posted August 25, 2007 01:15 AM            

My friends have had an on-again, off-again relationship for a few years--she's a Cancer, he's a Scorpio. He says they've always had a hard time of it. They just broke up again, I think maybe for good. They seem to have a wildly different relationship than the kind Linda describes, even though he strikes me as a typical Scorp and she is a typical Cancer.

posted August 25, 2007 09:14 AM              

I think linda in love signs,,,,mentins the positive things as well as the threats ot each relationship....... which i understood to mean that any combo could be happy..nd any combo could potentially be miserable....the book just tells u..wht it is about their compatibility that makes them happy,,and what it is about their compatibility that could make them miserable

Looking at it that way...the book has generally been very accurate in its descrptions of me. ( but not always with the partner).yet my sun conjucts my moon so maybe this is what it is...

posted August 25, 2007 09:39 AM            

My grandparents are a female Scorpio sun and a Cancer sun male....and they are truely soul mates..from an objective observers standpoint. She with Alzheimers and he takes care of her day in and day out and will not even consider placing her in a nursing home...

They are in their 80's and 90's.

I think we have to take into consideration generational situations when studying synastry.

Back in the day of my grandparents, divorce, even breakups were not heard of...couples got together, courted, married and stayed together.

So when someone says "my parents, grandparents are so happy and are this sun, that sun" the individuals are usually older, hence Goodman's writings.

If one were to study the movement of Uranus thoughtout history and his affect upon generations and the individual chart, I bet there would be much knowledge there. Saturn would probably be very telling as well!

The sun sign compatibilities are not exactly the same now as 40 years ago...

posted August 25, 2007 10:10 AM            

My own close relationships (Leo/Libra and Leo/Gemini) have very closely fit Linda's descriptions in terms of the "essence" of the relationship, although there are some differences when it comes to generational stuff and specifics.

posted August 25, 2007 11:32 AM            

Like for instance, he's not like the "dark and mysterious" type they describe in the chapter and that probably reflects the fact thathe has alot of "softer" and "lighter" influences in his chart (pisces moon,libra venus, sag merc). And secondly, I'm not fragile and definitely don't cry at the drop of a hat (cap Asc, virgo moon).

posted August 25, 2007 01:27 PM            

And so I have to agree that Uranus is definitely playing a part in this somewhere. And also Neptune.

posted August 25, 2007 02:39 PM              

She liked him and he didn't like her
and then he started to like her back and she moved on and blah blaaahhhhhh.

posted August 26, 2007 10:37 AM              

I'm cancer girl and my boyfriend is a scorpio and I've never been so happy in my life! he's the perfect guy for me...

And we also have the same rising Sag., which i believe to be an excellent complement... freedom!

posted August 26, 2007 02:50 PM            

It's a sort of complicated story (and very long). I'll try to keep it brief.

The first Scorp is 4 years younger than me and so I knew from the beginning he was not ready to make the kind of commitment I wanted. I ended things with him, but really, it was over before that. He kept showing up at my house and calling and wanting to get back together (and we would) but once we were back together, he would feel like his need to focus on other aspects of his life was more important. Also, he had a problem with telling the truth He was really confused. Our relationship lasted 6 months.

The second Scorp just broke up with me this past June. He's 4 years older than me but right from the beginning I saw things that reminded me of Scorp #1. He had an inability to commit as well although his struggle was that our core values were different (ie - he's an athiest and thinks astrology is entertainment). We went through the same wretched pattern of breaking up and then getting back together. And then finally, after 6 months, we broke up for good. Still, he called, emailed, left me flowers and still puts song messages meant for me up on his My Space page about the fact that he misses me.

It's like they couldn't be with me but they couldn't not be with me either. I don't know who was more frustrated by all this (but I suspect it's still me).

I don't think this is typical Scorp behaviour per se. I wonder if it isn't just my 12th house Venus rearing it's ugly head once again. Also of note is that even though they are 8 years apart in age they share the same birthday and many of the same aspects.

Both relationships were very intense and I still love them both very much. I can see how if either one of them had wanted/been able to commit that I could have had a truly happy relationship with either one of them. If you take all the confusion out of it, the relationships were best I'd ever had...especially with the older Scorp. It seems funny to write that with everything that happened, but I was happy.

So there's really no way to look at Sun signs and predict anything but I think you can say that if the chart of a Cancer and a Scorpio match their feelings for each other then it can be a truly transcendental relationship.

posted August 26, 2007 03:40 PM            

Anywho....

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I also read somewhere in this forum that if the sun sign placements dont match up for you in the book, try the moon signs because when you are in love, you tend to act like your moon sign. so lets say if you're moon is in gemini but you're a cancer sun and his moon is in leo but he's a scorp; try the leo man-gemini woman match-up in the book.

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posted August 26, 2007 03:44 PM            

10 years ago I looked Sun to Sun, 7 years ago I looked Sun to Sun and Sun to Moon and Moon to Moon and AC to AC and AC to Sun etc... in Linda's Love Signs, and now I look at every aspect I have the time and inclination to explore. I disregard the word "Sun" for the most part and read everything as "energy". So how we act when our Venus and Mars are interacting for example. Or when my emotions are reacting with his Mars etc.

I also agree that the Sun Sign description seems right on at the very beginning of the relationship, and the AC/AC (not to be confused with AC/DC ) if you are not safe within a relationship (either because you are not there yet or you are scared or defensive or fighting etc).

Overall, it was my first astrology book and still remains "first" in "my book". You just have to grow in your use of it as your knowledge grows... which she takes into consideration since she always references/mentions the AC and "other aspects" etc that draw the novice to further education. Work of Art indeed.

posted August 26, 2007 04:59 PM            

I can only guess it's some serious karma. To hear the whole story, it's pretty unbelievable. The synchronicities and patterns are bizarre. And funnily enough, right in between those two Scorps I had a very brief 'something' with another Scorpio whose birthdate was the day before the birthdate of the other two. Plus, my best friend has the same b-day as the two Scorps.