posted November 01, 2011 04:48 AM
I also have Mars in Virgo, which is modified somewhat as it is tightly conjunct Uranus (less than one degree) as well as Pluto (6 degrees) all in Virgo. These are my (ahem ... detailed) responses to some of the points raised. Neatness – NO!!! The only way I can be neat is to pretend I am some ultra-organized movie or book character . Ok – Mars is exactly quintile Neptune. If my imagination is not engaged, I just detest tidying things. However, if I manage to muster up a good enough fantasy to motivate myself, the result is perfection. Unfortunately, this does not happen with any consistency (Uranus).
Routines – NO! Uranus again, I think. I hardly ever do anything in the same order. Even in the mornings, sometimes I eat breakfast first, sometimes last, sometimes not at all, sometimes it is chocolate, sometimes it is freshly juiced fruit … etc.
Detailed sense of artistry – YES! In my case I like writing and can spend hours/days/months “perfecting” the details surrounding the character/scene or whatever before anything actually gets written. Even if it is not part of the story, in my head I MUST know the geneology, childhood and background of each character, every stick of furniture in the room and exactly what clothes they wore and what they had for breakfast before they can come to life in the story. This wastes a huge amount of time, but I love doing it anyway and can’t stop myself. I also like doing ink drawings with quirky little details which I have spent ages perfecting because the obscure and arcane symbolism delights me.
Detail orientated - YES. See above, love making lists, planning ahead. Oh how embarrassing! Just remembered this – before my first baby was born I planned a punishing schedule which covered the timing of his naps, playtime, bath schedule, meals (including recipes and exactly what I was going to make when I weaned him to solids), extensive lists of equipment and toys needed, possible illnesses and solutions …argh it just went on and on… Horrible, because I couldn’t stick to it and he never slept when my plan said he should. Also at work, I keep insane spreadsheets which track every detail of every bit of information – staff/finance/stock/maintenance/capital/assets/trends/training all in one file which is constantly updated to the most anal degree and the data all converts itself onto tracking graphs etc.
Conforming - NO. Rules are more like guidelines … they have to make sense to me. (Uranus here).
Pragmatic – YES – don’t see the point of doing something unless it has a purpose that I can personally relate to ..
Strategic – YES – very.
Well groomed – NO/YES. Sometimes (not always) I forget to brush my hair and put on make up. Sometimes I find out halfway through the day my top is on inside-out. But I can’t go to sleep if I am not 100% clean, hair washed and teeth sparkling – it gives me insomnia if not done, and then I have to get up and do it anyway. When I am not being absent-minded and am concentrating, I dress quite well.
Fastidious – NO. If an ant gets in my coffee I just fish it out and drink it anyway. The only thing I don’t eat is eggs and truly disgusting things like offal, insects, reptiles etc. I don’t notice if things are a bit of a mess, but I am impressed and mostly do notice if stuff looks particularly good.
Critical – NO (to others), YES (to self). I seldom criticize others, in fact I am very tolerant. I absolutely hate BEING criticized constantly. Whine, whine, whine! It drives me crazy. I want to hit people who do this in order to make them shut up. However, I am severely self-critical. But as far as others are concerned, it is live and let live.
Cultured and refined – YES. I like to visit high-brow places – adore museums, art galleries, good quality restaurants, book launches, talks about obscure subjects, libraries, decorating exhibits, craft fairs and markets. Makes me happy, all that. I like discerning, kind, intelligent people and conversation and feel uncomfortable with people that are coarse, hyper-critical, intolerant, loud, ill-mannered or aggressive.
Modest – YES. I generally think my work is bad.
Flexible – YES. I am constantly changing and “refining” things. I HAVE schedules but I don’t really stick to them.
Workaholic – YES/NO. Yes if I’m in the mood, but my energy for this fluctuates hugely and if not in the mood I am a vegetable. My energy levels are erratic.
Procrastinator – YES.
Want to be perfect – YES, desperately. Feel upset often about “not being perfect”, sometimes I don’t do things because I feel I am not good enough yet to do them.
Analytical – YES. I analyse things to death.
Don’t like to chase (romantically) – YES. Hate that. The object of my affection must pursue me. If he doesn’t, I wilt …. unnoticed and forlorn … in the corner.
Sexually prudish – NO. Not with Mars/Uranus/Pluto.
Irritable – YES. Ok these are the things that annoy me and may cause an explosion. No. 1 – complaining and criticizing, including baiting using inflammatory needling and whining techniques; No. 2 – interrupting me relentlessly when I am busy thinking about something else/ doing something else and not going away when told to; No. 3- asking/demanding me to do something repeatedly when I already said “no”; No. 4 – being noisy or in a crowded place for too long.
Quiet and reserved – YES. Gets worse in direct correlation of number of people present. One-to-one and in small groups I am fine, at huge loud parties I have tend to have OBE’s due to fright and I become dysfunctional.
Aggressive – NO. I rarely initiate trouble or try to impose my will on others. I’m not really interested in trying to “make” people do things/ not do things or in changing them to my way of thinking. If they are aggressive to me, my first instinct is to avoid them strategically, tell dreadful lies to get them off my back or resist passively by agreeing to “whatever” and then just not doing it. I am often accused of “not giving a **** ”. If this does not work I may explode, but it is more like self-defense than aggression.
Helpful – YES. I do like to help people, when I’m in the mood.
Do I edit posts? EEEk yes!