posted June 17, 2006 06:20 AM              

I would say they like independent and strong ones, but why do they always run away once a woman takes the first step?
Is it a general thing with men, or is it arians only?

1- How should aries men be appraoched? Has it to be subtle and hinted or direct?

2- What attracts them in women (physically and mentally)?

3- If the Arian man seem very passionate about a lady and then change after a woman has made the first move.
Is it because they don't like assertive women or it's because they tend to ponder and consider the situation?

posted June 17, 2006 09:08 AM              

An astrological study was done with a couple thousand people, trying to determine which signs are single. Aries men came up on top. My guess is that this is for a lot of reasons, some of which would be that:

1. They are just independent types

and

2.

They are looking for a kind of perfection that doesn't exist.

posted June 17, 2006 09:09 AM              

Welcome to Linda-Land, DICO!

posted June 17, 2006 07:01 PM              

I don't know why really it's just that they tend to be fatherly and when that happens it kills the chemistry for me. If you are okay with a man telling you what to do then you will like Sag and Leos too, it's hidden the way they like you, but if you are assertive in the first place you won't see it.

Just trust your emotions and be giving, but take baby steps physically. Fire men are not the types to go home with you and just "hold you".

I know I've tried!

And yes Aries men love perfect women, saints, maddonas, virgins, anything but their wives who I assume they nag to death. I am very attracted to some Aries men for that reason, but in the end that need for purity is a turn off as I am ruled by Venus.

posted June 18, 2006 01:43 AM              

I hate this state of being in limbo, pending, facing indecision.

I wish I could ask him directly, but he might think that I'm brash. And it seems that hints make him run away, let alone a direct appraoch.

OK, one more question,
Do Arian males feel threatened by successful women? Maybe that he knew how successful I am that put him off?
And do they mind older women ( a couple of years I means not many)?

posted June 18, 2006 09:58 AM              

I think Aries are going through some phrase in their career or something.I think I can understand that as somehow I have gut feeling he isn't roaming someone else or avoiding me.It's just he is busy.

I have just gone busy as he has told me couple of times that sorry for being slow in communication.

I am pretty successful compared to him and matured. He knows that.Is that a problem for him ? I guess not, if he had he would have not been still taken my blunt and honest opinions. At times I do feel that

If I had any crisis I wouldn't talk about it and probably he is doing same.Ofcourse I go through where negative feelings in my head goes and says he is probably seeing someone else or those quick ***** but then I shhhh!!! that negative thought. Even if that's true well I would know.

I read in Linda's that they want women who is assertive but they shouldn't be dominating him so appreciate him. I think it's with every man.They expect you to be independent and smart.

I know I have been also feeling that I am doing all the chasing lately and I have told him that I know he is around and he cares.

What type of women would attract an Aries?

Confident, Honest, Understanding and one they can chase but I think chasing and knowing is only beginning part.After that bonding goes.

I would say they like independent and strong ones, but why do they always run away once a woman takes the first step? Is it a general thing with men, or is it arians only?

3- If the Arian man seem very passionate about a lady and then change after a woman has made the first move.
Is it because they don't like assertive women or it's because they tend to ponder and consider the situation?

I would say it's general.Men normally find it difficult to show emotions and loving feelings all the time. Men tend to get relaxed or consider it.Womens tend to worry and think negative as we crave attention all the time.

1- How should aries men be appraoched? Has it to be subtle and hinted or direct?

Subtle...

2- What attracts them in women (physically and mentally)?

I guess for Aries Men it's not only physical or mental ofcourse his chart would say more.
It's confidence in herself and relationship.Ability to understand him.Ability to be little submissive and let him be the men while you are still being capable to do your own things.

This is what I can figure out from my personal experience.

posted June 18, 2006 12:29 PM              

Yes, they do like to initiate the first moves themselves and seem to be turned off by aggressive pursuits.
It seems, they like the challenge of going for women who they may not be able to get.
But, once the very first moves are made, they like directness and honesty and aren't into game-playing. Like someone who would pretend to play "hard to get". Any pretending, manipulations or fakeness is sensed out and they would lose trust easily if they felt a woman were playing head-games with them.

Our first conversations were so refreshing, because they were so honest and real. Every move seemed so natural, and it was nice to just be together and talk because we wanted to, without worrying about how it would be perceived by each other as too much, too this or that, etc.

In the end, the woman they will choose will most probably be independant and strong in herself. Yes, there is a tendancy to idealize a woman, setting her up on an angelic pedestal. It seems its important for them to feel that she is above other women.

That's how my husband was with me. He had a terrible view from past hurtful experiences of women (including his mom)...and I was always the miraculous exception in his eyes. The woman who was more honest, more beautiful, more kind, more intelligent, etc, etc.

Of course, it's nice to be thought of this way, but can cause problems later on, if the pedestal is so fixed, that there is no room for growth or expansion.
And no room to be human.

posted June 18, 2006 01:08 PM              

But for Aries, they do like you to chase romantically but not in a demanding way. If you beg and plead and cry for attention they won't mind at all, they like it because it's real, but if you don't have something else besides womanly charms you are history. You have to be smart and offer him something, a mother to his children, a helper, something.

Aries men are hard workers and want a woman who can build a future for and with him.

Imagine some superhero and his woman, that is what you have to be, trusting and focused on him. It's a hard balancing act so I tend to focus on my Aries male friend and then leave him alone for a while because he is being stubborn and not listening and then I go back when I have more to talk about.

I can't imagine how that works in a relationship EXCEPT my Aries Grandmother and Virgo Grandfather loved each other because he ran their business and she managed the household.

This way she could be alone sometimes and be right about something all the time and he needed her and vice versa. The Business was their child and her opinions on it.

Another Aries/Libra couple I knew were very happy for 35 years and he the Aries had land, she would stay home and sew and cook, and he would roam the land, ride horses and come in simply to eat and watch tv and leave. He wasn't much company but he thought she was an Angel, and always ate her food not matter how bad it was. He wouldn't even eat gourmet food or go to weddings because he wanted her cooking only.

He was a terrible house host, and demanding, and never said two words to her in conversation so she mainly had guests over to talk. But he loved her until he was 93 and stuck around.

I guess that's the best you can hope for, good looks, charm and clean socks don't come with the package all the time.

Assertive and angry are different. If you are chasing an Aries man he loves you, if you are ****** off he's not happy. I have a very demanding job and get ****** off at work all the time and get paid for it, so now I am finally able to have relationships with fire men.

But only Sag so far, and maybe Aries as friends, maybe one day I will know more.

posted June 18, 2006 03:26 PM              

Most Aries are big flirts. Flirting is fun and giggles, we love it. It's just in our nature. We flirt with babies, check out people in the grocery store, old and young, and just for fun and kicks with an unusual person.

So when the person who's been flirting back starts to get serious about getting together . . . and we were only having fun . . . that's when we get into minor trouble sometimes.

Since I didn't know the person very well and there was no evidence of legitimate attachment, I would use those justifications to disappear. I keep it light and move on, and would feel okay intuiting that there was no serious emotional damage that the other person could experience . . . unlike what other signs are more prone to doing, like game playing, power stuff and so on.

Just thoughts.

posted June 18, 2006 06:18 PM              

He didn't like glib, he wanted "honesty" but I take that to mean real conversation, because he flirted all the time. To talk to a pretty girl who is not flirting with you, is a turn on for an Aries, I am told because this particular one thought every woman needed a man, or thought women were needy.

My response to that is men make women needy by not being man enough. of course he liked that because he could prove what a man he was
"I got money, I'm a man"

You know that kind of line.

Aries men like to feed their egos, and can't believe a woman doesn't need someone, deep down I don't think they are so self sufficient either, it's got to be an act. BUT if I ever get too close then I get snapped at because Aries men don't like to appear too vulnerable.

Personally I believe they are very emotional and easily influenced and don't like to show it.

posted June 23, 2006 01:23 PM              

they like adventure..and beauty...be quick..do everthing in light speed...be artistic...be intellectual....for my opinion they like at first cool woman..then they looking for directness..

i dont know if my aries has so many pisces he is very romantic...idealistic...but yes argumentative..(my scorpio sun like also...)

posted December 18, 2010 05:08 AM            

But these women would become *mates*.