posted October 12, 2005 01:04 AM         

He's 9 years younger than you.

He lives in another state.

He's an Aries.

You are a Cancer.

Both Cancer and Aries love their families. Both want to and do lead the family. The Aries leads through bullying and attempting to inspire through acts he considers to be acts of heroism. The Cancer leads through nurturing and emotional manipulation. Both signs are loyal and devout, and will spare nothing in defending their families.

Both signs know how to make money, and have goals with regard to money. Aries energy and drive keep them employed. Cancerians relationship skills and intellect keep them employed. With a Cancer the focus for money will always be family and security. For an Aries, the focus for money will be toys and selfishness (and by selfishness I mean that they will use the money to start a business, make a business speculation/gamble, whatever is unproven, but could conceivably work they will throw money into). You will likely want to try to control the Aries spending habits, and that will lead to tension, resentment, and possibly competition to see who's right in their thinking. God forbid you find yourself with a gloating Aries.

Both Aries and Cancer are very proud and stubborn. You both have plenty of suggestions for how the other should live, but neither of you are particularly receptive to the others thoughts.

I'm starting to think that Cardinal signs amongst one another have a difficult time just being friends. We're great at being lovers for one another, but there tends not to be a deep rapport amongst Cardinal signs for whatever reason. As I think about it now I can't think of a single great friend I've had who is also a Cardinal sign like myself. MY best friends have been Fixed or Mutable. I think a long term relationship without that real friendship is ultimately going to be impossible.

So, in summary, I believe your relationship is a matter of attraction, but not depth, and once you encounter each others true nature you're really going to have trouble.

posted October 12, 2005 04:22 PM         

Whats with the 9 years younger than her.....do you dissaprove of older women and younger men then?????

posted October 12, 2005 04:49 PM         

I'm glad it hit home for you. Right now there's a Cancer in my life who's dating an Aries, though she not-so-secretly likes me. She recently felt guilty telling me that she's started dating the Aries again, but I've told her that there's no telling whether or not they will work out, and there's also no telling whether her and I would work out (so she really shouldn't worry too much about it).

posted October 12, 2005 08:11 PM         

AG, maybe you are right about the 9 year difference thing, I didnt think it was an issue, but maybe it is. I generally date younger men, and coincidentally, I had a 2 year relationship with a Capricorn. Frankly, in many ways he was one of the best loves of my life, if not the best. It ended when he was transferred to Atlanta and it just petered out due to inactivity. But overall, I think it was an excellent relationship and had very very few problems. I would be thrilled to have another relationship with a Capricorn because of it.

But anyway, he was 7 years younger than me and it was never an issue. Maybe I am subconsciously thinking that 9 years is just pushing it a bit. I am 45 years old, after all, though I look younger and he looks older and we seem about the same age. Maybe I am worried about what will happen when age does catch up with me.

I think I should probably be with a Scorpio, for one, but I did date a Scorpio several years back and he got on my nerves after only a couple of weeks. Maybe I just like the challenge of the fire signs (my ex husband is a Leo!).