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Topic: Important Love Asteroids in Composite/Synastry
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dyedye08
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From: South Orange, NJ, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 12:33 AM
  
He's a very stubborn guy, he can be really selfish too. Thank You Gabby for this. I just feel this is something that may take a while to see some healing. I think what frightens him is fear. He could easily confide his feelings about me to our mutual friend but he would never tell me how he felt about me. He would let me in on certain things but lie to me about other things. This whole illusion of him wanting to be with me. He told our mutual friend that he was afraid to fall in love with me, afraid to trust me. Now I see why he felt the way he did IP: Logged |
dyedye08
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From: South Orange, NJ, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 12:36 AM
I have so much unconditional love for this man it's ridiculous, so many times I wanted to walk away, but I couldn't. I felt like he was "the one". I pushed him a lot, encouraged him to try new things and he taught me a lot too. We knew each others real potential IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
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From: Venice, California, US
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posted April 18, 2013 12:44 AM
Question. When does the composite actually take over from the first meeting chart? For example, if a committed relationship doesn't officially begin - or a relationship never -officially- begins - does it ever? -A. IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
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From: Venice, California, US
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posted April 18, 2013 12:46 AM
Also, DD, what happened in your marriage to make you focus so much on your co-worker? You'd never elaborated on that. -A. IP: Logged |
dyedye08
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From: South Orange, NJ, USA
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posted April 18, 2013 12:47 AM
@ Indigio I thought the same thing. I thought that once a realtionship had officially begin, the realtionship charts takes the place of the first meeting chartIP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted April 18, 2013 12:48 AM
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Originally posted by dyedye08:
I have so much unconditional love for this man it's ridiculous, so many times I wanted to walk away, but I couldn't. I felt like he was "the one". I pushed him a lot, encouraged him to try new things and he taught me a lot too. We knew each others real potential
Im so glad i could help...i know answers make it so much easier to hold on and see it through so as not to give up before its time to give up, if it ever is? Your doing a good job!! IP: Logged |
dyedye08
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From: South Orange, NJ, USA
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posted April 18, 2013 12:53 AM
@ Indigio my husband became violent starting, hitting me over the years I became unhappy but I stayed because of the kids. My husband and I sure a karmic connection as well. When guy came in my life, like I said something inside of me was drawn to him. I put a lot emphasis on our friendship but he wanted a relationship and I wanted a friendship things got complicated. A lot people knew his wife, start telling his wife things that wasn't true. I love my husband but my soul yearn to be with other guy, out of respect our both marriages. I denied my feelings for guy, hurting him in more. Once I realize I wanted more it was too late, he was hurt and embarressedIP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted April 18, 2013 12:53 AM
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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Question. When does the composite actually take over from the first meeting chart? For example, if a committed relationship doesn't officially begin - or a relationship never -officially- begins - does it ever? -A.
They say composite is when you are officially a couple, and seeing each other daily if not moved in together...once youve started settling down into a routine!1st meeting, then it can be replaced by relationship chart for 1st time sexually together, showing the progression of the relationship as it gets more serious.... IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted April 18, 2013 12:57 AM
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Originally posted by dyedye08:
@ Indigio my husband became violent starting, hitting me over the years I became unhappy but I stayed because of the kids. My husband and I sure a karmic connection as well. When guy came in my life, like I said something inside of me was drawn to him. I put a lot emphasis on our friendship but he wanted a relationship and I wanted a friendship things got complicated. A lot people knew his wife, start telling his wife things that wasn't true. I love my husband but my soul yearn to be with other guy, out of respect our both marriages. I denied my feelings for guy, hurting him in more. Once I realize I wanted more it was too late, he was hurt and embarressed
Wow, im sorry DD!!
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dyedye08
Knowflake Posts: 248
From: South Orange, NJ, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 12:57 AM
@ gabby Thanks! My inner guidance kept telling me to hold on, my soul kept yearning to be with this. I don't know why, sense I hurt him as bad as I did. IP: Logged |
dyedye08
Knowflake Posts: 248
From: South Orange, NJ, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 01:00 AM
@ gabby Technically I hurt him again by denying my feelings to him. I hope that doesn't add more karma. I only lied bc we both are married. My marriage is on the verge of being over. I have taken all I can from my husband. I appreciate the concerns ladies, but I allowed him to treat me like he has done IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
Knowflake Posts: 643
From: Venice, California, US
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted April 18, 2013 01:45 AM
DD,I'm sorry to hear what I was afraid was likely going down. It's unfortunate how many of us have been there, too. For me, it was feeling that my life had been veering off course, and, despite distance, complications, and a massive, restrictive deception, we became best friends for several years - and only able to be true and honest about it with each other until a little over a year ago. Ironically, he kept me honest and connected to myself. It just stood to reason he brought me back in contact with my soul, my spirit, the totality of my being. I don't think he could deal though, with the reality of the same. He's still very scared of the prospect of everything I mean to him. I fear ... he may always be. But, I hope, otherwise. I suggest you take a deep breath, acknowledge that you know what you do, and try and understand where you are right now at this point in time. You have children. That means more than anything else in this equation. (I've personally stayed because I do love my husband, deeply, even if I've never been able to 'commit' myself, mind, body, and soul - which started with my ex-partner - but I digress - and my stepdaughter. I'd never even contemplated kids, and when I met her, I was floored. Sometimes, I have to sigh beneath my breath because I KNOW that SHE's the one who demanded all this be sorted NOW - which has meant I've not been able to make any 'headway' in that relationship - until very recently. Oh, and don't get me started on how immediately they connected. She misses him, too .... ) Anyway. You're a parent. Period. I really, really believe the sentence ends there. Take time to figure out what's gone wrong in your marriage and what MAY be done. Of course, some men are just abusive. Fortunately, I didn't marry one, but I did live with one for 4 years beforehand. I'm highly sensitive to the signs. Men don't typically become abusive without a trigger or warnings. Either way, I'm very sorry that you're going through what you are. Continue to exercise patience. It's only been a short time. Also, take the next five or so years to carefully examine where you're going. Don't make any brazen moves. You're both married, and kids are involved. You already know this, but keep proceeding with caution. Give yourself time. Just ... breathe. -A. IP: Logged |
Gabby
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posted April 18, 2013 01:58 AM
You havent added any bad karma, dont think that! Youve responded to the reality of your situations! Thats doing whats best for you both, i dont see any place youve hurt him in this life! Keep moving forward your going to make it!  IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
Knowflake Posts: 643
From: Venice, California, US
Registered: Jul 2011
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posted April 18, 2013 03:43 AM
Exactly. Do what's best for you and your kids, above all. Stay strong. It's in doing what's best for ourselves that the rest really does begin to fall into place. -hugs- IP: Logged |
dyedye08
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From: South Orange, NJ, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 09:19 AM
@ Indigio and Gabby thanks for the encouraging words. My husband natal mars is in Scorpio which means I feel his wrath all the timeIP: Logged |
dyedye08
Knowflake Posts: 248
From: South Orange, NJ, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 09:34 AM
Right now I'm focusing on myself and kids. My marriage is not a marriage. Hubby is very controlling, he treats me like I'm a kid. I don't make any decisions, but I blame myself because I allowed it to go on as long as it did. Meeting the guy isn't what changed things with my hubby . Meeting the guy only pushed me to try to fix things in marriage, when the guy and I meet I was scared, had never felt anything like this before so I became destin to make things right with hubby, but hubby refuses to deal with emotions which only hurts us more because there is no expression if self and how one really feels hence no communication. Still today, I'm trying to make this marriage work. IP: Logged |
dyedye08
Knowflake Posts: 248
From: South Orange, NJ, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 09:36 AM
Part of why I stay is because my step son lost his mother when he was only 2 years old. I been in his life since he was three. I'm the only mother he knows and my daughter is crazy about her father. I feel obligated IP: Logged |
dyedye08
Knowflake Posts: 248
From: South Orange, NJ, USA
Registered: Dec 2012
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posted April 18, 2013 11:41 AM
@ Gabby Do Karmic Relationships always reverse? Meaning in the past life him and I shared. He was the loving one, wanted a commitment or possibly wanted to get married hence me being passive and receptive I didn't want what he wanted. Now in this lifetime, I'm the loving one, that yearns to having a relationship with him but he's passive and receptive this time around which in turns him me causing me to feel the pain I must have caused him. Am I right to assume this. Is this how karmic relationships workIP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted April 18, 2013 11:55 AM
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Originally posted by IndigoDirae:
Question. When does the composite actually take over from the first meeting chart?
It doesn`t. Both are always in existence.
However, I have noticed that the composite seems to "shift", becoming more "solid", when two people physical meet. Sort of the starting signal.IP: Logged |
IndigoDirae
Knowflake Posts: 643
From: Venice, California, US
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posted April 19, 2013 03:46 AM
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Originally posted by Ceridwen:It doesn`t. Both are always in existence.
However, I have noticed that the composite seems to "shift", becoming more "solid", when two people physical meet. Sort of the starting signal.
Ah! Thank you, Ceri. That makes SO much sense. What's even stranger is how we'd met, physically, back in March '10, (we were on the air together first, back in '07, though it wasn't a physical meeting - but, wow, the sparks flew within seconds,) but I didn't feel the real 'shift' until the second time we saw each other, since he'd finally confessed the truth, January of last year. That's when everything changed, and it really felt like our composite was taking over. Amazing feeling, too. Wow.
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