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Hexxie
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posted October 27, 2006 11:51 AM
 
1scorp my Venus is also conjunct my Uranus. I think this helps us to cut our losses easier. It's kind of like Uranus lends a quicker adaptability to the sudden changes in relationships.Anyway, I hope kaira is feeling better today! "Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."
-Buddha
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`Who are you?' said the Caterpillar. This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation. Alice replied, rather shyly, `I--I hardly know, sir, just at present-- at least I know who I WAS when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then.'
~Lewis Carroll
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shirty
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posted October 27, 2006 12:01 PM
scorpluv - that post was incredibly uplifting, thank you for that. i couldn't agree more with the points you made.crankycap - i feel the same way. i have venus in scorpio conjunt pluto in scorpio but the rest of my chart doesn't agree with those placements very well. i tend to fluctuate between intense desires to be on my own to the need to be in a relationship, even if the other person is actually hurting me. the people who've betrayed me I have cut out of life, slowly but surely, but it took months, literally to really cut the rope. Half of it was them coming back to hurt me again, but playing innocent. My Sag Sun wants to trust everyone and give them another chance, but I've learned that I need to look after number one more. I'm surprised by the great responses this thread has generated.. makes me feel less insane!  keep it coming IP: Logged |
kaira
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posted October 27, 2006 12:10 PM
you guys, i am overwhelmed by how much support you've given me, in a DAY! lol. this is what i needed, so thank you very very much. i'm actually coming to terms a lil bit, about how to move on and deal with this, because it's not easy for me to get up and detach myself from him, as some of you guys are saying. i loved him intensely for a year, i would've done ANYTHING for him, and to realise that this is how he repaid literally kills me inside. one moment i'm crying, the next i'm looking optimistic and ready to find someone new (even though i know it's way way too soon), the next i'm planning ways on how to destroy this guy. emotionally, mentally, physically.you know, to be honest, i'm pretty scared to "grow" and cutting him off completely, because i'm so used to living my life with him, and there's always this lil hope in my heart, that maybe somehow it'll all be ok, and not as bad as i've thought it out to be. though that's just my fantasy speaking, i know it's over, and i don't know how to acknowledge that. like Hexxie said, i don't want to be feeding him any energy, but i want him to miss me, and put it in his thick f.cking brain that his actions have led to the end of "us". he texted me te other night, saying "hey babe, i hope you're ok, i miss you soo much, i want you to know i'm always here for you, love you". and that's when i FLIPPED. i just wanted to slap some sense into him, telling him that there is no US anymore. and i'm so scared that he'll find it easy to move on, while i'm stuck in despair for God knows how long. there's all these questions asking "what if he's already move on to the next girl?" "what if he's glad that he's gotten rid of me?". because yes, i'll admit, i was causing most arguments latey, but that was just because i KNEW something was coming, it was like a rush of panic, knowing that there's something not right. i was insecure, and not trusting him the slightest, and i kept thinking "is this wrong? why am i feeling like this? am i insecure?". and then BAM, i find out with the investigating skills Scorpio is known for, that he was with another girl for 8 months. he has Venus in Aquarius, so i know this would be very unlikely to work out. but i still imagine myself with him as if we were back together, as if nothing had happened, and i keep thinking and feeling, what am i going to do all alone? our relationship was intense yes, but he knew me so well. what to say and do, and when, he was perfect at that. i'm going to miss him so much, i honestly feel a massive chunk of me has just parted. but then these thoughts of him with another girl just slide back in, and i'm in that mode of fury and rage, that i cannot seem to get out of at the moment. but you guys have helped beyond my expectations. just to read your comments and relate to what you've said is such a great relief. thank you so much. IP: Logged |
shirty
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posted October 27, 2006 12:16 PM
kaira-
what house is Venus in for you?And wow that text from him sounds so familiar like my ex.. I can't stand that bull. Does he play innocent like that a lot?
Even if he appears to be unaffected by this and you feel as if he will get over it in a second while you will be wallowing for months, just remember, as others have said, he WILL get his in the end. Don't let him fool you with a text message like that. I know how enraging that can be. Also, when my ex tried to pull that either by text or online, I would flat out tell him that if he truly cared about me he would be standing right next me and being there. It's so easy to type a few words.. they mean nothing. I'm glad we've helped you see that this placement IS difficult but it can be worked constructively. It's helped me a lot too even though I'm not dealing with those problems right now. I was a few months ago. IP: Logged |
kaira
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posted October 27, 2006 12:43 PM
my Venus is in house 6. it conjucts Pluto, and opposes my Ascendant. and i just noticed i have 10 squares in my chart. no wonder my life is so difficult lol.yes he's the master of flattering text messages and emails. i read towards the beginning of this thread, that the impulsion to send a email venting out everything will be tempting. well i actually did send an email to him before this thread was made, and i hoped he would read if after he came back from camping, and you know what he replied? "ok... btw when we were out campin we say an arabian leopard...was soo amaaazing". and then you realise what a selfish lil f.ck he is. although, he is a Pisces, and sometimes i gather impressions that he refuses to look at the REAL picture, and decide that nothings wrong and it'll work out the way he wants it to. i've given into this so many times, because all Libras forgive, but now it's enough, and i'm going to show him that there is no me anymore, to give him any love and care. he is all alone, and i hope he stays that way. right now, i'm feeling emotionally strong because of all your comments and support. but i know i'm going to spiral back into that destructive maniac and i really don't want to. i want to let go of all of this, but there's just that feeling called LOVE that's not letting me. part of me wants him to suffer, as i've said so many times, but there's this part that wants him to be ok. cause believe it or not, he's pretty emotional himself. i tend to express my emotions verbally (mercury in Virgo), but he very much hides away from confrontations and reality (mercury in Pisces). there's this weird feeling of wanting him to be safe, which i don't know where it's coming from. i'm so confused right now, i don't know whether to anticipate seeing him, so maybe this becomes more clear, or just avoid him, so he knows i'm not taking his bullsh.t anymore. IP: Logged |
kindjali
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posted October 27, 2006 01:16 PM
1scorp, as time passes by one thing always crosses my mind.
The problem with her Venus in Scorpio was and her revenge to me, was not that I did something mean or bad to her, because she was "lossing" control over her (he is Cappy also).
Letting off control over her emotions is something she doesnt want, and that exactly happened to her. And she hated me because of that, she hated me because she startet to lose control and she had to be "equal", not dominating.
I didnt wanted to "submit" myself and thats my fault in her eyes.K. IP: Logged |
BlueEyes24
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posted October 27, 2006 01:49 PM
"he has Venus in Aquarius, so i know this would be very unlikely to work out."not necessarily! I have venus in Scorpio, like you, and my BF has his venus in Aquarius. Luckily, our venuses (is that even a word? lol) trine, so there's not much misunderstanding. Even though I have venus in Scorpio, I have it in the 11th house. What house is his Venus in? How long were you guys together if you don't mind me asking? I'm sorry that you're going through this.  IP: Logged |
1scorp
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posted October 27, 2006 01:57 PM
You may be on to something Hexxie.  kindjali: I apologize, (I understand that english probably isn't your first language... no worries, just clarifying) Are you saying that she was a Capricorn with venus in Scorpio or that her b/f was Capricorn? I've had this experience before. Believe it or not it wasn't me that was wanting control. I think equality is very important in any relationship. I won't allow myself to be dominated... nor will I dominate. Translation: No, I won't kiss your #$%
No, I don't want you to kiss
mine either.   _________________________________________
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Dulce Luna
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posted October 27, 2006 02:10 PM
I have my moon in the 8th/sextiled by pluto and I can relate to about 99.9% of what has been written here. I agree that the best revenge is shutting that liar, cheat, or manipulator out. That's what me and my sister do to anyone who screws us over (except family; that depends). Becuase they lose sleep over it and they still want to talk and chill with you after x amount of time.....while you've moved on.
I shut out a Scorpio Venus a year ago because she was a bad friend. (She's a sag) Now thanks to this thread, I know for sure that she still remembers me (I hear she talks about me to random people...didn't think it would get back to me). That's just fine with me that she's still boiling over this because karma's a biatch
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scorpluv
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posted October 27, 2006 03:54 PM
CarnkyCap... Where have you been? I've been so concerned, was hoping you'd pop up on the forum... Shoot me an email, I'd love to get a progress report on whats going on with you.... Shirty, what I said came from the heart... I could literally feel everyone's pain that has been hurt and it angers me to feel that... I could never understand why ppl are just so hesitant to show true, unconditional love? Even in myself, it is rather difficult for me to accept being loved and giving of my love freely... Imagine what the world would be like if our lives were based on real, true, unconditional, inconvenient, irresistable love? That's just one of my pipe-dreams but I'd like to think it is a possibility... I think that my ability to walk away easier than someone else is the fact that my chart is balanced w/more earth than anything else (Alot of Virgo). Some fire and air with only one other water placement besides my sun and venus sign help me to stay balanced when necessary... However, my Aries Moon makes me rather impulsive and quick to dismiss those that have wronged me... Go figure.... lol
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kindjali
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posted October 27, 2006 04:02 PM
I agree 1Scorp.
I am Cappy, and she was Cappy with Venus in Scorpion and Moon Aries. Very volatile and fatal combination.
She was dominating and I was stubborn.
Hmm, I could even stay "low", because of my moon in Piscies, but my Mars in Saggy doesn't allow that.K. IP: Logged |
misterhank
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posted October 27, 2006 08:41 PM
I don't have a Venus in Scorpio, but I have an aspect (Pluto) that goes with Venus. But I operate under the passionate realm.------------------
Hank Campbell
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*Sun: 8th House/Leo, Moon: 3rd House/Pisces, Venus: 8th House/Leo, Mars: 6th House/Cancer, ASC: Capricorn
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jani_jean
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posted October 27, 2006 10:00 PM
Anabelle !!! wow u are so much like me in the point that my eyes stare can get so distant and indifeerenet ,even my tone ..that i am seeing into think air thou someone is by myseide  ..
god shud be extar kind to such venus in scorp souls and give them the oppurtunity to find soemone as intense possesive and [assioanet as them .. it makes me want to bank my head somehwere in hopelessness each instance i am stuck with J monster
its ridiculously trivial and minute at times ...
In teh 2nd pg of 1st post, sorry i am unable to recollec the name but you have hit the nail and corrcectly quoted that
Uranus conjunt venus in scorpio gives adaptability to cut the person from our life..i happen to haev teh same placement and hypothetically speaking i wud also turn my anger twds innerself and become more indifefrent in communi, bodylanguage, stare liek he was dustbin dirt ...
GOD SAVE US ALL WHO HAVE VENUS IN SCORPIOOOOOOOOOOO phewwwwwwwwwww
Kaira hope u feeling better 
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posted October 28, 2006 05:35 PM
lucky for me my Sag has his Mars in Scorpio conjunct Pluto. So we control each other equally...If you wanna talk about equality in relationships. haha IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted November 01, 2006 04:54 AM
I'm so proud of this thread. Each and every post is amazing, you guys."He who conquers others is strong;
He who conquers himself is mighty. ~Lao Tzu"
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"Powerful men are well advised not to use violence,
For violence has a habit of returning;
Thorns and weeds grow wherever an army goes,
And lean years follow a great war.
A general is well advised
To achieve nothing more than his orders,
No matter how strong his army;
To carry out his orders
But not glory, boast or be proud;
To do what is dictated by necessity,
But not by bloodlust;
For even the fiercest force will weaken with time,
And then its violence will return, and kill it." (From the The Art of War by Sun Tzu (Wordsworth Reference) ISBN 1-85326-305-2 Written in China 2,500 years ago
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"29. Military tactics are like unto water; for water in its natural course runs away from high places and hastens downwards." - Sun-Tzu: Art of War" (Source: www.marxists.org/reference/archive/sun-tzu/works/art-of-war/ch06.htm ------------------
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kaira
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posted April 18, 2007 09:34 AM
sorry to bump this, but this aspect makes me feel like im on fire. my jealousy needs to be controlled, and my anger is explosive. once ive been damned, i feel like everything around me is slowly evaporating, and my emotions feel like theyre on overdrive. it actually quite scares me.IP: Logged |
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posted April 18, 2007 11:32 AM
hey kaira,
i dont have venus in scorp...but my sister does and so does my ex bf. i totally understand coz i saw my sis go thru something lik that.
sometime back(6 mths back arnd), she discovered an e-mail in her longtime bf's inbox(she was snooping!!!)from a 'friend' which made him look very suspect of cheating. she flew into a rage!!...and considering she is a double sagg, it was really not a pretty sight!!!..she was extremely hurt and angry.but the catch here was that he had not actually cheated on her but was at a vulnerable stage and cud have 'slipped'.in any case, she cut him out fr a month or two to teach him a lesson. now they are happily married!!oh and my ex has venus in scorp too...i was seeing him ten years back...and i still think of him...in a very positive way..it was the happiest rel i've had i think that if its possible, then you should do something to focus your energies elsewhere in your free time...maybe dancing, aerobics, some sport... love
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shirty
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posted April 18, 2007 12:59 PM
oh my.. when you said she was 'snooping' you hit a nerve on my end, lol.we always snoop and then are surprised when we find something that drives us absolutely bonkers. we set ourselves up for that rage you mentioned. we're soooo suspicious of everything, it's crazy. i'm a sag too so it's an odd combination, very intense. IP: Logged |
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posted April 19, 2007 09:20 AM
you bet its intense!!!..it can be very jarring on the nerves too if happens often...my sis is a lil calmer now but she can REALLY scream when she's upset /angry..and she is very good at giving that intense look..can be quite scary!!....i wud definately not like to be at the recieving end!!!...tho i hav been many a times! IP: Logged |
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posted April 19, 2007 09:30 AM
Another Venus in Scorpio here. When I've had enough and it's done, then it is D-O-N-E!!! That doesn't mean I've forgotten anything.
When I was younger and under the influence, I was bent on revenge. Nowadays I let go and move on unless this person still wants a confrontation. I'll avoid it as best I can, but if they back me into a corner then it's on!!
Deep down, I am with Glaucus on this subject. Let go and move on. Don't be held back and live in the past.
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posted April 19, 2007 12:01 PM
Kaira, quote:
and the problem for me is i CANT let go. I want to see him suffer somehow, the way he's made me. I want to let go, desperately, but I don't know how.
If you have too much hate inside you, kick his ass.
But be careful, sometimes hating someone is a mechanism that protects the love we have for that person...
Through hate, we continue to love the person. After destroying the person, we would feel love again.
My advice to you is: you don't deserve to be cheated on, so use your hate to move away from that person and use your energy to try to repair your self-esteem.
What that person did hurts like b*tch and that person deserves nothing but to be reduced to nothingness, no matter what your heart says. Anyway, I'm really sorry you are in such pain right now... Someone better will come along Kaira, trust me The day this story becomes a long forgotten nightmare and you feel totally happy again, be merciful and kick his ass (again?)!
Cause if you don't, karma might bring him to offend me someday and it'll be much worse for him then. PS: Wanting to destroy someone who has hurt you is not a psychotic thing to feel. It's a healthy one. And if you acted upon it, it would still not be a psychotic gesture, but a PSYCHOPATHIC one (as is any action that deliberately steps on and ignores people's feelings - of course, you are only a psychopath if it consistantly reaches a certain degree of destruction).
Psychosis is about retiring from Relation, they only harm when they feel threatened (can be very harmful though). IP: Logged |
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posted April 26, 2007 09:52 PM
Kaira, sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time. Not sure what to say that would be comforting, but I feel for you. It sux to have someone hurt your feelings, and not know how to feel better. I have Venus in Scorp with a Pisces Moon and it takes me forever to really let go of someone. There was one Aquarian whom I felt very deeply about. It didn't work out and it ws years ago, but sometimes I still remember our time. It used to annoy me that he moved on faster than I did, but I've just learned to accept that my feelings just are. This placement doesn't fit easily with my basic Sag Sun self, but I like how it challenges me to grow as a person. IP: Logged |
shirty
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posted April 26, 2007 11:19 PM
Planet,I, too, have Sun in Sag, Venus in Scorp, and Mars in Pisces!!! What's the rest of your chart like? IP: Logged |
Isis
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posted April 27, 2007 12:09 AM
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The scorp suns I've known, although not necessarily the moons, seem to easily just completely cut off someone who's wronged them without ever looking back
Scorp venus/sun/merc/neptune/jupiter here. And that's me to a T. I also don't engage in the supposed typical Scorp vengeance thang. I figure, the universe takes care of itself - karma and all. No need for me to do anything. If I just sit patiently and wait, they'll dig a hole for themselves and the universe seems to take care of the rest. (Though if I'm really pi$$ed I can get lotsa great ideas for vengeance, but I never carry them out.) IP: Logged |
yourfriendinspirit
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posted April 27, 2007 12:54 AM
Sag Sun / Scorpio Venus [R]I do not find myself jealous at all, quite the contrary.
I am all about humiliating the #$%& out of someone who's cheated on me though!
By any means necessary. The stories I could tell would blow your flippin' mind with both laughter [for originality] and fear [for psychotic-ness]. Though I am proud to say I am friends today with every man I ever dated, I am embarassed to say a few have cheated on me. These few have been subjected to a path of my Extreme Wrath.
I hold no regrets mind you, everything they got was earned... It helped me heal to react this way, yep- it worked for me!
I also know that they each learned a harsh reality not to mess with my heart.
I can honestly say 9 out of 10 that I've had relationships with, would get back together with me in a heartbeat, if I welcomed it -because of that geniunly unique love that Venus in Scorpio does have to offer.
Hmm... maybe it's the Sag sun? LOL
Sendin' love your way,
your friend in spirit
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