posted May 26, 2003 04:13 PM            

I feel absolutely safe fishing with him. You, on the other hand wouldn't be safe in the same county he's in.

posted June 07, 2003 09:15 PM              

Right. Moving on...

But yeah, I admit that I have a habit, as an Aqua (could be the Mars in Aqua?), of breaing up with someone repeatedly...or rather, of stirring up drama, being sweet one minute and feeling cold the next. It's not done purposely on a conscious level.

posted August 04, 2003 12:48 AM              

Geminis are fickle but with Venus and Mercury in Cancer, he/she can teach you a lot about how to love. It was actually a Gemini who taught me how to truly love in a way that made sense to me. Without melodrama, with faith in the mind. He was the only lover I had who cared what happened to me physically afterwards, I felt that. I know Air signs are fickle and demanding because they like to control the space and time around you.

The Aquas I have made love to were totally cold. If you are an Aqua ask yourself, would you want to make love to someone exactly like you, honestly? Imagine making love to a boiled potato, nothing there, nothing there. It's not all about just being there. One had Venus in Cap, Mars in Aries, Moon in Libra, Jupiter in Libra, I think all those T-squares didn't help. I know he enjoyed it but not much of a giver. I had everything going on, and I'm not inexperienced, but he really just couldn't experience or express any passon whatsoever. This was after he pursued me for months. I don't appreciate the cold treatment after the "deal". And he told me I didn't respect him? I was just using him for his body? Taurus is just too physical.

Now I am demanding but I am a giver not a taker at first. But when it's been months I get tired of trying. Taurus does get along with Aqua very well, just not as lovers because the sex is just not that great for a Taurus. Taurus and Pisces too are pretty demanding that way.

Pisces are great but a little too romantic for me, but still right up in my book.

I have Merc in Gemini opposite my Mars in Sag so I can be a little rough but at least I'm honest, you know what my motivation is, good sex, I can understand an Aqua would run but I can still gripe.

posted August 04, 2003 12:57 AM              

It's possible that I am seeing this from the perspective of a career woman and some men do prefer to have the upper hand in the career game. I understand that, everyone is different.

Still, it's bizarre to expect what you can't give, and for everyone to say Aquas value intelligence in a mate. I have not seen that at all. Once I realized I was kibble and he knew it, the seduction was over. A seduction requires one person to be in the dark I think, and I am not good at being seduced. Taurus likes to seduce, and yes we are whiny we don't get what we want. Luckily I did not stay frustrated for long and that's why I recommend Libras, sorry if I am biased. On the upside that relationship caused me to commit to a Libra, and seductions were then over.

posted August 04, 2003 06:11 AM              

I've often heard (and seen) that Aquas make their own logic. At least yours criticized you! With the exception of one, the other Aqua guys I knew were too wrapped up in themselves-only their problems existed.

posted August 04, 2003 12:26 PM              

The one emotion I have trouble with is anger. It wasn't ladylike to be angry when where I was brought up so if I feel a person is pushing me just to be angry so they can say, hey that's not feminine of you, tone it down, I have to put that anger on another face. I feel manipulated. I can't even dream about being angry, when I do I always dream I am a man and I think about what HE would do. So then I come off even less feminine which is a bone of contention.

Or I talk to someone else, another man, who can help me work out what to do. That is even a bigger problem if the Aqua is insecure.

I have realized it but I can't change, I can only recognize I am angry and talk about it, I can't always talk about it at the time. I know a Virgo who does that to me, complains about his wife drawing away from it, and I have to say if you keep stuff back it will wreck the relationship. She is a Cancer and most likely angry about something. I told him he had to start confronting her. We didn't talk for a long time but they are still together.

Confrontation is okay, but it's not culturally accepted. We are taught silence is okay because if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. Or we talk to other people. It's frustrating but I have found Aquas have this problem even worse than I do. It's the same with all air signs. It was a shock to me because I didn't know men had so much trouble with their anger, we are taught as women that men can express their anger anytime they want to.

So know if I am really mad I watch boxing. It's sexy to me anyway, so you can see the compatibility problems between air and earth. It took me a while to figure that. I still get steamed about the intelligence BS though. Astrologers always go on about how cerebreal Aquas are and how basic and basically stupid Taurus is. One book I have says that Taureans big moment is giving birth, and that they are not really that bright in the usual sense???? Okay I do drive with the emergency brake on sometimes but there are plenty of scientists with sun in Taurus.

So I find that hard to swallow knowing what I know.

Sorry if I come off steamed, my little Brother is an Aqua with a big heart, but I do make sure he talks to me, and sees movies with men and women who are portrayed as somewhat intelligent so he does value his. I don't think he values his intelligence at all, not yet. Plus he is a real doormat to his friends so that gets me steamed. He's learning a lot from me about that. I love the Aquas in my life very much.

posted August 04, 2003 03:35 PM              

Of course that just leads to a rather large pressure problem which occasionally blasts up.

On the flip side, nobodies perfect and dealing with things in a constructive way is always the trick to any situation. The biggest problem occurs when one ceases to want to deal with things constructively, or when there's very little constructive left to do (IE - pluto-time )

posted August 04, 2003 03:52 PM              

Garbage In = Garbage Out

Truthfully, I myself haven't had any seriously contentious issues with Aquarians, or people with Aquarius strongly in their charts. Most are completely up front with me, and leave me with a choice to take it or leave it---But, they still want to be friends either way Not a bad exchange since they accept ALL of me anyway. Hahaha.

posted August 04, 2003 04:37 PM              

Have we met?

There are 2 sides to every issue. Please consider that before making uninformed judgements about me, someone you don't know. As you said, "do unto others as you would have other do unto you." I am not making judgements about you, simply because I do not know you nor do I care get involved in something that does not involve me. Some food for thought.

posted August 04, 2003 04:51 PM              

I have learned a great deal since then. I know that men are very emotional and do know how to express their anger in a positive constructive way. I do believe there are more mature Aquas than others. I think men are better at managing their emotions and talking about them than I am, but I just arrived at that level a few years ago. I had to relent and give up trying. It takes a while for a Taurus woman to do this and change her mindset.

It's only frustrating when one is at a different speed physically, and emotionally.

I do not think it takes that much work, if you know what your weak points are. I think it's possible to get what you need out a relationship as long as you realize you will never get everything that you want. I only wish that particular Aqua had not kept me hanging on, and instead let me go. I am not that sensitive, I can take a rejection if it's final, and now I make that clear. For some reason people think I am more sensitive than I am, I get steamed but I get over it fast. I just like the end to be quick and final, no lingering.

Do unto others, I agree but I also agree with
Go out as a Wolf dressed in Sheep's Clothing...
Nothing dishonest about protecting yourself emotionally.

N_wEvil, You are more sensitive with that Cancer Moon.

Natasha