posted January 15, 2007 10:54 PM              

I just re- read what you had said about "giving him space doesn't mean he has to search for you" ---very interesting. Could you elaborate a bit more, please? I think I know what you mean and I think you may have hit a key point that I didn't quite get before.

BTW-- I spent some quality time at his house last evening just hanging out and watching tv with some affectionate exchanges between us but not overboard as his daughter was home.SO things are good

posted January 22, 2007 05:06 PM            

Your poor crab has the worst luck. That Leo needs to be fired. Or smacked! Or something!! Grrr - that level of deception, and manipulation just makes me furious. If your crab is anything like normal Cancers, he will COMPLETELY cut her out of his life though. Which I think is a very good thing for you both. *HUGS* My thoughts and prayers are with you as always. Keep the updates comming - I'm still hoping for a "Happily Ever After" ending to this story. : )

posted February 01, 2007 01:58 PM              

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posted March 29, 2007 08:42 AM            

when i think , may be its cos of the kind of depth that i felt being with her.
so i understand your and his situation .

have faith , we cancerians are all with you .
see, the way everyone well wishes you , dream lady !

posted March 31, 2007 05:25 AM              

I gave up on my cancer man - now am with a taurean! It wasn't easy but i did it.

Please guys juz make sure you aren't compromising yourself in any relationship - and also make sure you aren't missing other opportunities for happines along the way. Open your eyes, look around and i bet you happiness is right there. Why not give someone else a chance - they could very well deserve it and so do you!

Some things are hard worked, granted - but if you get to a point when you are thinking about it more than anything else in your life then you are out of balance and not doing anyone any good. You should come first! Go and have some fun - laugh ..... maybe focus on the people in your life that do care - then your situation will either end and be replaced by something better or will sort itself out

Most of all be honest with yourself - do you really want this situation? Does it make you happy - not could it, but does it?

posted June 27, 2007 07:38 PM              

thougth I would post to let you knwo I was still around have been very busy lately.
I do need soem help tho---not so much with my crab ---I need help dealing withthe Leo female that lied and interfeared. She had taken "medical leave" from the firehouse she did have surgery mind you but she lied about it several times and she was out more than 8 weeks and it has been so nice there without her and I had thought that she would use that as a way to exit gracefully and leave due to all the trouble that she caused. Well she shows up last Saturday for our company training burn and I was Scorpio furious there was just no calming me down I told a few of my close friends to keep her away form me and for her not to touch me if I needed medical care or just vitals signs they were to keep her away from me. I asked my Crab who is now the Assistant Chief later after it was all over with if he knew she was going to be there that day he said he knew she was off medical leave but didn't knwo until she showed up that she was going to be there. Well I told him that she was the last person I was expecting and the last person I needed to be there and then told him it was my problem. and that is why I need help now.

I knwo better than most that the best way to battle evil is not to give it any power turn yoru back on it ignore it. But I can't--- her very presence sends me thru the roof!!! I want her gone but that is not possible. so how do I get control of my emotions so I don't make an ass of myself in front of everybody including my crab!!! I am a master of taking the high road and being high class , but these days I find it harder and harder not to get into a royal gutter fight.
Help me help me help me be the Jedi I know I am and not let anger lead to hate and to the Darkside!!!!!!! I feel so out of control with myself.

posted June 29, 2007 02:42 PM              

That must be very hard. Just remember that you've already won. He is with you. Cancers are cautious so I'm sure your man will not be so easy to trust her after what she has done. That said, she sounds very manipulative. Just keep taking the higher ground.

Personally, I have a really hard time with Leo energy too. She has a need for attention and maybe drama. My best guess is don't talk to her unless necessary and don't feed any drama by talking about her to others. I know that the last one is hard to do because you are frustrated and need to vent, but I suspect in some odd way it will still feed her need for attention.

We are here for you to vent away. Don't let her or anyone of your work people know that she bothers you. She probably gets a charge out of that. Maybe she'll go away if she doesn't get that charge anymore, or move on to the next victim.

(((HUGS)))

posted June 29, 2007 03:19 PM            

Hmmm, this is a toughy. Well, hardcore leos usually are serious drama-seeking attentionwh*res so the best way to get them where it hurts is just to ignore them completely and don't indulge their attention seeking habits. I know its hard, but only speak to her when you have to (like for professional reasons). I think she'll eventually leave you alone after that.

I'm glad that things are going okay with you and your crab!