 1°00
Moon Opposition Uranus 2°03
Moon Sextile Ascendant 2°02
Mercury Trine Mars 0°33
Venus Quincunx Neptune 2°42
Venus Quincunx Pluto 1°17
Venus Sextile Ascendant 4°36
Jupiter Sextile Neptune 4°56
Jupiter Square Ascendant 3°03
Uranus Trine Ascendant 4°05
Neptune Sextile Pluto 1°26
Neptune Quincunx Ascendant 1°53
Pluto Square Ascendant 3°19
Numbers indicate orb (deviation from the exact aspect angle).
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Neptune's Muse
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posted June 27, 2005 04:04 AM
LOL! Astrological Twins! What site did you use to get a chart like that, I only know astro.com but I don't actually know how to get one with major aspects and details like this. It only has the WHEEL chart. Smiles, IP: Logged | |
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