posted December 30, 2006 07:43 PM              

Really, it is no problem at all.

The moon has more to do with ones' emotions; how they react to emotional situations and so on and so forth... With a gemini moon one would have the tendency to 'word out' their emotions more; i.e.: being able to elaborate their emotions in conversations (gemini is ruled by mercury); 'water' moons on the otherhand tend to 'feel' out their emotions more. Of course (this is not always the case), other factors must be looked at (natal aspects in the chart).

More information on Gemini moon:

"Lunar Geminis are usually pleasant, witty, and charming people. At home and with family, however, they can be moody and irritable at times. People with Moon in Gemini are always interesting people—they have a finger in every pie, are curious to a fault, and are generally well-informed.
Nervousness and worry are common traits with this lunar position. An underlying restlessness is common, and many Lunar Geminis need more stimulation than others. They usually read a lot, talk a lot, and think a lot with this airy, mutable position of the Moon.

Their homes are often a perpetual work-in-progress. They generally dislike housework, but are big on home improvement. Re-organizing their homes in little—and sometimes big—ways seems to keep them happy, as Lunar Geminis are easily bored by both routine and constancy. Often, this is a reflection of their inner world—"the grass is always greener..." applies here. Inwardly, Lunar Geminis are often unsettled. Moon in Gemini parents are generally more adept at handling the intellectual needs of their children than emotional ones. Others' complicated emotions, in general, can be difficult for Lunar Geminis to handle.

In their families, Lunar Geminis often take on the role of organizing get-togethers. They are at their best when they have plenty of things to do beyond routine.

Moon in Gemini people almost always have a way with words. They are clever and witty, and more often than not can be found chatting with others. They are sociable and friendly, and feel comfortable in crowds. Some pay too much attention to what everyone else is doing, and lose touch with what they really want to do. Generally, Lunar Geminis have a million and one projects going. They are impressionable folk, and their imagination is boundless.

Their openness to new ideas is admirable, although decisiveness and persistence take a blow as a result. Still, versatility and adaptability are some of the stronger traits of this position of the Moon.

When irritable, these people can easily become snappy. Their moodiness is complicated—this is not the same kind of moodiness you'll find with water sign moons, for example. Usually, difficult behavior stems from inner restlessness. Lunar Geminis want to do it all, and have trouble sticking to any one project.

When problems arise, the first instinct of Moon in Gemini natives is to talk things out. Their tendency to analyze can give them the appearance of emotional detachment. In fact, Lunar Geminis may be especially comfortable talking about their feelings, but feeling their own feelings doesn't come as easily. Those that don't take time out to really emote and understand their own needs may end up baffling others. Feeling misunderstood is common for Moon in Gemini natives. The only real solution to the problem is learning to get in touch with their own feelings."

source: http://cafeastrology.com

Also,

Sun in Virgo, Moon in Gemini

"You were born with the Sun in Virgo and the Moon in Gemini. Both signs are rather intellectual, and you reflect a practical, utilitarian mind with planning and organizing abilities.

As a Virgoan, you are very subordinate and a servant of others. You pay constant attention to detail, and this makes you a very careful worker, especially in tasks requiring observation and exactitude. Through education and adaptation to environmental surroundings, your personality will become quick-witted, intelligent, and very versatile. You are one of those persons who can do any type of work that requires plenty of movement. In love matters you are rather cool but very expressive.

You must try to overcome your hesitancy and lack of continuity, dependability, and perseverance. Try not to be so critical of others."

source: http://astro.com

I don't think this has much to do with 'mending' your broken heart (that always takes time)...but you asked; so I semi-answered, heh... Hopefully, some of the other knowflakes can elaborate more on this issue.

Best of luck; plus, this thread needed a *bump* up. lol.

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'Virgo Ascendant, Libra Moon, Aries Sun'

posted December 30, 2006 08:52 PM              

I was in love with a man (another Virgo) for six years but we never got physically passionate together enough times.. my fault, I need trust and commitment and 'togetherness' and I didn't really get that from him. I guess both of us being Virgos it was a non-starter - we kept things too much on the surface.. non-commital.. both too independent.

I truly CRAVE that deeper passion that Scropios seem to find so easy, Virgos have too many things in their heads keeping them back.

I think it was Linda Goodman who said that Virgos are capable of loving from a distance, and have a pure idea of the love they want, and they'll stick to it and prefer to be alone until they find it - thats so so true of me!

And it's also true that Virgos don't forget. He was my first love, and I still actually love him. I will never forget him, but I can't go back to him. I know if I see him again all my feelings will come back and I know it will be the same for him too. It always does. But it always ends too.

posted December 30, 2006 11:06 PM              

You know, moonshine...to me that is more important. 'I love you' is just another phrase unless one means it. I rather it be genuine than someone who goes around saying 'I love you' to everyone (or immediately in a relationship)...then, it just becomes a pointless/meaningless phrase. If it's not genuine; forget it...words pale in comparison to ones' actions.

posted January 02, 2007 04:02 PM            

I haven't been around for a few days, but if you'd still like my email I'll give it to you. I don't know if the one Randall has is still open. My addy for LL is future_uncertain7@yahoo.com.

I skimmed this thread, but will go back and read again and post then.

posted January 02, 2007 05:13 PM              

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I love her so dearly that I am always more concerned about her happiness rather than my own.

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i wud say tht u shud care a little more about your happiness. i don't know your whole story. but wud just like to say that it is important to love yourself first and foremost. you virgo's are great people. but u share one thing in common with us cappy's : we don't love ourselves enough. always finding faults with ourselves, putting the other person first, putting others needs and happiness above our own. I am a venus in cappy, so i know.

but believe me, looking for love outside of yourself is a mistake. u r running after a mirage. we need to love ourselves first, before we can expect anyone else to love us. relationships should always be on an equal basis for them to survive. IT IS NOT HEALTHY FOR ONLY THE MAN OR WOMAN TO'ADAPT' OR MAKE SACRIFICES. any one person making all the sacrifices for the other, doesn't work, believe me. take it this way....how wud YOU feel if you were not allowed to say sorry when u really wanted to? wudn't u feel uncomfortable after a while? like you r not allowed to express yourself? your not allowing the other person to do things for you is sort of passive-aggressive you know. its a passive way to show that you have been hurt. and its very unhealthy. tht's my opinion. because i hv been on the receiving end of it. my guy had a venus conj neptune and was really big on making sacrifices for me. it drove me mad. whenever we fought, it was his fault. i felt stifled. like i cudn't come out with my negative emotions because he wud claim them as his own!! whenever i got angry with him i wud feel so guilt striken, bcoz he wud act like it was all his fault. i WANTED him to fight back when i was being nasty. tell me exactly who i am. tell me when i am wrong. i needed to hear the truth from him.

posted January 02, 2007 05:27 PM            

The best thing anyone can do in a relationship is BE YOURSELF!!! You don't do anyone any favors by witholding the gift of YOU.

posted January 02, 2007 05:45 PM              

two words tht u said really struck a chord....'pedestal' and 'emotional imprisonment'. thts exactly wht it felt like....it drove me mad. i had to be so careful of wht i said, how i worded my feelings...it felt like walking on tiptoe or holding your breath.

posted January 02, 2007 05:53 PM              

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The giver is always better and superior than taker, it is always better to be on giving side that way you feel grace, pride and satisfaction, the sacrifice has its charm and the feeling which sacrifice gives you is beyond expression

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And that way the other person feels horrible and feels like he/she is using you (unless of course they are actually using you and didn't love u in the first place). and has no choice left but to enter the competition to prove tht they too r 'loving' and 'giving' and 'caring'. or at least not 'inferior'.

posted January 04, 2007 03:24 AM              

but the way i look at it, i felt that 18 years is a reeeally long time. i read another post of yours, whr u asked how you will be able to do justice to anyone when your tigress rules your heart. u knw, getting interested in someone new is supposed to be the best way to get over someone. try it! i definitely don't prescribe rebound relationships, but this wud be faaaaar from it. open your heart to someone new now. let someone love you and let yourself love someone. and feel the healing effect it can have.

posted January 04, 2007 03:36 AM              

However, I remember reading a thread here at LL on soul mates on how in some way they are 'karmic' and we are sometimes meant to learn from them; not really end up with them (some last months, some last years). Anywho, it is better to have loved once than never have loved at all...to just experience love is a wonderous and powerful 'thing'.

posted January 04, 2007 09:45 PM            

Are you still here? I'm going to jump off my roof if you, a real live Virgo who is willing to finally shed some light into the enigma that is the heart of the Virgin, have gone away.

I'm a Sag... we can swap notes!

Please stop in and say hello. Would love to talk to you more.

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posted January 05, 2007 05:27 AM              

Right now, I am working in former Yugoslavia we are 1 hour ahead of England time. I visit this forum each day and almost all day I am on line on my yahoo messenger.
I like to swap notes. I am interested in nothing more than to know what is going on in my Sag… Tigress’s heart and since you are sag... maybe I can learn a lot what I want to learn so dearly…….

posted January 05, 2007 05:53 AM              

Maybe if you change yer messenger address, it will bring you luck..

Maybe you can use something like "women rock"

And then, who knows, but you might just meet a lovely warm and loving girl/woman

posted January 05, 2007 08:32 AM              

Sending all that is best in life to you

posted January 05, 2007 04:51 PM            

Let's begin our lessons, then, shall we?

What can you tell me about the Virgo love experience? For instance, my Virgo says it was at first sight for him, that he's completely fulfilled by me, etc. Yet he seems to be so unmoved by me. And when I ask him to explain this to me he acts so surprised. He says he's anything but unmoved.

*frustration!*

This is about as passionate as he gets, yet I can see that he is very much in love with me. Is it that love doesn't really matter much to the Virgo, or that they have difficulty expressing it?

posted January 06, 2007 10:46 AM            

He tried to explain that his manifestations of romantic passion revolve around providing security and stability.

Do you think this is true, but overlooked with Virgo?

I am aware that Virgo is the "sign of service," but it's difficult for those words to sink into my head. Inner dialogue goes like this:

What makes him happy? Serving. Yes, but what makes him happy?

It's not easy for me to understand someone who is so motivated by serving another's wishes. I keep trying to dig for the desires below that, but come up empty handed.

If this is the case, then Virgo happiness inherently revolves around sources outside him/herself because without anyone else there would be no one to serve.

So the question that I'm trying to get to the root of is if there were no one else around, what would Virgo want?.

My Virgo would say, "You."

posted January 06, 2007 10:50 AM            

And silly me... I did read your post, but forgot to acknowledge that. I'm pretty wrapped up in our "conversation" here so I've reverted to face to face mode and forgotten my forum ettiquette!

I certainly hear a gentleness in your words that is so prevalent throughout the Virgo population.

Gentle souls who suffer much lonliness, I'm afraid.

Please, let's continue our discussion. And if there is any light I can shed into the Sagittarius heart (or just the female heart for that matter) just say the word.