posted August 12, 2006 01:20 PM         

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I have to agree that I find Cancer men not exactly warm or cuddly either.
>>>>>Not??? I find them VERY warm & cuddly! Not just mine either.
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Usually Cancer men expect the woman to chase him, woo him, hang on his every word, never be moody herself and be open to everything he thinks and feels. When he chooses to express it.
>>>>>I have experienced much EQUAL give and take. Maybe it is because I am Scorpio?
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Money does not flow freely,
>>>>>??????When its there it flows quite well.
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and women are all around.
>>>>>So what. Unless he is getting sexual with them it does not matter.
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Forget having a male friend ever.
>>>I have mostly male friends! No problem!
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Plus there is a puritanical side to Cancer males that always makes me feel silly.
>>> weird.....
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Okay anyone know a Cancer male that ever proposed marriage?
>>>Yes....several.
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Seems I had to practically beg my Cancer male to see me and when he did he was happy that i was "his".
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They are very energetic and like children, very sweet that way. But the grudges. No kiss when expected and then no coffee in the morning. No hugs for days.
>>>Except for playful like children, the rest does not jive with my Cancerian experiences. And I am not just talking about my Cancerian beloved. That does sound alot like my Capricorn ex husband however...minus the child part...unless it is whiney spoiled brat Capricorn.

Maybe Cancerians and Taureans should not get together.

Sorry to hear your and Applelove's experiences sucked.

The only Cancerian I know who fit these negatives was the female ones. And this all sounds like the January Capricorns I have known...not Cancerian males.

posted August 12, 2006 02:33 PM         

What are your husbands placements, moon, venus, mars etc....?

posted August 27, 2006 07:27 AM         

if he does not then he can move on more quickly and hold that over your head. It's the same with any friend, you want real friendship that lasts forever.

Why settle for a crappy friend?
Hold your male love object to the same standard and he will lose his luster but it's worth it down the road.

Another idea is to imagine your ideal man and make your needs known based on what you see. Have faith in your own vision because that is what you really need.

Beware of anyone who expects your emotional engagement but is not truly emotionally involved with you first. It's a loyalty first world. When someone argues with you on this say you are looking for a true blue friend. You don't have to be rational or overthink the situation. What you need is not rational but you can have your needs met.

Natasha

posted August 27, 2006 09:01 AM         

Words of wisdom I hadn't really thought of before! I don't get cross and be mean to my friends out of frustration because if they're true friends they never frustrate me and we always give each other what we need. Other people are merely aqaintences I don't bother getting worked up over.

I need to do the same with this guy obviously, I never think of him with the same standards I have for my friends. At the moment his behaviour is not something I would tolerate from a friend.

My thought process about the whole situation has changed!

Unbeleivable! I feel so empowered!

posted August 27, 2006 09:36 AM         

I agree!!

Never settle for less....!

posted August 27, 2006 11:08 AM         

Wow...he was one of the most likeable men I ever met... a total drug addict and a brilliant musician. All the girls fell in love with him, but he wasnt able to stick with any one for long. He had lots of women coming and going, but sooner or later he tired of them. He just couldnt have sex with one woman at a time, he got bored and never found one was enough.

I am not knocking him for this, I liked him a lot, but he wouldnt be the type of guy you could trust. If I remember rightly he had his Venus in Leo.....

Lovely guy, very sensitive and very original, an unusual person....I miss him.

posted August 27, 2006 01:38 PM         

Any update?

posted August 28, 2006 01:07 PM         

My goes out to you applelove! I too, was invloved both on the intimate and friend level of a cancer male (mars, sun, venus conj in cancer in the 8th.) A very disasterous ending, (manyendings!)

I think alot of their problems arise from insecurity and a passion their souls are not ready for. Mine acted out in his ego-based behaviors due to a lack of personal strength and being concerned only for himself!