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Topic: Scorpio "tests"
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Lucia23
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posted October 02, 2008 12:07 AM
 
I've read a lot about the different "tests" Scorpios will put friends and lovers through. Sometimes, with my Scorpio friends, I can't tell when I'm being "tested" that way or if I'm just being 8th-house-y myself and overanalyzing things.Do you think it's true that Scorps test people to see if they're trustworthy? And if so, what tests do they typically use? IP: Logged |
Scorp31
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posted October 02, 2008 12:20 AM
No doubt Scorpios test those they are considering letting into their inner circle.One of my favorites is If there is someone of the opposite sex that I'm interested in I will do the "I'm going to ignore you to see if you will send out a vibe to me first" and when I get the vibe I want, then it’s on!
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Corey D
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posted October 02, 2008 12:27 AM
As for scorp suns testing, i would have to say they do. I have scorp asc and constantly test ppl to see if they will disappoint me as i first believe they may, whether or not they will rely upon their all too human qualities i expect to find. betrayal and dishonesty, which is why i test with something small and insignificant, but enough to allow them to show their true selves.IP: Logged |
swirl-kitt
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posted October 02, 2008 12:38 AM
They are harmless tests really  Like the one stated above my post by Scorp31. I guess that's the one I use the most. And sometimes if the person is treating me in a way I don't like, showing signs of disrespect, but there are things I still like about that person, I will let them repeat their mistake for a couple of times, and so it becomes painfully obvious that whatever they are doing is hurting me- and if they won't change it, I go ok, this person doesn't really love me, so the relationship is over. Which usually shocks them I think there are only 2 people to whom my method did not apply no matter how much they upset me It was hard to figure out whether the cons or pros weighed heavier so I gave up. IP: Logged |
koiflower
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posted October 02, 2008 12:57 AM
My partner has Moon in Scorpio - yes, I know, how do I cope? She tested me by being moody, uncommunicative, accusational and negative until I said "That's it, I'm going". Then things got better the very next day, and have been great since. It was like she needed to see how much I could take. IP: Logged |
Scorp31
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posted October 02, 2008 01:00 AM
swirl-kittToo funny; I do the same thing also when, someone does something that really annoys me but I do like them. I will let them do it again then I give the look and that says “that’s not cool, please DON’T do it again or out comes the stinger baby!”
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Kick It
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posted October 02, 2008 05:07 AM
Yeah, thats a Scorpio thing to do. Pees me off to the point where I would get rid of a person for doing that to me. No second chance. Just bye bye.
One of the main reasons I dont like younger women. Older ones are not immune to it, but much wiser by then. IP: Logged |
deuxantares
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posted October 02, 2008 06:38 AM
Yes, and I don't like it because I have realized it's UNFAIR for the other person, especially when the test is unannounced and the instructions not clearly spelled out (or worse, no instructions at all). ------------------
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Astra
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posted October 02, 2008 11:22 AM
Yes, Scorpios do test you and I can usually tell when they're testing me. It's so obvious to me, but I don't care. I just behave like I normally would. If they have a problem with me, then we can end our friendship. It's that simple.Cancers, in my experience, test their lovers, friends and family on almost a daily basis. No matter how many times I prove to be loyal and honest, I still get tested. LOL. IP: Logged |
savanna20
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From: Malibu, CA
Registered: Sep 2008
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posted October 02, 2008 05:46 PM
Yes I test people and observe them too. I notice how they talk trash about their own friends and get an idea from there. Or if they're discreet-I'll trust them to a certain degree.IP: Logged |
Cedarma
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posted October 02, 2008 06:29 PM
I love this thread. Scorpios!! I have a Scorpio moon, but have been tested by my Scorpio sun so many times that when it feels familiar a phrase goes off in my head "this is a test, this is a test of the emergency broadcast system, this is only a test." It has caused more than one roe, but they can't help themselves. I try not to take it personally, because it's all about his history/baggage and fear of being hurt. Why he couldn't just say "when you do ____, it makes me feel ___ and I just have to ____ to protect myself" is beyond me. Thankfully my moon (with neptune conjunect his sun) most of the time lets me allow the test to slip by without notice.But oh those occasions where the test hits a trigger of mine, a couple days of angst begins. IP: Logged |
alvarella777
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posted October 02, 2008 06:47 PM
I'm a Scorpio-ASC and Pluto (ruler of Scorpio) is my chart ruler, cj. my MC - in fact there's Scorpio-influence all over my chart. And I must admit that "test"-idea is true.With me, it has changed over time, though. The older and wiser I got (I'm in my mid-thirties now), the more open I am about my need to "know where I stand" with people. I f I don't like something about a person I tell him or her, sooner or later. I'll bring up my concern in a calm and rather cool way, I guess - but I am darn serious about it. From that point onwards ... an internal clock is ticking ... I start to see whether this person did really understand what hurt me or irritated me and whether he or she really tries to avoid this or to find alternatives etc... If he/she hurts me another time ... and yet another ... any maybe ... even one more time ... I'm off. Without any long explanations then. I am just reminding them of what the problem was and that I don't see that they are seriously willing to change that. So - it's not really a "test" ... more like: a "deal" I am proposing the other person. I would never try to "convince" them by tears or anything. And: No constant "nagging" by me. I am just stating my emotions clearly - just once. Maybe twice. And I expect to be taken seriously by the other person. Apart from that ... I am not 100% free of "playing minor mind games" with other people myself, I must admit. But only ... when I feel threated in a way (Cancer-Sun and Cancer-Mars). Or: i I cannot respect another person, if another person is a vain "poser" in my eyes or sth like that. I guess ... I could still work on that - I mean: Leaving it! As soon as I recognize that my partner is "over" such mindgames, more mature and more clever and cool mabye - I leave that anyway.;-) I can accept real personal strength! (Only ... it is so hard to find.) IP: Logged |
enchantress299
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posted October 02, 2008 10:23 PM
Oh... Scorpio mind games are easy. Cancer mind games? Not so much... IMHO anyway. Cancers seem to change the rules on me depending on how they feel that day. Scorpios are at least consistent. Actually, I can usually see through most games or tests and so I'll act like I normally would or I'll cut through the BS and call the person on it (which I've done with quite a few Aquas as well, which is fun), OR if I'm bored and want to have some fun I'll twist it around on them. Just depends. Cancers though... I twisted that game around on one and it's backfired on me. Meh. If you can dish it out but can't take it, you probably don't want to be with me anyway. I won't begin a "test" but if I realize that someone else is trying to test me, I have no hesitations in messing with them myself. ------------------
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spunknini
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From: Sydney NSW, Australia
Registered: Mar 2008
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posted October 03, 2008 01:51 AM
Virgo asc Libra Sun Venus Scorpio.To me there is no test, there is only a bar. Surpass it & u can be my friend. Simple. IP: Logged |
Ana
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posted October 03, 2008 02:56 AM
Scorpio sun and venus over here  Testing, hell yeah!It's pretty much a device for making sure you're worth our attention and trust.And we're doing it because deep down we're just as insecure as our fellows crabs.
If they're running around in circles, stepping back and then forward, we're just testing your trust in different ways. I personally like staring at people until they give up : )).The last guy i did this to is my cancer boy who managed to stare back for 4 hours straight.I guess cancers get scorpios better. And i'm freaking jealous and this usually makes me paranoid and gets me to sting myself.I'm working on this one, hopefully i can get rid of half of it.I think jealousy and insecurity is what makes us such fearful testers.We hate being insecure and not knowing where we stand.We love to love and personally "love" is what i'm leaving for.It's all i need to feel happy - anything else is just details.Therefore the testing: "are you going to love me as i deserve it?if you can live through my tests, then most probably you are worth my time and love." This is how i'm thinking, it might not be accurate for all scorps.
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jane
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posted October 06, 2008 01:46 AM
Ugh, I despise tests! I'm not a Scorpio, but I do have my Mercury and ASC in that sign. I don't test people, but I do observe for a long time. I'm patient and let time show me who the person is. The "test" is their life, and I watch how they live it. I can relate to wanting to know if someone has feelings for me, but I don't test them to learn that. I just wait and see. In my life, I've been very close to several Scorpios, and they were more like that, too. Looking back, one may have been testing me once, but I think revenge was more his motivation. The others I've known haven't tested me. If they did, they did it very skillfully, because I sure didn't notice. And I normally do notice. Usually if I suspect someone's performing one on me, I stubbornly don't play along. I'll purposely be ambiguous. Sometimes I just straight out ask if it's a test. A few times, I've even deliberately "failed" the test just to entertain myself with their reaction. If they're not going to genuinely interact, I won't either. I know that's twisted. I can understand being self-protective and testing for that reason, but when it's intellectual tests or social tests, and the person has to pass them before they're "worthy"....oh, do I despise that. But even self-protective tests--like purposely trying to trigger jealousy--drive me crazy. Sorry to rant but this is easily one of my top pet peeves. I guess that's b/c I'm a Sag and not a Scorpio. I'd suggest that if you think you're being tested, call them out on it. If you share how whatever trait they're testing--trustworthiness, for example--is important to you as well, you'll bond over that. They'll feel reassured and respect your perception. IP: Logged |
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