posted June 16, 2008 03:40 PM              

i actually developed a new theory based on these two men (the only two i know with cancer moons): that they project their animas outward and need to experience love as expressed by a female, feeling so feminine themselves, yet they wrap themselves in a shell of total masculinity to hide their sensitivities. but that is just a theory, mostly based on my dad. and if this is true of most cancer moon men, i'm guessing they probably rarely express their feelings, except ocassionally, and when feeling exceptionally vulnerable..? (my dad is an alcoholic AND a pisces, so he spewed emotions left and right; not really the greatest example of a typical cancer moon, i don't think, in that sense).

anyway, i can't get this guy outta my head. i love everything about him, his mind, the way he lives his life, and my attraction to him deepens every time i get to know more about him and realize how similar we are, it seems. i feel i can just relate innately to him. it's instinctive and it just flows.

so i guess my question is.. would a cancer moon guy ever tell you his feelings? i should also mention, he lives very far away, on the other side of the country (we share a hometown, and went to elementary school together; different grades though) and we just communicate over the internet. and, what are cancer moon guys like in general? would they flirt like crazy but have no feelings? i should mention, maybe, his venus is in capricorn, so that gives me even more reason to believe he'd conceal his feelings, most likely.

anyway, i'm torn between trying to take this deeper, and leaving him alone to do so, if he desires. but since i'm starting to suspect they hide their feelings, i don't know if that's the right move, entirely.

i should also say, he knows all my feelings (i've poured them out to him for 3 months, on and off, while still trying to remain composed and objective), and he's never replied to any of them specifically, but as i said, the flirtations have taken on a bit more of an intimate tone, and every time i've told him i was gonna stop pouring my heart out to him, he tells me it "turns him on" and to not stress, and to keep writing him when i feel like it.

posted June 16, 2008 04:21 PM              

mamamia, that sounds lovely!! i think he's a cancer rising too. in your experience, was he very shy about expressing feelings?

amowls, i dated a cancer rising and he wasn't like that.. he was actually kind of an attention ***** and wanted everyone to want him. it was kind of annoying! wasn't particularily masculine at all!

posted June 16, 2008 04:31 PM            

Being emotional or showing one's vulnerabilities is considered feminine by most people, but because I am who I am, I see it differently. I see strength in transparency because it is honestly easier to be proud than to be honest. Since women are allowed to be feminine by society, I can't really offer that much into the male perspective because an emotional male gets more cr@p from the world than an emotional woman.

posted June 16, 2008 04:38 PM            

Nope never been shy, been knowing him since we were juniors in highschool. But I have noticed that he holds back when he is uncertain and does not want his feelings hurt..But this guy is a Virgo and he is a mixture of Virgo,Cancer and Libra..And Heartcakes the really funnthing is his moon is in the 1st house as well. He can be very Cancerian, but his SUn in Virgo stands out too..Mother the hell out of him and bake him sweets and he will love you til death..LOL!!!

posted June 16, 2008 04:42 PM            

Well, personally, I am not fickle with my feelings. My feelings are NOT fleeting. So, monogamy is my lifestyle of choice. I am too sensitive to be flighty.

posted June 16, 2008 05:02 PM              

so do you mean like, cuz your emotions run so deep you don't want to freak someone out by showing them all at once kind of thing?

mamamia, thanks for the advice and insight.. hmm, so it's either that, or he just doesn't want to lead me on.

posted June 16, 2008 05:07 PM            

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so do you mean like, cuz your emotions run so deep you don't want to freak someone out by showing them all at once kind of thing?

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yes.

I found this: http://www.nodeorama.com/viewtopic.php?id=3877

posted June 18, 2008 04:48 PM              

fortunately i think my taurus moon has the patience and perseverence to see this through and comfort, reassure him, as needed. but i still think it could take quite a while until anything comes of it, if ever. i also have moon in the last degree of my 4th house, so i think i GET this energy myself. i am actually quite similar, but my taurus moon is more courageous and just sorta present, so i think i'm a little less vulnerable, OR just am better at giving emotional support, etc, to conceal the vulnerabilities i feel.

posted June 18, 2008 06:28 PM              

Does it freak you guys out? Does it turn you on, lol?

posted June 19, 2008 10:03 AM            

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okay so i have a crush on a guy with a cancer moon. (my other crush is a cappy moon!)

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well aren't you lucky?

posted June 19, 2008 10:27 AM              

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What about vice versa, Cancer Moons? What about like when some one else opens up to you, or comes on really strong to you with their emotions? I mean, we're talking here about Cancer Moons being NEEDY, but what happens when they are met with somebody who NEEDS them?
Does it freak you guys out? Does it turn you on, lol?

Maybe you should just spill your guts and get it out there. If Cancer's are so thrilled by dependency then you'll make him fall instantly.

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Hm , I'm not needy at all. I'm a sagittarius though with venus in aqua, so I'm very independant and have no problem with being detatched.
I've had someone come to me like that, but I didn't have feelings for them so I told them UPFRONT to just stick to being best friends. Like someone said, us cancer moons don't like to lead people on .... it's just wrong. We'll be upfront and honest with you about this.
I don't exactly like being showered with love 24/7 either...agh.
I think there is a difference when a cancer moon likes someone , and being in a relationship. When we like someone, before we enter a relationship we need REASSURANCE. It's nice to know someone needs me as long as they're not all gushy about it, I like my partner to be independant like me aswell.
Once you have our trust, and we're in a relationship we'll shower you with our love. Really, no more games after you have all of us (yes, we can be quite manipulative.... one minute show you all of our attention , the next act like you're not even there.)

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haha, yeah i wonder about that too!
well i've already spilled my guts and he still seems to like it and subtley encourages me to continue.. so yeah i think they do like it. question is, would he use my feelings just to make himself feel better, or would he only do so if he had some feelings going on too? like is there some emotional integrity inherent in this moon placement, or is it just emotional gobbliness?

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If he's encouraging you to continue then he's not playing around. Like I said, we're not like that at all to lead someone on.

Also I'd like to mention, WE TAKE FOREVER TO MAKE A DECISION! Especially important ones involving love. You see, I think more with my emotions then my head... we're the kinda 'listen to your heart' people. So don't be discouraged if things are going slow, it's just a really hard thing for us to open up to someone. He just needs more and more reasurrance and secuirity, so keep doing what you're doing.
HOWEVER... from personal experience, I love a good catch. Try playing a little innocent hard to get and his interest might grow. At least that's how it is with me, just don't do it in a rude way since we're really hurt by the slightest form of rejection.

posted June 19, 2008 12:59 PM            

Wow! You and this Aqua boy must have your b-days very near mine... Especially him. I have a Cappy Venus (10th) and all those same Aqua planets... I find this thread totally interesting because I feel as though it's more Aqua influenced what is going on between the two of you than anything else.

I know I am a flirt. I have been told this many times, and used to deny it, claiming that I just like to talk to people. I do, I like to talk to absolutely anybody that piques my interest. I get little fascinations and flirt and have banter with people all the time. HOWEVER, it really is innocent, and when the shoot hits the fan, I generally don't really have my heart in it. I just enjoy the fascination and learing process of new people. I know I have had the tendency in the past to not understand this about myself, and honestly believe there may be something more than just the flirting, only to end up having lead the other person on.

I can't comment on his Cancer moon, (mine is in Leo, and don't we just love attention and praise... flattery and all that) that may lead him to be much more sincere in his motivations with you.

I agree with what everyone is saying, he may just not be saying anything because he doesn't want to lead you on, but you really should get to the bottom of it. I'm sure if you point-blank asked him, he wouldn't lie to you. And if you are unsure if he is being upfront about his feelings, I would say the friendship route is the way to go. You don't want to get tangled up with a wishy washy flirt... trust me.

Good luck, chica!

And remember, this could just be a passing Uranian flight of fancy that you could be over in a week...

posted June 19, 2008 01:50 PM              

coral!! where've you been all these months? nice to see you again! yeah my parents are cancer and cap moon, and they're like night and day.. haha.

hmmm.. wow! so it seems none of the cancer moons here would feel right about leading someone on, who had feelings for them. that is nice to know. as much as i feel my fourth house moon, i tend to agree; it would hurt my heart too much (though i dunno how much my moon actually 'counts' in the 4th, since it's one degree from my fifth.. but i DO feel more 4th than 5th, that's forsure). i suppose he could be in the "making sure" and "developing trust" stage with me. after all it's only been a few months. and we haven't seen eachother in person for probably 6 years now.