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Topic: Aquarius man, there must be SOMETHING good to say?
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Planet_Soul
Knowflake Posts: 797
From: The Universe
Registered: May 2005
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posted March 29, 2006 02:35 PM
 
Hey Z,
(: I believe in you, Aquas are special. It is true my relationship with one didn't work out. However, he did touch a special place in my very soul for the brief time I knew him  It didn't work out for many, many reasons (: The thing is, I am ok with this now. It took a long time to get over and see him as human and not some idealized vision. I am grateful to have taken him off the pedestal and be able to see him in a more realistic way. My illusions of him weren't due to him beign a jerk, it was due to him being my first  My fishy moon has the downer of being enamored w le amor (: If anything, it has been good for my soul to learn the lesson of not happy ever after. I am now much better at viewing things w/o rosy glasses.
Aw Sue I am sorry your hubby is feeling sad. My Cancer weeps often, but it stil makes me weep for him when he gets sad. Your lil one soudns very intutive  IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5042
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted March 29, 2006 03:43 PM
Aaaah PlanetLoved what your wrote about Aquas !! Oh my husband is fine, he just learned how to express thro tears. so its a positive thing not a negative one. He used to run away from me all the time when I cried. He has apologised for this saying how awful it mustve been for me.......and now......I can see tears in his eyes at times....its WONDERFUL...and our son can look back when he is a man and say "my dad dared to cry:....... And yes our little one is very intuitive......lots of people tell us this......  xxxx IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 4077
From: ~out looking for Schrodinger's cat~
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted March 29, 2006 04:44 PM
Hello Zohe 
You do indeed sound like a gem of a fellow!
And yes!
Many signs of men have even a deeper capacity to cruelty or whatever..than the Aquarian man.
There are always exceptions.
I am very happily married to a Cancerian. Previously a Capricorn who was like that guy in the movie "Sleeping with the Enemy".but only emotionally abuse.
And another Capricorn fiance who often beat me very badly.
Both control freaks.
Both were not monogamous..and wanted to participate in mate swappings.
I left them both. I could not live like that.
In fact it was an Aquarian who helped me gain my sense of self so I could leave them both. He was only a friend...not a lover. He is dead now. 
With my best Aquarian friend if I had not been married to my first husband...I think he and I would have become closer and possibly married. He is a good guy.
We never fought. Enjoyed each other's company. Known him for some 38 years.
As for men of other signs being cruel..,or kind..... I only mentioned my most intense relationships.
Most Aquarian fellows have never mistreated me, "unless a woman was involved" and all they could see was their lust interest, no matter how wrong those women were for them. Later when those fellows were chewed up and spit out by those women. Then they thought they could come crying back to me for pity! No way! I warned them, "if you mistake lust for love it will screw up your life". Alot of Aquarians I have known died from A,I.D.S. or a jealous lover. Or are lonely and miserable.
Or stuck in a marriage because the sex was hot but then it got boring. They cannot escape because their wives would alimony and child support them to death. The one thing an Aquarian male must learn or his life will be shot all to Hell...is to learn the difference between lust and love. Too many never learn this. Many will even throw away friendships because of lust. Soon they have no real friends who care, Only one sex partner after another or none. Or worse, a jealous lover does them in, or they catch a disease. IP: Logged |
spirited dawn
Knowflake Posts: 19
From: Somewhere over the rainbow, USA
Registered: Jul 2005
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posted March 29, 2006 06:51 PM
Yes, Zohe, you are absolutely right. There are plenty of good and not so good people in any of the signs. I agree with the last post about you seeming to be a gem of a fellow, so please don't take this thread as an opportunity to beat-up the male water bearers! Much the opposite, I was so touched by my on again off again relationship with mine, that I truly seek further understanding. I can't say anything bad about him, maybe that is why I just don't get it. For a long, long time, I held some type of place in his life, I was the person he shared things with(what little he was willing to share)to then be treated like a stranger and then to add insult to injury to suddenly just go away, like you said, it is rude no matter what gender or birthdate one might have. I value me, I was a good friend to him and my hope for him is that whatever place he finds himself, he finds he can value himself too. Small or as insignificant as they may seem, I for one can say that reading others experiences in dealing with the bumps of a relationship has given me some of the understanding I have been seeking.
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Node
Knowflake Posts: 98
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Registered: Nov 2005
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posted March 29, 2006 09:12 PM
others have said this in other ways, so I will paraphrase and add my own. Aquarians are here in your life to reflect the mirror back. Who in your life has ultimately taught you what you didn't want to know? Who has taught you more about your emotions and intellect? Needs? What the Aquarian DOESN'T offer is what stands out. Separatness,individuation, the collective as opposed to the individual. This is the Aquarian truth. We all have much to learn from the Aquarian perspective. They teach us without emotional support. They EMPOWER us. Accept, receive, and love the respect that your Aquarian gives you. The ulimate in individual and personal freedom. .....It is all very uncomfortable. But....necessaryIP: Logged |
Planet_Soul
Knowflake Posts: 797
From: The Universe
Registered: May 2005
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posted March 30, 2006 02:32 PM
Yes the Aquarian is a teacher. I greatly credit my relationship/friendship with my Aqua for showing me strength I didn't know I had. We met during a trying time in my life, with major life path decisions unfolding for me. I had been stuck in a horrible self-defeating relationship when I re-met the Aqua (we had gone to HS together). With the help of his friendship,wisdom, and quirky perspective I was able to really step out of myself and truly SEE what was going on inside of me and to me. I have the belief I would have eventually done this alone, but it is nice that it happened sooner rather than later thanks to my Aqua (:Sue, that is wonderful. Your lil one is knowing it is ok for men to cry. It makes me so sad when our boys are given the message that it is shameful/bad/unmanly to show emotion. Does you hubby feel a release now that he is sharing his tears with you? I get sad when my Cancer is sad to the point of tears but I am glad he is able to trust me enough to cry on my shoulder. I love that about him. He isn't afraid to show me his softer side IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 5042
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted March 30, 2006 02:47 PM
Oh totally Planet....I mean he feels so much better for crying...and it has brought us so much closer.....closer than we have ever been.The other day we were talking about how he couldnt be there for me when I was very upset in the past and I just looked at him and he said "oh dont look at me like that" and started to cry. Oh Wow, that was so wonderful to see. It always amazes me when people start to panic, and fear the worst. That is such an outdated way isnt it,,,,,like my mother would say "now stop crying". Or if I told her my man was crying she would say "oh dear have your been upsetting him". We are so much in touch with our feelings these days arent we? It is hard for him cos he has moon in Aqua....that is a difficult placement for getting in there and feeling....but he is doing so well... My 79 year old father came off drugs about a year ago and told me he cries most days now....cos he can feel his emotions instead of pushing them down. Its so nice to hear some positive feedback about Aqua men too. All the ones I know are lovely, and two I have know have both been extremely funny and very romantic....... xx
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