posted December 23, 2010 04:42 AM            

We have a pluto conjunct venus so I looked it up and it sounds pretty good but then I also had the pluto square venus, which was not positive. I figure I look up another conjunct, Saturn and Neptune which is supposedly a soulmate thing except it was also really negative- it said one of us died in a horrible death in a past life and the death happened because of our love. I've decided to stop looking it up after that one, haha - I mean I thought soulmates was suppose to be something good but this thing can turn it into a horror movie.

posted January 09, 2011 10:40 PM            

Sometimes there was a mutual obsession if there were other aspects to support it like sun/moon/venus. Yet most times, it seemed like I was the 'teacher'. I was different from all the other women before. Made demands on what I wanted from him which made him confront his desires. Pluto is also in my 7th house so I need an intense relationship & tend to demand more from a prospective mate.

It's interesting to see how Pluto plays out; either being the obsessed one or the object. I believe looking at the natal charts will fill in the blanks. If the pluto person aspecting your personal planets does not have pluto prevalent in their chart then it won't affect them so much. Pluto in my 7th house with it's aspects to my personal planets & the aspects to my partner (especially if Pluto aspects his chart heavily) increases the intensity.

posted November 09, 2011 10:58 PM            

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I feel you on the obsession part i am the venus in this case. but I want to know if he is as well. can a pluto person PLEASE tell us
Cancer Sun/ Pisces Moon
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posted November 11, 2011 10:35 AM            

Now, I had the sextile before, me being the Venus. And honestly he's the only man I ever really loved. As far as him having 'more' power over me because of the age difference and the fact that he's the Pluto.. well I didn't feel like that at all. Maybe because it was a sextile and our other synastry overpowered it.

posted February 05, 2012 12:19 PM            

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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
Whewwww. His venus squares my pluto, and my venus sextiles his pluto.

3 years, I can't leave it alone. I can go for awhile, but not indefinetly.

Yep to the sex thing. Yep to the obsession.

Sometimes I wish I never met this person.
Sometimes I love him so much I could just eat him up. That's the way it goes.

I'm wondering if I'll (we'll) grow out of it or not. lol.
Doubtful.

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posted February 05, 2012 12:23 PM            

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Originally posted by GypseeWind:
Whewwww. His venus squares my pluto, and my venus sextiles his pluto.

3 years, I can't leave it alone. I can go for awhile, but not indefinetly.

Yep to the sex thing. Yep to the obsession.

Sometimes I wish I never met this person.
Sometimes I love him so much I could just eat him up. That's the way it goes.

I'm wondering if I'll (we'll) grow out of it or not. lol.
Doubtful.

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posted February 27, 2013 05:30 AM            

why is it hell for u??

posted June 17, 2013 09:15 PM            

His Venus in 4th Aquarius squares my Pluto in Scorpio 8th house by 2 dg. He said this is what he hates the most about me -- my jealous rage and possessiveness, but he gave me a reason to feel that way. It's not like I did it for no apparent reason =/. My Pluto is also conjunct his ascendant.

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Originally posted by lllog:
Your Venus Square his Pluto – indicates a very strong sexual attraction between the two of you. The motivation behind the relationship is primarily based on sexual desire, not romantic feelings, therefore, sexual jealousy and possessiveness can create problems in your relationship. He will try to control and dominate you emotionally and in some cases, take financial advantage of you. You may consider him jealous, overly aggressive, sexually demanding, superficial, and self-indulgent.

What houses Venus and Pluto in, and what is the arc between them.

Lanny

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posted March 08, 2014 02:43 PM            

I have been doing a lot of soul searching and excavating since this breakup. I've sat and thought about what relationships had the most impact on me, and who those people were. Then I tried to find them or at least details about them so I can make a chart for them.
Any of the ones that are really memorable (to ME) and seemed to "stick" were Pluto themed.
I've dumped many a lovely Cancer (and that is true, I had a ton of Cancer boyfriends in high school and early adulthood) because I didn't feel the same intensity from them as they reportedly felt from me.

It's one of those things you juggle in your mind... "should I even bother, can I go through this again, why don't I just *try* another kind of relationship, oh screw it, I don't need a man, wait, I can handle this, hey this is just me, this is who I am...."

posted March 09, 2014 12:06 PM            

Whenever you have a Venus/Pluto aspect natally and you date (or marry) people in your general age range, your Venus is going to make that same aspect to everyone's Pluto (meaning everyone born within a certain amount of years before or after you). That being the case, I would say that it's a theme in your life unless you end up dating someone a fair bit older or younger
I have (Sun and) Venus square Pluto natally and I can definitely relate to most of what has been written here. What I've found after many years of experiencing it, working on it, being frustrated by it, etc. etc. is that when it comes to the internal issues of control (feeling either in control or out of control) and power (feeling that you have it or that you don't have it) it boils down to you (and me )

All the worry and the fear equates to giving your power away, if that makes sense. It means someone else's feelings, or your perceptions of their feelings, are controlling you. In essence, your fears are controlling you and have power over you. It's often not about the other person at all, they are just the trigger.

If the other person also has a Venus/Pluto aspect natally then it's an opportunity to grow for both people. In this case you are the trigger and the receiver. In my case, my first two boyfriends (#1 was for 3 years and #2 was for 6.5 years) had soft Venus/Pluto aspects. BF #1 had the sextile and BF #2 had the trine. So I learned from them what the aspect felt like when it was soft and harmonious.

All my subsequent relationships were with men who have the hard aspect >>> two men who had Venus conjunct Pluto and my last boyfriend had Venus opposite Pluto. So I've been around Pluto's block more than a few times and gotten to experience pretty much all the aspects, as well as how they felt with my own Venus. Generally speaking, I am more attracted to the hard aspect which tells me that there is healing to be done in that area of my life.

In a nutshell, working on your issues of power, control and fear to create rather than destroy is how I try to look at it. Pluto wants to destroy and deconstruct so putting those energies to work in regards to things which actually *need* to be dismantled is a healthier use for all that powerful energy. Destroying old worn-out beliefs, sexual hang-ups, romantic ideals which no longer serve you, etc. is a good way to use the powerful Venus/Pluto energy as a tool and own it instead of allowing it to own you.

This is just my experience and my opinion, but I do understand how powerful this aspect can be in a person's life and really, it's all in how you direct it.

posted March 24, 2014 01:25 AM            

I currently have this in the composite. Not nearly as bad unless he hasn't expressed it. I don't feel too jealous. Maybe a bit possessive, but that's me.