posted April 03, 2003 04:41 PM              

We've been dating for 8 months now, and I've found this works out most of the time. The problem is that lately I am getting "mixed signals". Just as we start to get playful, he ends things abruptly, and makes me think he "actively dislikes me" as Linda describes in Love Signs. Has anyone had experience with this before? I'm not sure what parts of the chart would be helpful to look at, but here's some data if anyone has time:

Me:

Him:

posted April 03, 2003 05:50 PM              

welcome to the site and happy belated birthday.

my suggestion to you is to ask him if he notices what he is doing when you are wanting to be intimate. he might not be even aware of it. just start with awareness first.

posted April 03, 2003 06:24 PM              

i didn't see anything in his chart to indicate his . . . lack of interest.

i looked at your chart and noticed that you are extremely sensitive. mars and saturn are both retrograde and conjunct in libra, indicating a possible interpretation of sex as restraining, rather than liberating. your sun squares neptune, which gives a propensity to over-imagine and exaggerate circumstances that make you confused about your self-expression. your venus in the 7th house squares your moon and jupiter as well. you may have romantic notions that do not meet your emotional expectations and deflect it onto your partners.

i think you may need to examine how you are interpreting things and what exactly do you make certain actions men do mean to you.

posted April 03, 2003 08:36 PM            

old chum, old pal, old Water Bearer buddy of mine
my comical, blundering, lost and lonely Valentine
***********
and the other:
"The Fish Meets the Water Bearer"

We searched for each other
in the most unlikely places
among the most unlikely people

and when our paths finally crossed
it was for reasons so entangled
in our daily bread
and the usual trespasses

that we might not have noticed
except for that faint quiver of wonder
like a passing chill from the night ait

we loved

and the closest we've come to explaining why
is because it was you
and because it was I

posted April 03, 2003 09:43 PM              

Bear in mind im backwards and messed up (even for an Aqua! heehee)

Now i was with a Cancer girl for 2 years, and i had distance problems too, although it could also have something to do with my Rx Venus in cappy (lol)

posted April 04, 2003 01:11 AM              

Oh, I also have the Venus Trines book. Here's a line from "Aquarian Awakening After Sundown":

and I don't reach out for your hand anymore
sometimes I stumble, without it
but at least I've kicked the habit of clutching air

**************

posted April 04, 2003 05:33 PM              

one word comes to mind: mindf*ck

that is, go for the mind

posted April 04, 2003 11:02 PM              

I feel your pain. I have been with an Aquarius guy for the last 4 years and I knew when I was hooked. He treated me the same way....He wanted space then he followed me and showed up at clubs where he knew I would be. He loved me and wanted to be with me, then he didn't want to get married. I tried to leave him alone but it seems the more I try to get away, I feel as though I am being drawn to him like a giant magnet.

It is very confusing. I let him go months ago and do you believe he showed up at my job after two months of not seeing each other.

I wish I could give you some advice but I may need to use your post to get some for myself.

Love is a strange thing what can I say. I cannot find anyone to love as much as I love him. He is almost everything I want in a man, except for undecisive and a few other things.

Take everything is stride,

posted April 04, 2003 11:46 PM              

What is your astrolgoical sign? I was just curious. I believe some signs can handle them (Aquarius) better than others.

Can you imagine a earth sign such as Taurus, who needs stablity and security having to put up with an Aquarius? I am a little lucky though because I have a moon pisces, a venus in Gemini and a Gemini Rising. My ex-Aquariuan boyfriend has a Mars in Pisces which help us emotionally related and in other ways.

posted April 07, 2003 09:46 PM              

I must have missed your post. YOu are hilarious.

What do you mean by that?

posted April 07, 2003 10:59 PM              

Friendship is great because anything can happen. So pressure like labels and stuff can get a little claustrophobic.

Another thing about us Aquarius's is we like to be right. For me, when someone I would like to be FRIENDS with (remember this encompasses everything and anything) doesn't want to be FRIENDS with me (are you catching my drift) it annoys me that they don't see what a good time we could have together so I feel the need to prove to them that we could have a great time. Well they should just know I am right, because I know everything, LOL... Hmmm, maybe that is not anything to do with Aquarius, maybe it's just wanting to be right and being greedy

Oh and another thing that seduces me as an Aquarian is knowledge and intellectual stimulation- if I can learn from someone, I am attracted. If I can't, I am bored. No matter how hot they are, I am bored.

Good luck and go get 'em!

posted April 08, 2003 06:28 AM              

heehee

And yes, I think that being friends...close friends..can go an incredibly long way.