posted December 30, 2005 09:36 PM              

Dont' worry, I'm not dating him.

Just curious?
Cancer?

posted December 31, 2005 09:23 AM              

one

of the

12

dear
lady

he is
after
all
a
man

posted December 31, 2005 10:02 PM              

Sun Aries
Moon Capricorn
Mercury Aries
Venus Aries
Mars Taurus
Jupiter Scorpio
Saturn Taurus
Uranus Libra
Neptune Sagittarius
Pluto Virgo
True Node Pisces

Moon in Cap likes structure, so I won't scare him. He's actually nice, but nothing romantic I already laid down the law. He seems happy with that. The wife is a bartender and dating seriously, it's an interesting situation that I hope I never find myself in.

posted December 31, 2005 11:56 PM              

cancer asc
aries sun
taurus moon
aries merc
pisces venus [in tight sq 2 neptune]
cap mars

posted January 01, 2006 04:48 AM              

If it works for them lol

posted January 01, 2006 07:01 PM              

The partners were always younger, maybe Neptune in Sag is more forgiving than Neptune in Scorpio? Personally I don't put up with this for a moment because I am too conventional. When my ex and I were living together, I never let him out of the basement with my nagging, and he never left me alone either. I can't imagine dragging someone else into that.

I suppose some can play it cool, but not me! I am happier that way because everyone will know it's ending soon enough anyway.

In this one's case, he is embarassed because of his profession and situation and sees her as someone who he should never have married, so that causes him to act out of pride and fear. For that reason I could never get involved with as it's not the money that's the issue it's his judgement.

Not to mention that she is sexy and wild, and this will act as a magnet for him when she is gone. No way, it's too close for comfort, no matter what happens. Those wild partners always come back for more anyway.

For me I would say Cancer ascendant maybe, but somewhere some Aries influence.

As long as he's my friend and we can both remain so, then he's a good influence on me because of his profession, he does want to be helpful and I appreciate that. It's possible it's all about my own self restraint. Having been in this sitation once before for a very short time, I learned my lesson and know that I have to be the self control.

posted January 01, 2006 07:04 PM              

A lot of men use the "I only stay with her for the kids" line. (I think they put it in the handbook.) The truth is, if he wanted out of the relationship he'd be out. He is obviously still emotionaly entangled with his wife and they may still be sleeping together no matter what he tells you.

That he's an Aries is a red flag. He tells you he's in an "open marriage." My question is, does his wife know they're in an open marriage? Do not proceed until you hear it from her.

I know he's giving you the (well rehearsed) story about how she's cold and unloving, because it serves a dual purpose of providing him an excuse and getting him sympathy. "Oh you poor baby."

Meanwhile he gets to have his cake and eat it too.

If you want to be with a man who can't cut the ties to another woman that's your business. Just realize you'll be sharing him. Don't delude yourself. I knew another woman who did this (dated a man still living with his ex) and it ended badly.

posted January 01, 2006 07:09 PM              

I have been burned badly from several short term romances in the past few years so learned my lesson. I have self control and if I start to feel that I am weak I would rather stick neeedles in my eyeballs than get involved with another man right now-especially an Aries.

Aries to me means FRIENDS only. Then I picture the needle in the eye again, always works.

He knows I am leaving town and will give me a boost that way, like many fire men that I have left alone, it's good. For some reason as soon as it's romantic it's bad. It's a clear cut signal from God to me to keep my fire friends on the platonic side and I love my career and bringing in an income.

That's not going to change.
Oh and he's not divorced they are still married. So, it's interesting but he's not my best buddy or anything like that. I keep my options open for other cool and really single guys-even if they are put off by me, at least it's real.