posted March 25, 2014 12:54 PM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
@LP: Sometimes the cards make more sense AFTER the showdown lol. Your own intuition is always your best friend.

I remember when my ex and I first started dating the 9 of cups kept showing itself, usually in the outcome position. A lot of readers say oh yes, great! But when I saw it for whatever reason I just went "ew." I did not care for it at all even though I knew I could have drawn a lot worse. In hindsight the cards and I were both right, that entire relationship was all about my ex getting his fill. He was extremely selfish and I just kept giving and giving.

Another time, my ex and I had just had our first fight and I was worried, cards indicated that things would be patched up rather quickly (they were) but for the outcome I got 10 of Pents, 8 of Cups, Knight of Swords. There could be so many interpretations for this but my first thought was "he's going to end things and then try to come back" (and he did) the only thing that threw me was the 10. Couldn't figure out its purpose there. About a week before Christmas, I was getting wined and dined, meeting all the friends and family I hadn't met before, receiving love notes, everything I had been hoping and waiting for the entire relationship.....and then he dumped me the night before Christmas (but not before sleeping with me, I can pick em) and everything fell in to place. This was JUST as I was thinking "Welp, thank goodness my deck was wrong this round, the psychics are finally starting to get it!"

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posted March 25, 2014 01:10 PM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
@LP: Sometimes the cards make more sense AFTER the showdown lol. Your own intuition is always your best friend.

I remember when my ex and I first started dating the 9 of cups kept showing itself, usually in the outcome position. A lot of readers say oh yes, great! But when I saw it for whatever reason I just went "ew." I did not care for it at all even though I knew I could have drawn a lot worse. In hindsight the cards and I were both right, that entire relationship was all about my ex getting his fill. He was extremely selfish and I just kept giving and giving.

Another time, my ex and I had just had our first fight and I was worried, cards indicated that things would be patched up rather quickly (they were) but for the outcome I got 10 of Pents, 8 of Cups, Knight of Swords. There could be so many interpretations for this but my first thought was "he's going to end things and then try to come back" (and he did) the only thing that threw me was the 10. Couldn't figure out its purpose there. About a week before Christmas, I was getting wined and dined, meeting all the friends and family I hadn't met before, receiving love notes, everything I had been hoping and waiting for the entire relationship.....and then he dumped me the night before Christmas (but not before sleeping with me, I can pick em) and everything fell in to place. This was JUST as I was thinking "Welp, thank goodness my deck was wrong this round, the psychics are finally starting to get it!"

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The way it works with me is the cards can only tell me what will happen in very near future-like a week. Then my cards change, it happens that week. Like I could talk to M today, some of what I pulled will happen, then I pull the cards and it tells a completely different story and that happens the next week. But I can't see beyond that. I got all these awesome cards with this guy once. Everything was fantastic... For a week. Then the knight of wands, which to me is someone coming in and leaving just as quickly and maybe lurking. Never spoke to him again. That card came up in very spread. The cards never changed and that's how it remained. Tell me it would've been like that a month before, I'd have told you you were nuts listening to my cards. The cards are good when it's good and bad just before it goes bad.

I want my self readings to be like yours.

One thing I do keep getting with him is the Magician and that's the will to work things out. Maybe I should ignore the placement.

With a previous guy, I kept getting Hanged man an Knight of Swords. That never changed.

I just can't read for myself the way I read for others. I'm staring at the cards for a whole 10 min and still confused. If I look at it how I read for others, we're at the end of the road.
Astrological Transits, his solar return, my astrologer lady, Mystic Raven11, KNOW4SURE and a bunch of people who exchanged with me here would be dead wrong.

posted March 25, 2014 04:09 PM            

I can understand getting readings to try to find out if a guy had genuine feelings for you or not, but that you guys actually want to try dating them again is disturbing to me. Why give someone a second chance to hurt you again when they already proved they can hurt you once (and not care) ?

posted March 25, 2014 05:26 PM            

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Originally posted by RunAroundScreaming:
Maybe it's because I'm a snake, but once somebody does me wrong, they don't get a second chance. I don't understand how you guys are trying to give these dudes second chances. They don't deserve it. If you are too proud to walk away from me once then I consider that we'll have other problems with your pride if we date again, problems which won't let you give me as much as I'm capable of giving to you. Pride is always a big problem.

I can understand getting readings to try to find out if a guy had genuine feelings for you or not, but that you guys actually want to try dating them again is disturbing to me. Why give someone a second chance to hurt you again when they already proved they can hurt you once (and not care) ?

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I think I've finally learned my lesson here as my ex did not get a proper second chance when he tried to come back, in fact I ind of played him a bit and then I finally stood up to him and he has been cut out/blocked on every platform possible. This is spite of many psychics predicting a "big change" in him come April. I don't know if that will happen and I honestly don't care. I don't ever want him back.

However, I've been through this twice now (at least lol) so I can certainly shed some light.
"If you put a frog in boiling water, it will jump out. If you put a frog in warm water and gradually turn up the heat until the water is boiling, the frog will remain there until it dies. And that is an abusive relationship."
These guys don't start out terrible, in fact quite the opposite in my case they always start out being near perfect. Everything they say/do is everything I'm hoping for in a relationship and that stage lasts a few months, then they rip the rug out from under your feet and go cold. They say and do things to make you feel like you did something wrong AND they gas light you. This last guy was calling texting all day everyday, a few days passed and I hadn't heard from him so I rang him. He yelled at me over the phone saying I was being overbearing and that I wasn't respecting him. This was one phone call in 48 hours, I had NOT texted or anything prior and honestly I should have dumped him right then and there for the way he spoke to me. But he called he next day apologizing, in tears saying I was the only person that really understood him and he was just going through a lot right now. This is one example but I could write a book. I also want to warn anyone reading this who may also be going through this that this behavior does start to become physical.

In my case, psychics made the situation much worse. They were enablers. When I would go to them it was always "he is afraid, he's still dealing with a past relationship, he loves you" and a lot of times they even made me feel like it was my fault. Stephanie Theresa and Gaia were two big ones that made me feel as though I was the problem although I don't think they did this intentionally. In fact I only ever had three psychics tell me that this guy was a jerk and I needed to get out now, they were Jamey/Cindy S/Shy Owl. Three. Out of probably close to 30.

posted March 25, 2014 06:06 PM            

And if you are abusive to yourself, wouldn't you also be abusive to another person? That's why they say the first step to loving someone else is loving yourself. Women need to be stronger. I know we are conditioned to be unable to live without finding our fairytale prince charming, but it is ridiculous. Men are mean and abusive not only to other men but to women as well. It is completely unrealistic to create a monster who is expected to have no kindness for others (drinks, fights, bullies others, has casual sex practically like a prostitute, nowadays is also practically encouraged to do drugs...) and then expect that person to be able to have a healthy relationship with another human being but this is how society is...they create a monster out of males and then expect him to be healthy and sane

posted March 25, 2014 06:21 PM            

Like someone said usually it turns from emotionally abusive into physically abusive or at least physically threatening. And when that happens you are scared to leave the relaionship bc of what might happen to you if u do

What women need to do is raise their boys better. I believe that typical guy activities create monsters

posted March 25, 2014 09:54 PM            

A lot of readers who are just in it for the money will spin the tale of he'll be back, he's afraid etc. because they think that's what we want to hear. It keeps us happy to give good ratings and also makes it more likely that we'll come back for another reading when he doesn't show. Now, not all readers are like this - but your 3 / 30 giving a negative outcome is pretty much exactly what I experienced when I was asking about a certain someone.

posted March 25, 2014 11:35 PM            

And Sandie gave me like 40 minutes free and told me the things that she didn't know/didnt have the ability to know. and Sacred Divine told me when I came back for a second reading a month later that he could not connect with me probably because he had been doing spells and couldnt read for me this time, so didnt charge me at all...if he had been fake he wouldve just lied to me and taken my money.

posted March 26, 2014 07:36 AM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
You know RAS you're so right. Why do I want to be with someone that hasn't shown me the same amount of time, energy, and care. I guess for myself I know I don't have great self esteem when it comes to me nor do I have a great track record. Mostly because of my own insecurities I suppose. So I guess when this guy gave me the attention at first and really seemed interested in me it sucked me in. I know I'm a good person and deserve better but I guess I just felt like we had this connection. And I guess now I just need the closure of knowing what went wrong if anything. I wish with all my might that I could just completely forget him and move on but it's hard for me for reasons I can't even fully comprehend.

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Hugs to all!

I feel many of us here deal with rather similar problems in love. sigh.

for my ex im not sure why he suddenly "disappear". i called and texted him like a mad woman, but no response at all. felt really stupid and crazy. i will count like how long to wait before i send/call him again, things as such. i dont have great self esteem too. I keep thinking to myself then was it sth I said or do that lead him to withdraw? I just couldnt comprehend.

im not sure how i started to chance upon psychic reading, and since then its like a road of no return. i usually ask about love life only. and when im happy and all, i dont feel the need to have readings at all. but anyway in the beginning i asked abt my ex, like why is he behaving in such a way etc... so to those who said he is coming back, they were totally wrong. im too lazy to even look at all those emails now. all this was way before i got hooked on liveperson and now, bitwine. previously ebay used to offer many email readings too and i tried a lot! (just cos they were rather cheap too. lol)
http://www.freewillmagick.com/ she is good. i recommend her here before but not sure if anyone tried? she isnt that exp too. i felt she's good cos previously she felt my ex already had someone else, and she was correct. that was many mths later after my ex disappeared, so its not bc of this girl that we broke up.

I kept contacting my ex just cos i need a closure too. I wanted to know why is he treating me in such a way. Dont they know its very rude to not reply??? I did got a closure somehow cos I somehow got him to meet me after many months later. (b4 he got attached anyway) so at then i still had some hopes after having met him. but nope he got attached later. anyway, even till now, he still dont reply to my bday/greeting msges! i dont know whats wrong too, but i dont get hung up on that. my mind is with someone else now so im not too bothered about him. haha. but i just dont get why???

posted March 26, 2014 07:43 AM            

Just wondering are you Chinese?

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Originally posted by manques:
Hi RAS,

Just wondering are you Chinese?

Hmmm... Just wondering for Western culture do you all believe in Chinese zodiac too? I didnt even know it even "exists" in Western countries. Cos I thought it's more of a Chinese culture thing. Imo I feel Chinese zodiac is more general, as opposed to astrology? (sun sign i mean)

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No i am not chinese hehe, i am hispanic. Chinese astrology is not that general. It's extremely valuable, and especially so when combined with western astrology. You can see from my guide to chinese zodiac appearance thread in my signature that it's not so general. Also, from my career path thread http://www.linda-goodman.com/ubb/Forum11/HTML/010597.html

posted March 27, 2014 11:10 AM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
Tried getting a hold of aboutagirl yesterday. I had a question about timing and she has been dead on for me about 75-80% of the time. Called her like 3 or 4 times but she didn't answer for some reason. Went this morning to see and she had gone offline literally a minute before I went to her page. I suppose its for the best, I'm not wasting my money and its also forcing me to think about my actions. Why do I need to know so bad? Would it even matter if it happened in the way and time she said it would? Readings don't really fix the root of the problem the just soothe the anxiety caused by the real issue. Plus, for all I know she could be throwing darts at a calendar. Thats whats so funny about the psychic thing, we take it so seriously believing them all to be the "real deal" (no doubt some of them are) when really for all we know some of them are just getting our names/bdays and pausing for a few moments to seem legit, then spitting out whatever fairytale will make us shell out more money.

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posted March 27, 2014 11:45 AM            

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I hope if you decide to read with her it will be as positive an experience as mine has been! I re-read my transcripts with her ALL the time because when other readers were saying fluffy BS things that didn't seem realistic, Willow was giving me real life guidance based on the situation/people's personalities & she's been correct.

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I just wanted to post about my experience with Willow. Thank you so much for recommending her, IntuitiveJ. Now, I opted for a reading focusing on healing and letting things go rather than a predictive reading, so I can't speak to predictions. But she definitely picked up on my current feelings and gave me steps that I could take to really heal from past hurts. I feel so much better after speaking with her and for me, this (rather than another prediction) is exactly what I needed right now.
I had been getting quite a few readings leading up to this so I will definitely still post the outcome of those predictions, but I don't feel as though I need any more readings right now - and that's a good thing

posted March 27, 2014 01:09 PM            

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Originally posted by lilacbreeze:
I just wanted to post about my experience with Willow. Thank you so much for recommending her, IntuitiveJ. Now, I opted for a reading focusing on healing and letting things go rather than a predictive reading, so I can't speak to predictions. But she definitely picked up on my current feelings and gave me steps that I could take to really heal from past hurts. I feel so much better after speaking with her and for me, this (rather than another prediction) is exactly what I needed right now.
I had been getting quite a few readings leading up to this so I will definitely still post the outcome of those predictions, but I don't feel as though I need any more readings right now - and that's a good thing

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posted March 28, 2014 08:20 AM            

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Originally posted by MinceyMouse:
whyte is good. She's blunt and she's cheaper when you get her on fb and ask for a general reading- she's generous and accurate. She helped me with pruning some people around my life and I'm just really grateful.

She's really honest though, nice about it, but honest.

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posted March 28, 2014 08:41 AM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
I tried her at Jonah's recommendation actually. She picked up on a few things that made sense but she wasn't accurate for me.

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Hmmm... Ok so I actually just tried Whyte. (not sure where is her fb page though)

I must say she's spot on about situation.