posted June 23, 2005 02:14 PM         

When I hear the details of what's happening, to me, it sounds like he's terribly insecure. He's trying to play some sort of game, he's got a plan to confuse you and string you along. He's trying to see if the younger, more insecure you is still in there, despite your strong exterior. Basically, HE knows you're out of his league...but is hoping YOU don't. He's wondering how much power he might be able to have over you. Whether consiously or unconsiously, this seems to be what he's doing. He knows that he's had some kind of hold over you after all these years - why else would you remember him and take the time to stop by?

I think this guy is used to having girls fall all over him and do all the work. I bet he's waiting for you to do this too. SInce you're not, he's probably not sure what to make of you. Somehow he's afraid to be vulnerable to a woman. He's got an ego that is really a coverup for being a weaker, insecure person.

I believe people can change, but I would just be cautious of wanting to "rescue" him or show him what "real love" can be. This is the type of guy that illicits that kind of affection from women.

Make him come to you when he's ready. That's the only way you'll know that you really have his heart...

posted June 24, 2005 08:15 PM         

Thinking about it over this week, I have decided not to put more effort into it up front anymore. I’ve done enough. I want him to call me, to show interest. If he is not able to, I’m not interested.

It’s not just what people are, it’s more what people do… That’s what make you love them. If he is not able to do anything, he is out of my league. I’m getting bored… I’m starting not to miss him that much… He’s not doing anything, not a doodle, since I started to put my enthusiasm into this… Not even visiting me in my dreams… Well, that’s enough for now… I’m tired of chasing him, I like to be chased, not the other way round…

He may have forgotten I’m not that poor girl, naďve and infatuated, weakly in love that I used to be… I’m a strong woman now, 10 years older and with a soul covered with scars. It’s too late for cheap games. I play hard… He may not be up to the challenge.

I’m not waiting for him. I opened the door but he has to cross the thresold.

I feel somehow neglected… Funnily enough I’m starting to miss my ex. This guy leaves me out in the cold, in silence… And I’m not suffering for him again. No way.

posted June 26, 2005 09:49 AM         

Welcome to LindaLand and thanks for your words! All encouragement is always appreciated Seriously, thank you for your compliments… I hope he reacts in time (though, with 5 retrogrades in his chart I wouldn’t expect so…).