posted December 20, 2007 06:44 PM            

I really don't think it's so much a matter of the Cap moon guy *picking* that sort of girl. That's just who he accidentally ends up with or draws in (I don't mean Paris Hilton-like.. because she doesn't have the sort of image that the gf of a Cap moon guy would usually have socially i.e. intelligent/"socially adequate" lol - unless he is over 50 and in a different phase of his life)

Phoenix,

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but they defiantly can be cruel even sadistic if you make them FEEL you are trying to control them

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Why would you make them feel you are trying to control them? What concerns me in your case is.. if the pregnancy was not planned and he wasn't consulted.. is there a reason for him to think you had a double agenda, like forgetting to take the pill whilst telling him you were still on it?
If he believes something along these lines - even if his beliefs are completely unfounded - that is probably why he is being stubborn and cold towards you and the child.
He will get over it either way, because having both his Sun and Moon in Capricorn - there is a strong sense of responsibility there, so I doubt that he will carry this on for long.

posted December 21, 2007 04:09 AM            

I agree with Coral that Paris Hilton is not the dream girl for a typical Cappy Moon male. Far from it. My SO despises her, and he doesn't usually care much one way or the other about celebrities.

But I guess you weren't using Hilton as code for obnoxious skank , but instead as code for glamorous, alpha type of girl? Rather than a more shy type? For a serious relationship, I think Cap Moon guys prefer strong women with minds of their own, someone who they're not ashamed to be seen with b/c she's ditzy or crude.

posted December 21, 2007 04:12 AM            

I think his anger stems from two things.
First, this just isn't the way he planned on becoming a father...an encounter a year after the relationship had ended, before he is established professionally, etc. It's too soon and wasn't a deliberate choice, so he's feeling out of control. Out of control for a Cappy Moon =

Second, he may doubt your sincerity and believe you wanted to get pregnant. That what was an accident to him, was actually a plan to you. So he's feeling deceived, betrayed, and used.

He'll likely be able to cope with the first, eventually. Once he develops a plan for handling fatherhood and incorporating a child in his life, he'll probably become more like the man you used to know.

The second, if true, he'll likely never get over, and if not true, I'd be shocked if he doesn't suspect as being true. Once he gets over the idea of this real or imagined deception, he'll stop being such a creep.

Coral - It made me laugh when you wrote that you're with a Sag guy "atm"...such Cappy Moon realism and respect for the power of time to change things.

I'd say his Cap Mars is even more close to what I have than if he had a Cap Venus, b/c of the different ways Mars and Venus are said to operate for males & females. So he must be wonderful.

posted December 21, 2007 08:18 AM            

i think in the long run, i'm attracted to people that have that knack for being "deep".
if they're beautiful to boot...then i'm helpless. i must at least investigate!

as far as physical goes... a splash of the feminine, a pinch of youth and good dose of that "mystery" factor. i really do love faces.

i like quirk. i like off-beat.
really..
a lot!

posted December 21, 2007 01:37 PM              

I don't know whether anyone see's it this way, but obviously I would not have put myself in that position if I wouldn't have been ok with the outcome. I was not on birth control and we did not use other means of protection. I am not that careless (to do that with someone I do not know and trust, or think they would be a good father )BUT I don't think it is very fair for him to see it that way because he put himself in that position too, you know? If he was not ok with the possibility of a child, I feel he is half responsible.