posted April 14, 2007 05:06 AM            

My husband is critical, which is tough if your too sensitive, and he has caught me off guard many times. But I know it's just the way he is, but he also has a hard time feeling that he's good enough, or isn't doing enough for me, or the marriage. Which he does.. Marriage wise he's awesome! LOL So much more romantic then I could ever be (Venus in libra) We can really sit and talk about things.. No matter how mad I may get him.. he's always willing to sit down and work on the problem. The best he possibly can. Actually fights don't last long, and we end up laughing at each other.

Space is important.. which could be why they do the long distance thing.. he has done the LDR thing as well. but I need space too.. lots of reflecting alone time..the odd thing because he is always given so much freedom he doesn't feel the need to really take the time.. Honestly he's so stuck up my butt I have to tell him to go away or I start to freak out! LOL he has interests that I don't have and I allow him full freedom to enjoy those interests..He is great with standing by me, or giving me advice.. My Virgo isn't big on the emotional talks.. I can't blame him. Patience is a big one with them.. sometimes I could just poke his eyes out.. but I'm a cancer and I'm moody LOL

posted April 14, 2007 11:24 AM              

I'm a virgo sun, merc, and mars, w/ a 5 planet stellium in the 6th house. Virgos generally cannot with overwhelming emotions. If you have ever read the attachment theory in psychology- virgos usually have the avoidant style. Why? They love to be independent, they don't think of themselves as good enough, so what better way to deal with their emotions than to have lots of space?

Also, if they like someone, they can't tell them b/c they fear to be ridiculed, for they hate anyone who takes their emotions lightly. If they're serious about something, others have to be serious as well. It just doesn't make sense to them that if there is a serious matter, someone else would take it lightly. And of course, you have to be logical or else they don't want to deal with you b/c you're being obnoxious.

However, if a Virgo has a firey moon (like moi), if I am overwhelmed with emotion, sooner or later I'm going to have to leak it out or I'm gonna go berserk. I can't take no for an answer, so I'll pursue until I think that person is mine, and then say how I feel. However, I'll drop hints here and there that I like them.

posted April 17, 2007 12:44 PM            

He still hasn't said whether he likes me or not. He just has this way of making me feel wonderful and human. I just want to squeeze him and plant on right on him, but I've refrained so far.

Last night during class, he took a seat across from me and kept making noises to himself, like he wanted to share art commentary with someone. So then, I made my own noises in regards to different critiques. We shared smiles and showed work off to each other. Then after class, he told me I looked nice. I told him I was worried that he wouldn't want to talk to me anymore, but he pretty much said that'd be silly.

I told him that he changed my life because I see in him a good looking, sane guy, who also happens to like full figured women, and that inspired me to do some soul searching. I then showed him this book called Zaftig that I bought over the vacation, about full figured art in history. His eyes lit up and we looked through it together. He then talked to me about this burlesque dancer on his friends list. Then later on at night, he posted a bulletin about a burlesque show coming up.

I want to shower him with affection but I don't want to stifle him.

I feel like his earthy/water aspects actually compliment my air/fire aspects. Like I always feel more grounded after I talk to him. Like I'm the Yang woman and he's the Yin man. Also, I believe he has Mercury in Leo, and my Mercury is in Aqua, so maybe that's a good thing. Maybe I'm speaking too soon, but I think he's a very evolved male.

posted April 19, 2007 01:37 PM              

Thanks for inviting me to this thread! I can't speak for ALL Virgo men, but I can tell you something about Virgo men...since I am VERY close to one Virgo man I know!

Virgo is all about "daily work" and "routine". There is a need to do things that are of "service" to others. However, daily work, routine, service doesn't go that well with relationships. In fact, Venus (relationships) is in fall (very challenging energy) in Virgo. So if you get involved with a person with a lot of Virgo energy, you will get a lot of energy that doesn't go that well with relationships.

A person with a lot of Virgo energy wants to set up a routine: wants to call you every day or every week or every month. If there is no routine, they are lost and will forget to call, since they are busy doing some other routine. They also want to do things FOR you and improve you (for your own good, of course ).

So they will take a look at you and decide if there is anything they can do for you. If you are "perfect" and don't need any help or assistance, they might decide you are TOO "perfect" for them. They tend to prefer the "fixer uppers"! I know, I know...none of that sounds "romantic" but that's what Virgo energy is all about: creating a daily routine of improving and developing things.

posted April 19, 2007 01:38 PM              

And the thing they are MOST concerned about improving is themselves. Because they are a mess and they know it (but won't admit it! )! "Do I look OK? Is this the right suit to wear? What if I wore this thing instead? Am I clean enough? What if I do something I regret later?" All these questions go through the Virgo's mind...and this is just in getting up in the morning! With a date there is even MORE pressure to present a "perfect" routine, with everything thought out so one event flows smoothly into the next.

No wonder some Virgo men decide to dive under the covers and never come out! But for those who DO decide to go out, they are always looking for a sign that they did the wrong thing, or offended someone, or caused some problem. And since they are SO hard on themselves, they think it is only fair if they point out at least a FEW things in the other person that ALSO needs improving...for their own good, of course! So they spend the time at the date remarking on when the food is late coming to the table, or about the problems of traffic, etc. Just a few things that, if worked on and improved could be made much better.

It helps to think of Virgo (daily work) as the sign that helps to get ready for the following sign (Libra - relationships). So Virgo energy is about getting READY to be in a relationship...without actually being in one. So relationships can feel to a person with a lot of Virgo energy as being a little bit BEYOND what they want to do. But, of course, it is VERY important that the Virgo person develop the ability to relate to others. After all, that's what all this "daily work" is getting ready for...so they might as well go out and actually DO it!

For many this constantly worrying and second-guessing is not worth it and they will give up on the relationship with these strong Virgo people. But for those who can look PAST these issues, there is a person here who really wants to please others and help improve their lives. And what's not to love about that?

Virgonically,

posted April 20, 2007 08:47 AM              

are you still seeking advice on Virgo men? If so, I'd be happy to help.

I have 6 of the 10 planets in Virgo: Sun, Moon, Venus, Mercury, Uranus & Pluto.

Four of them are in the 6th house.

Let me know

Beowulf