posted May 08, 2005 11:16 PM         

Because how you act will give the impression of-

1. Its over
2. Its Not over
3. Im Undecided.

I really think you should not decide at all if either option seems too dramatic for you for if you choose option 1 or 2, it may be final.

If you like him go for it, If you dont feel like it dont.
He wont be burned twice, well not from you anyway, let alone three times.

posted May 08, 2005 11:53 PM         

true indifference from who's side....mine or his?

Im curious and wondering how ure so sure abt him being totally for it. Like i said before, he cld be playing some emotionally manipulative game.....and like i earlier pointed out, he hasnt 'SAID' anything?

Ill watch for some more clues and then ill go for it but it wld be so much better if there ws some flow of conversation. My virgo moon refuses to beleive anything unless is oral/ verbal in nature....

Thanks for the insight Monad. Its very clear and i appreciate that.Wish the guy in question was that clear too.

posted May 09, 2005 08:01 AM         

So weird.....he passed me by today and he could have greeted me right? No, he didnt. Just walked away???

What have i already hurt him 'AGAIN' when im not aware? If so then i think we r basically totally incompatible.

I need a break frm this guy.....im emotionally and mentally exhausted.

posted May 13, 2005 07:47 AM         

Well, i think i finally did break the ice....and well the result was predictable.

My closest colleague went up to him today (shes leaving the org) and asked him whether he had a problem with her or with me? (he stopped talking to her as well when he cut ties with me). He told her that he thought he was interfering too much in our business and so stopped.

When i joined them, i asked him the same. Whether he had a problem since he had totally stopped speaking to us. His version with me was, that he was busy and he really had no problems. He wasnt maintaining any eye contact at all with me. And he left in a hurry.

Havent met him after that but from my side ive tried my best!

Ide like ur opinion on this? Did i do something wrong again? Shld i have spoken to him alone? What do these vague answers mean?I did try didnt i?What do u guys think?

posted May 15, 2005 07:41 AM         

Maybe he is playing mind games, trying to get some sort of revenge on you.

I am only guessing, sarah.

posted May 15, 2005 08:06 AM         

Generally women can have whoever they want, while men often take what they can.

Be friends with him, who knows, as I said maybe one day you will love one another again.

Its really really up to you to make the move, but dont ask me what to do, Im alone still too.

Isnt life about living and having fun.
If you share an affinity with this man why do you continue to reject his company.
Painfully I will again point out that maybe he doesent want you.

Dont do anything. If you are meant to be together then it will *most likely* happen.

BUT if your intuition says so you should probably listen.

GUESS 1. he thinks its over between you and now he is playing games with you.
GUESS 2. you are playin games with him
GUESS 3. you share a unique bond which is as has always been difficult to ignore.

END it now whatever it is/ is not and start anew and see what you get.

If hes anything like me he would just enjoy your company, but have you denied him the privelige to LOVE YOU, though?

I dont know maybe he doesent like you at all.

posted May 17, 2005 12:22 AM         

and Thanks for those very clear and concise answers.I think they helped.

Iam just letting it be. If its meant to sort itself out it will or else well, maybe it really wasnt meant to be. But its going to be very tough since we r in the same place.

As for 'Mind games', he might be playing them with me. I am not. I just liked him/like him and i wasnt looking for any conclusion to this. I was being in the moment bcos thinking of any conclusions to relashionships has only got me pain in the past.

And like i posted the title of my topic, and the way u ended ur post.....maybe he dosent even like me anymore.Thats fine, my guilt feels gone ever since i went up to him. Now...its only fate.

Ill keep you guys posted if anything ever comes up. But i need u to wish me all the luck in getting over this.

Thanks once again for the help guys!

posted May 17, 2005 02:36 AM         

Wish you best of luck!!

posted May 17, 2005 09:18 PM         

all ur replies were great

posted May 19, 2005 12:04 AM         

*monad is bombarded by hugs and kisses till bruised badly*

posted May 19, 2005 03:45 AM         

i like givin those out, by the dozens

posted May 20, 2005 01:23 AM         

"prove to me you love me"

_________________________________

*faints*

id do anything fer u baybeeeeeee.

anything

anything

jes ask

posted May 20, 2005 11:50 AM         

how about initiating him going with you to a diner, movie, bookstore or something and then bring it up while looking him dead in his face (of course, have a unrelated conversation before and after) but don't try to talk to him in front of others, when you guys have stopped talking to one another and you know there is a bit of tension between the two of you. I mean, ??????.

If you are just plain curious as to why he doesn't seem as attracted to you as before and nothing else just for closure's sake (believe me, i know what that's like to have someone like you when you don't like them like that and then when they are tired of trying - move their own separate way and then you feeling like maybe i did like him a bit more than i thought but now i know and it's too late????) please let the cancer continue his healing/transition and leave it be as it is.......pass a smile and a wave when you see him, that's all. Besides, maybe he's gained more interests/hobbies since you guys last hung out. you know? btw, did you ever discuss your past relationship with cancer(the one that ended 4 months between you and cancer speaking with one another)?

anway, if it's meant to be, it'll be.