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Topic: Taurus Man/Pisces Woman
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pisceschicky
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Connecticut
Registered: May 2006
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posted May 25, 2006 06:28 AM
 
So for over a month now someone I work with and I have slowly been progressing from talking and coffee to dates...well at least he called it that last week when he found out I have feelings for him. All reactions since then have been positive I think: CD's for me...coming to talk with me more, more animated...but still he has not said a word about what I said, or whether he has feelings for me...and I am STILL not sure how he feels about me. I am ready to just hand over my heart, since I have never felt this way (at age 34, divorced) about someone. Such comfort. Peace. Ease. Attraction. He said I make him laugh...although I am really just quirky...and don't know I am being funny. We are supposed to get together this weekend, although it was a vague invite. Should I bring up my feelings or let it all play its course? I have been pretty low-key about everything...letting him come to me...encouraging him...complimenting him...backing off. Advice? IP: Logged |
13anshee
Knowflake Posts: 183
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Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 25, 2006 08:13 AM
i'm a taurus guy dating a pisces woman and i've found that i'm in your situation, it's like i give all the right indications but nothing seems to work form a low key perspective, so i was up front and it kinda sorted everything out
it's going good now, as far as i know so i think you should just tell him, it seems pretty obvious to me that he likes you, he might be a bit shy, but when i like a girl i tend to shower them with attention which it sounds like he's doing
give it a go i say ^_^IP: Logged |
pisceschicky
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Connecticut
Registered: May 2006
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posted May 25, 2006 08:25 AM
Thanks for that. He already knows how I feel, very clearly I may add. I accidentally sent him an email about him to him, when it was supposed to go to a friend. He knows 100% how I feel now. So that is why it’s weird he’s said nothing or made any moves. So I am still wondering.IP: Logged |
Peri
Knowflake Posts: 1316
From: Kyiv, Ukraine
Registered: Dec 2003
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posted May 25, 2006 08:42 AM
hey, Taurean female here  Just give him time and don't worry...Taureans don't like to be rushed into things. He needs time to think it over, to become really good friends with you first, to make sure you can be trusted. I think it is a good sign that he is slow about your relationship, it shows that he takes it seriously.
You just have to be the way you usually are and I am sure everything it is going to be just magnificent between you two!  IP: Logged |
13anshee
Knowflake Posts: 183
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Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 25, 2006 09:38 PM
haha you sent him an email?
well fate did it for you ^_^
don't stress too much, if he's serious about it, then he won't just jump into it head first, if he's taking his time, then it's just saying it's worth thinking about
everything will be fine ^_^IP: Logged |
hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 430
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted May 26, 2006 09:41 AM
Pisces girl formerly involved short term with Bull man..........All I have to say is SLOW, SLOW, SLOW.
Be patient and remember he is Earth, grounded like you would not believe, unless he has a fair degree of water in his chart, or if you have earth you can handle it. The over-groundedness did bother me from time to time as I am all over the place with alot of water and air. Good luck, can be a match made in heaven or hell! Terri 
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pisceschicky
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Connecticut
Registered: May 2006
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posted May 30, 2006 07:03 AM
Well I spent most of my weekend with him. Our parents have respective houses on an island near each other, interestingly enough. We hung out at bars and had drinks and conversation and we sat on the beach, until the wee hours, looking at stars and talking, and cuddling...his hands running down my back, hugging me...no kissing though. he came over last night and we suddenly hit a proverbial bump in the road. He's scared. His last relationship was with someone he worked with and it ended badly. We work in a large firm and never see each other. He said he's gun shy. Very. And in the same breath, he told me he can't shake this good feeling about us. I agreed. I told him straighthout - it feels right with him. He didnt say much, but you could see the wheels spinning. He wanted to know my thoughts on all this and I told him life's too short and it's rare to find someone you truly click with - but at the same time, I will respect him if this is what he wants. (all this as we sit on the couch and he's touching me, and we're so close, I feel we are melting together). He told me I didnt answer the question. I feel if he truly wants me, he is going to have to figure it out. I can't make him do it. I KNOW he is the right guy, but he has to know I am worth the risk. Of course, how can you blame someone for being leery of being burnt again?Any advice on how to proceed? He said we should just play it by ear, but I certaintly dont want to wait around forever, while he figures it out. Should I just back off a bit and let him come to me? I can't shake this feeling he is the one. Weird huh? IP: Logged |
hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 430
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted May 30, 2006 08:53 AM
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13anshee
Knowflake Posts: 183
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Registered: Mar 2006
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posted May 30, 2006 09:08 AM
"! He is bying time with you to cater to his inability and weakness where true relating on a soul level, which us Pisces women crave and need, is concerned."please don't litter someone elses mind with your emotional garbage #1, he's scared, so what, everyone lives in fear, if it's right, he'll move through it, if no, then as long as you learn to love more from the experience, how can you go wrong?
#2, the ******** about not getting over your ex, thats a load of **** , taurus guys take longer, so what? a couple of weeks frombeing burnt bad is no where NEAR enough esp. when you take into consideration how he was brought up and other stuff he's been through, basically you don't know whats going to happen, but if you truly beleave in love, you can't fail
#3 if it feels THAT good, then he's most likely feeling it too, taurus guys like to have security, if he can't control these feeling it's probably setting off major alarm bells in his head, basically he's going to have to deal with it, theres nothing you can do
#4 love is the answer, trust and patience are the children of love, nuture them and time will bring him around, of course there is no guarentee, what is meant to be will be
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hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 430
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted May 30, 2006 09:26 AM
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Peri
Knowflake Posts: 1316
From: Kyiv, Ukraine
Registered: Dec 2003
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posted May 30, 2006 02:09 PM
Just tell him what you wrote here if you have not yet. quote:
I will respect him if this is what he wants...I can't make him do it. I KNOW he is the right guy, but he has to know I am worth the risk.
You both risk your hearts equally...  IP: Logged |
MysticMelody
Knowflake Posts: 519
From:
Registered: Dec 2005
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posted May 30, 2006 03:51 PM
Why is everyone in such a big hurry?Think about it... most movies and love songs are either about the amazing romantic beginning, the painful problems in the middle of the relationship, or the tearful end. Why not enjoy every minute of the back and forth "getting to know you" beginning... why not suck up every tingle, every wistful wonder (Is he thinking of me? Will look at me? Will we connect more? Will he call?)
This is your love story... it is being written right now. Suck up every morsel and savor every tiny feeling and thought. Roll around in the reality of it like a dog in the grass. Splash in the emotion of it like a toddler in a wading pool. Spin through the palpable current of thoughts between the two of you, riding them like a leaf in the wind. Bask in the warmth of knowing and connection like a cat on a windowsill, soaking up the sun.
What are you rushing toward? If best case scenario is that you two do become comitted and last for a lifetime... then this is your last "romantic beginning." Are you really going to worry and rush it all away? ------------------
"Did you ever get the chance to dance along the light of day?" IP: Logged |
pisceschicky
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Connecticut
Registered: May 2006
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posted May 30, 2006 05:40 PM
WOW, lots of interesting responses. Well we are seeing a movie tonight. And he pretty much sought me out all day...so I decided to just enjoy it. I don't think he is playing me, or putting me in a holding pattern...clearly he has been out of a relationship for 5.5 months now, I know the whole story, and such...I think he is working things out in his head and heart. I think, well at least I am hopeful, that his heart is winning. IP: Logged |
pisceschicky
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Connecticut
Registered: May 2006
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posted June 06, 2006 06:33 PM
Well just an update...we pretty much went from a movie to all last weekend, being together. Somehow we got past the shyness and went full force. We've agreed to start dating, quietly I may add, since it is at work (big company though) and have already made love. I have to say, he is the best I have ever had and he pretty much said the same thing. It seems so natural what is happening between us - it's a little scary. But I think he is the One. So now it is just letting the Universe take its course and be open to it.IP: Logged |
Peri
Knowflake Posts: 1316
From: Kyiv, Ukraine
Registered: Dec 2003
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posted June 06, 2006 06:49 PM
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hippichick
Knowflake Posts: 430
From: The Ether
Registered: Jan 2006
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posted June 06, 2006 08:07 PM
YOU GO GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!IP: Logged |
Nihilive
Knowflake Posts: 99
From: Dearborn Heights, MI, USA
Registered: Feb 2006
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posted June 19, 2006 09:47 PM
Never had a bull before, huh?
Yeah, we are the best.
I figure I would give you some advice from another Taurean male in a relationship with a Piscean female.
We've gone through so many emotionally trying things and she has felt, at times, that she was totally unable to hold onto life anymore. She has told me time and time again that I am like the glue that holds her together. Since this last full moon we've had such a great rejuvination in our relationship and it has been amazing.
I will give you a heads up about us bulls.
1. If we seem aloof when you're talking to us as we are doing something else, don't get mad. We're listening but sometimes when we multitask everything we're trying to take in lags behind a little bit. We're slow to think sometimes too. 2. You can cry a river and we won't think any less of you. Actually, the more often my other half shows to be emotional, I actually feel very good about it. Not because she is sad, but because she has chosen to confide in me. This is one of the ultimate joys to me. 3. Sometimes we might not say an awful lot, but we always FEEL an awful lot. Just lying down together, holding hands, caressing one another is sometimes all you need and nothing more. Never feel as if our silence is a negative thing. 4. I, personally, know how I've been portrayed most of my life. A seemingly arrogant know-it-all (I only say I know things if I'm ready to present proof). This can often times get me in trouble. I've evolved to just listen and chime in neutrally when it calls for it. I have no idea why I am posting this portion, as it really offers you no advice. (Hahaha, sorry!)
Pretty much all I am saying is when it comes down to reality. You can't get more realistic than a taurus man. Others might say they will give you the world, but we'll show you the deed.
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sthenri
Moderator Posts: 4151
From: Generic New England City
Registered: May 2003
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posted June 20, 2006 06:44 AM
Well, I would of said as a Bull, don't make love with him so fast, but too late! at least it was your initiative and like you said it feels right. You have to be true to that inner voice.He seems honest enough about hesitating and when he asked you what your thoughts were on this that's a very good sign. Bulls are stubborn and when we ask your advice we are showing vulnerability in our main weakness-deciding and feeling confident in our thoughts. if we think things too much we get scared. So it's good that you are taking the lead that way, offer your opinions freely because Bulls are not scared off by smart people. Just the opposite Bull men and women crave a partner who is smarter, and confident. But remember that physical intimacy does not mean he is the one, it means you get along that way, and it's not as rare as you think. Try to hold on to him in other ways, stay connected in his thoughts, communicate and take some days to really talk and do not just touch. Stay open to what he is really saying and go "full force" into conversations he is afraid to get into. Bulls are not afraid of confrontation at all, and chances are his last girl was a bit naughty this way. Just because he got burned doesn't mean assertive is not his type. Let him know you NEED him though, as a companion no matter what happens, and he will feel natural with you, intimacy can't be the glue. I tell men all the time I need them, or to get out of my life if they can't be a constant companion, I need a best friend boyfriend and I don't care if they whine about being self sufficient that doesn't hold any water with me. Be true to what you want, Take care of yourself physically too, eat right and exercise. Natasha
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pisceschicky
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Connecticut
Registered: May 2006
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posted June 20, 2006 09:00 PM
Oh things are very very good. Besides the intimacy, we connect very well on all levels. Communicating, laughing, touching, discussing. We've been growing closer by the day - and went away together for the first time this past weekend. It brought us to a new level. I am a strong Pisces - having weathered many hard things early on.
I am not weak or vunerable, like my younger Pisces self. I pretty much have a level head about this and have been remaining calm during this. I give him space, I let him come to me and I tell him how wonderful he is. He's amazing, truly. IP: Logged |
pisceschicky
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Connecticut
Registered: May 2006
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posted June 20, 2006 09:01 PM
Oh yeah so I finally found out when he got interested in me... I was thinking it was after we had hung out awhile, etc...and for me...it was the MOMENT I met him...and he didn't know this about me...and he said it was the MOMENT he met me. Score!IP: Logged |
KarenSD
Knowflake Posts: 534
From: San Diego CA USA
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted June 22, 2006 03:58 AM
The best relationship this pisces chick ever had with a man as boyfriend was my first... a Taurus. Wonderful, though very possessive.IP: Logged |
pisceschicky
Knowflake Posts: 8
From: Connecticut
Registered: May 2006
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posted July 07, 2006 06:35 AM
so, question. We've been together for awhile now (month and a half) and we're "slowly" making our way to more and more intimacy every day...but I still sense he is cautious, careful and has a bit of a wall with me. He was badly hurt a few months ago and I have had a year from my break up to get stronger. It's frustrating for me sometimes because I am not sure where I stand, although his actions are consistent and he is touchy feely with me a lot.Do Taurus men take their time "ramping up" in regards to giving their heart? I know he is very reserved sometimes. That is the hardest part - as a Pisces, trying to read him. Very difficult. IP: Logged |
13anshee
Knowflake Posts: 183
From:
Registered: Mar 2006
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posted July 07, 2006 09:57 AM
for a taurus guy
a good relationship is like a fine winethe older the better don't rush into things, everythings fine the way they are, if he isn't ready to be as committed yet, thats fine show him respect and loyalty (two things us taurus guys adore in a girl) by waiting for him and not putting any pressure on him thats the best advice i can give you
congratulations btw, it's good to see some people finding love IP: Logged | |
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