posted October 27, 2007 05:00 PM            

I give the best relationship advice. Always have, even when I was never actually *in* one. But can I help myself? Course not.

I've always gotten involved with types who want to change or "heal" something in me or vice versa. It gets old fast.

posted October 27, 2007 05:11 PM              

"With Chiron-opposition-Uranus, Uranus shines a light - a challenge, in a sense - upon our Wounds, blockages and unresolved issues. By illuminating these, we are given the ultimate opportunity to deal with the Wounds and issues as they come to the fore.

This aspect is perhaps the most active of the Chiron/Uranus aspects barring the conjunction. The opposition causes us to run in the opposite direction to our Woundedness. In doing so, we run into Uranus, who then proceeds to show us the higher view of that from which we were running. When Uranus' Truth and its bigger Picture become too difficult to handle, challenging us beyond our current capacity, we run again, back into our Woundedness, back to Chiron. Here, due to Uranus' light shining on the Wounds, we find new material to work with, adding to our overall understanding. When what we find there again becomes too Painful, again we run, again bumping into Uranus. So it goes on, in a tic-tocking journey of Healing and evolution of consciousness.

If we are not able to deal with the Wounds and Pain that come up and we are not able to deal with the greater Truth that Uranus offers, then we are stuck in a kind of nightmare of constant running. In this case we tend to try to do anything to 'blank out'. We attempt this by using alcohol, drugs, sleep, work, music and all other types of 'escapism' to avoid the Wounds, blockages and unresolved issues. If we try this for too long, however, it will inevitably be reflected in our bodies through illness, disease and general unwellness.

This all-or-nothing kind of psychology is the very reason why Chiron-opposition-Uranus (and Chiron-opposition-Pluto) is an aspect that confers Healing ability and/or focus in our lives. We cannot avoid it; we cannot run away from it; it follows us wherever we try to go."

posted October 28, 2007 12:21 AM            

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the more energy used to aid/assist others . . . the more good karma I am earning in my cosmic bank account.

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Chiron portrays a forced savings account from our efforts. On our road of life, each of us are given pot holes from one challenging situation or another. The tendency is to blame others for these pot holes, or to blame situations for these deep challenges and scars in our life.

The Truth about Chiron is that it points to the type of qualities and the area of our life that is designated to give us the opportunity to understand selfless giving and to grow through our chosen responses to these potholes. Within these challenges, we are given the deep hole of experiencing unfair situations that we must accept, deal with, understand and ultimately bless. This is a very tall order, however, our life, our path is sprinkled with them.

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posted October 28, 2007 01:56 AM            

What a great article! I snagged that "cosmic bank account" analogy from Isabel Hickey - the first astro book I ever read. I think she used it to describe Neptune since I don't think Chiron was even discovered when the book was written.

Anyway~the article you cited really hit home for me. First, I have a close friend who at times has "visions" that always come to pass. I've known her since I was 15 and we've always been close. Several months ago she had a vision about me! This was a first, her intuitions have always been about other people, never me. Well this vision had to do with me and a man. A wonderful, handsome, nurturing guy. The man she says I will find lasting bliss with! She saw the house we were occupying, and great details about what both he and I looked like. The funny thing is she said she thought I was somewhere around 50!!! LOL She did say I looked younger than I look now (certainly a bonus). So as I read your article's that concept of the Chiron return it fit right in with my friend's vision and my sense that I will find what I need soon. Still have a handful of years before I hit 50, but that's where that trusting sense gives me peace.

One thing I have recently (since that lunar eclipse in September) begun to REALLY be conscious of is to stop giving away all I can within intimate/peronal relationships. I've always been one to give more than I get. PLUS, I do a lot of work with couples in my practice. That does not drain me however, only my personal relationships do that. My professional relationships literally energize my spirit and give my much joy.

All this validation from everyone's posts is so good for the soul! Thank you all, so very much.

Peace,
M31

posted October 29, 2007 03:52 AM            

I experienced an epiphany very recently about how Chiron's been functioning for me. I project it. It's natural for me to see the ways others are wounded, but it's unnatural for me to view myself as wounded. When people I know are hurt, I can feel such strong pain when imagining how they feel and such frustration that those things happened to them. When I'm hurt, it's just a part of life. I don't feel frustrated or angry that painful things happened to me; I think of it as a given that I'll be hurt in life and that when it happens I should just move along as if it's no big deal.

A few years ago, my SO and I were going through counseling and a lot of the pain I hadn't adequately dealt with from my childhood was brought up. I remember apologizing to him, saying it wasn't fair that he had to deal with all of that. And he responded that it's not fair that I have to deal with it. This sounds so simple, but it was a light bulb moment for me: I'm just as vulnerable to wounding as everyone else and it's just as unfortunate when it happens to me as when it happens to someone else. Here it was, my own painful experiences, and instead of owning them as mine, I could only see how it wasn't fair that he had to deal with effects of them on me!

But what I've realized recently is that by not acknowledging my own woundedness, I've overly focused on others as wounded. When others struggle and I don't, I feel guilty. I also feel responsible for helping rid people of their pain. And that's a futile goal b/c more painful events will always happen. The people I love will continue to be hurt during life and instead of feeling guilty that I can't take that away from them, I need to accept that sadness is a part of life for everyone and I can be there for them as a companion but not as some caped crusader ridding the world of pain. (I did go to a Halloween party as that last night though. )

I know this isn't a mental shift that I'll accomplish overnight. I was put in the role of counselor and healer at a very young age, and it's going to be hard to expand my perception in that regard. But I will. It's actually been a work in progress for a few years now...first I stopped seeing myself as invulnerable, now what I have to do is stop feeling responsible or guilty about the pain of loved ones.