posted September 02, 2014 10:34 PM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
M after almost getting himself stuck in the friend zone.

EVERYBODY was about to be wrong.

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posted September 03, 2014 05:11 AM            

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Originally posted by minimini:
i really do believe things work this way...well Fairy totally let go now; so no matter what that sxxxhxxx does, doesnt matter anymore..

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I know we call him a **** but I did the same to three guys this week
Chatted to them almost met them then vanished
I think if havnt met someone or only met once it's a way of sort of not looking mean and vanishing or could still be into an ex and not sure and keep delaying then not know what to do

Anything rly
I'm not saying it's good behaviour just saying several of us have probably done what that guys done

posted September 03, 2014 05:39 AM            

Besides, talking to someone online for a week or so does not ignite a spark. You gotta hang out with them a couple of times first.

I think they've got every right to disappear after a date without having to give you an explanation. After 3 dates or so, a certain level of courtesy is expected but after an initial meeting, it's no big deal. They've got the right not to give you any justification after a date, it means they're not into you and you should get the hint.

I've been on both sides and I never expected/gave an explanation if I didn't (or the person) want to hang out again.

At some point, you gotta learn how to pace things. You can't just assume you're going to click. It would have never occured to me to get a paid reading on a guy I've just been talking to online or seen once. It's a waste of money.

If you get attached this quickly then maybe you shouldn't do online dating because many people disappear mid-conversation or after one or two dates. That's called "you're not a match" and chasing will only annoy them.

Fairy - A is someone you met once and you added him on FB? Don't you think it's a little too personal to add someone you don't know on FB? I wouldn't like it personally. It's quite intrusive to be honest. Unless he was the one who told you to add him, I find it slightly inappropriate. You don't know him (especially as he had dodged many of your texts).

We all have to work on our flaws. I was too hung up on a man for a year and a half with him coming back and disappearing after a date or two once he didn't get what he wanted. I was a doormat. I learned from it and in no way am I trying to be mean, but you have to get a grip at some point.

Online dating will drive you insane if you get easily stuck on men you just met once. I met many guys via online dating and 95% of the time, the initial meeting led to me or them disappearing without an explanation because we weren't a match. That's why it's called "dating". You shouldn't put too much pressure on a first meeting as there's a 50% chance it might go nowhere and some guys can't handle rejecting someone so they STRING YOU ALONG because they're afraid of hurting your feelings. They keep talking to you until you get the hint!

I learned so much from my story with N and I so wish I stopped talking to him once he cancelled our second date on me. He had to cancel three times for me to get the hint! I also should have never given him another shot and let him treat me like crap when we were finally "hanging out". If a man wants you, he'll chase you too doesn't matter if he has an ex or not. If he's not actively trying to get you, he doesn't want you.

A man's rejection is God's protection, believe me. N was a jerk and that's why God was trying to protect me by having him cancel on me multiple times. The Angels were looking out for me. But I wanted him so badly that I kept chasing and God taught me a lesson by allowing him back into my life. I got burned but I learned a lot from it. It was my lesson. A harsh lesson that was. After N hurt me when I gave him a second shot, I realized he was an actual jerk (at the time) and that's why God kept throwing roadblocks on our way the first time around just so I wouldn't get hurt.

posted September 03, 2014 06:03 AM            

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Originally posted by minimini:
yea...i remember one time i asked a reader in BW about a guy...i didnt know his dob and she said you came to me to ask about a guy see if he has feelings for you but you dont even know his dob..then she kicked me out.
lol
i was totally blushed and felt like being slapped when i stepped out of her chat room.
i dont remember her name but i bet she must be a real deal lol

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It makes sense.

I mean, you gotta know the person a little. It's a waste of time to ask about a total stranger or someone you have no connection with. It'd be like asking about a celebrity.

Sometimes life makes us go through the same scenarios over and over again until we learn the lesson we need to learn. Once you graduate, these sort of encounters stop happening and you're more than likely going to start meeting quality men.

Once I understood my lesson, the feelings I had for N disappeared. Sure, I miss having feelings and longing for someone, but the lesson I learned is invaluable. I had been hung up on him since April 2013 (didn't help that he'd talk to me/see me on and off) and once I understood the lesson in July 2014, I stopped seeing him as God's gift to women and my feelings suddenly vanished overnight.

Sometimes, when I get lonely, I think of him and nostalgia takes over but I wouldn't act on it. It's only a temporary feeling usually.

posted September 03, 2014 06:07 AM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I think meeting a guy once isn't enough to spark interest. One time is just a random encounter. You can't get hung up on a man you met once in your life because you don't know what he's like.

Besides, talking to someone online for a week or so does not ignite a spark. You gotta hang out with them a couple of times first.

I think they've got every right to disappear after a date without having to give you an explanation. After 3 dates or so, a certain level of courtesy is expected but after an initial meeting, it's no big deal. They've got the right not to give you any justification after a date, it means they're not into you and you should get the hint.

I've been on both sides and I never expected/gave an explanation if I didn't (or the person) want to hang out again.

At some point, you gotta learn how to pace things. You can't just assume you're going to click. It would have never occured to me to get a paid reading on a guy I've just been talking to online or seen once. It's a waste of money.

If you get attached this quickly then maybe you shouldn't do online dating because many people disappear mid-conversation or after one or two dates. That's called "you're not a match" and chasing will only annoy them.

Fairy - A is someone you met once and you added him on FB? Don't you think it's a little too personal to add someone you don't know on FB? I wouldn't like it personally. It's quite intrusive to be honest. Unless he was the one who told you to add him, I find it slightly inappropriate. You don't know him (especially as he had dodged many of your texts).

We all have to work on our flaws. I was too hung up on a man for a year and a half with him coming back and disappearing after a date or two once he didn't get what he wanted. I was a doormat. I learned from it and in no way am I trying to be mean, but you have to get a grip at some point.

Online dating will drive you insane if you get easily stuck on men you just met once. I met many guys via online dating and 95% of the time, the initial meeting led to me or them disappearing without an explanation because we weren't a match. That's why it's called "dating". You shouldn't put too much pressure on a first meeting as there's a 50% chance it might go nowhere and some guys can't handle rejecting someone so they STRING YOU ALONG because they're afraid of hurting your feelings. They keep talking to you until you get the hint!

I learned so much from my story with N and I so wish I stopped talking to him once he cancelled our second date on me. He had to cancel three times for me to get the hint! I also should have never given him another shot and let him treat me like crap when we were finally "hanging out". If a man wants you, he'll chase you too doesn't matter if he has an ex or not. If he's not actively trying to get you, he doesn't want you.

A man's rejection is God's protection, believe me. N was a jerk and that's why God was trying to protect me by having him cancel on me multiple times. The Angels were looking out for me. But I wanted him so badly that I kept chasing and God taught me a lesson by allowing him back into my life. I got burned but I learned a lot from it. It was my lesson. A harsh lesson that was. After N hurt me when I gave him a second shot, I realized he was an actual jerk (at the time) and that's why God kept throwing roadblocks on our way the first time around just so I wouldn't get hurt.

Believe me girly, when a man rejects you, God is doing you a favor! He's looking out for you You don't know what he's trying to protect you from. I learned this at the expense of my heart.

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posted September 03, 2014 06:27 AM            

It was true. It taught me many things. I have no doubt he's meant to be a part of my life, because when you have this feeling of "I just know, but can't explain" it sure means something.

I barely remember the person I was before I met him. I feel like I was a kid who graduated high school and is now in the big college world.

However, there's a fine line between knowing there is something there from the moment your eyes meet and the wishful thinking/crush some people might develop because they're "in love with love" and see everyone as "the one". I had friends who believe every guy they met was "the one" and therefore couldn't recognize a special connection from a "regular" encounter.

For me, I knew there was something special because I was never the type who was overly interested in dating or love. I was focused on college/career and although I had met many guys, I was just a bit aloof and indifferent to it all. I liked some, but I didn't believe in love per se. I thought it was overrated and a waste of energy. I'm not a hopeless romantic by any means. Career always comes first with me.

Then I met N and things shifted right away. I just felt right whereas with the other guys, there was always something that would bother me on some level. I saw his face/eyes and I was like - "I know he's the one, I don't care about his race/religion/job/location". And believe me, I had a strict list of criteria before I met him. I was like "if the guy I meet doesn't match every single one of these criteria, he is out". I met many many men I turned down because of these criteria I had. They didn't feel "right".

Then I saw N and I suddenly couldn't care less about those criteria. I didn't even know his name, just his face and I told myself "screw the list, I just know he's special". It wasn't so much about his physical appearance because I'm used to dating average looking guys and he's a "pretty boy". I met/dated guys who were much better looking than him and they didn't ignite such feeling at all. I'm not huge on appearance.

I learned stuff about him and only 50% matched my criteria but I didn't care. To this day I don't care. It was all about the eyes for me&him - I still have chills going down my spine when I think about our eye contacts. It was powerful.

We would read each others' mind and text each other about stuff the other was thinking silently. We would finish each others' sentences and be like "I was just thinking about that". Our values matched and we had the exact same opinion on core matters.

When I first touched his arm, so electricity rush ran through my body, I swear. I literally thought something was wrong with me. It never happened with any other guy, just him.

posted September 03, 2014 07:33 AM            

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Yeah, that's what I had with N. From day 1, I knew there was something there. I still think there is something there. It's just an intuitive feeling. You know the encounter is going to be different from the others. I absolutely believe sometimes, you just know.

It was true. It taught me many things. I have no doubt he's meant to be a part of my life, because when you have this feeling of "I just know, but can't explain" it sure means something.

I barely remember the person I was before I met him. I feel like I was a kid who graduated high school and is now in the big college world.

However, there's a fine line between knowing there is something there from the moment your eyes meet and the wishful thinking/crush some people might develop because they're "in love with love" and see everyone as "the one". I had friends who believe every guy they met was "the one" and therefore couldn't recognize a special connection from a "regular" encounter.

For me, I knew there was something special because I was never the type who was overly interested in dating or love. I was focused on college/career and although I had met many guys, I was just a bit aloof and indifferent to it all. I liked some, but I didn't believe in love per se. I thought it was overrated and a waste of energy. I'm not a hopeless romantic by any means. Career always comes first with me.

Then I met N and things shifted right away. I just felt right whereas with the other guys, there was always something that would bother me on some level. I saw his face/eyes and I was like - "I know he's the one, I don't care about his race/religion/job/location". And believe me, I had a strict list of criteria before I met him. I was like "if the guy I meet doesn't match every single one of these criteria, he is out". I met many many men I turned down because of these criteria I had. They didn't feel "right".

Then I saw N and I suddenly couldn't care less about those criteria. I didn't even know his name, just his face and I told myself "screw the list, I just know he's special". It wasn't so much about his physical appearance because I'm used to dating average looking guys and he's a "pretty boy". I met/dated guys who were much better looking than him and they didn't ignite such feeling at all. I'm not huge on appearance.

I learned stuff about him and only 50% matched my criteria but I didn't care. To this day I don't care. It was all about the eyes for me&him - I still have chills going down my spine when I think about our eye contacts. It was powerful.

We would read each others' mind and text each other about stuff the other was thinking silently. We would finish each others' sentences and be like "I was just thinking about that". Our values matched and we had the exact same opinion on core matters.

When I first touched his arm, so electricity rush ran through my body, I swear. I literally thought something was wrong with me. It never happened with any other guy, just him.

Anyway, I need to stop bla bla bla about him. So yes, sometimes you have a connection you can't explain and it means something. Sometimes it's just wishful thinking. It's quite hard to distinguish at times.

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posted September 03, 2014 07:54 AM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
Yeah, that's what I had with N. From day 1, I knew there was something there. I still think there is something there. It's just an intuitive feeling. You know the encounter is going to be different from the others. I absolutely believe sometimes, you just know.

It was true. It taught me many things. I have no doubt he's meant to be a part of my life, because when you have this feeling of "I just know, but can't explain" it sure means something.

I barely remember the person I was before I met him. I feel like I was a kid who graduated high school and is now in the big college world.

However, there's a fine line between knowing there is something there from the moment your eyes meet and the wishful thinking/crush some people might develop because they're "in love with love" and see everyone as "the one". I had friends who believe every guy they met was "the one" and therefore couldn't recognize a special connection from a "regular" encounter.

For me, I knew there was something special because I was never the type who was overly interested in dating or love. I was focused on college/career and although I had met many guys, I was just a bit aloof and indifferent to it all. I liked some, but I didn't believe in love per se. I thought it was overrated and a waste of energy. I'm not a hopeless romantic by any means. Career always comes first with me.

Then I met N and things shifted right away. I just felt right whereas with the other guys, there was always something that would bother me on some level. I saw his face/eyes and I was like - "I know he's the one, I don't care about his race/religion/job/location". And believe me, I had a strict list of criteria before I met him. I was like "if the guy I meet doesn't match every single one of these criteria, he is out". I met many many men I turned down because of these criteria I had. They didn't feel "right".

Then I saw N and I suddenly couldn't care less about those criteria. I didn't even know his name, just his face and I told myself "screw the list, I just know he's special". It wasn't so much about his physical appearance because I'm used to dating average looking guys and he's a "pretty boy". I met/dated guys who were much better looking than him and they didn't ignite such feeling at all. I'm not huge on appearance.

I learned stuff about him and only 50% matched my criteria but I didn't care. To this day I don't care. It was all about the eyes for me&him - I still have chills going down my spine when I think about our eye contacts. It was powerful.

We would read each others' mind and text each other about stuff the other was thinking silently. We would finish each others' sentences and be like "I was just thinking about that". Our values matched and we had the exact same opinion on core matters.

When I first touched his arm, so electricity rush ran through my body, I swear. I literally thought something was wrong with me. It never happened with any other guy, just him.

Anyway, I need to stop bla bla bla about him. So yes, sometimes you have a connection you can't explain and it means something. Sometimes it's just wishful thinking. It's quite hard to distinguish at times.

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posted September 03, 2014 08:50 AM            

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Originally posted by manques:
Wow Psyche, her latest review is wow. I really hope her reading comes to pass for me!

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posted September 03, 2014 10:01 AM            

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Originally posted by PSYCHE:
all her reviews are like that on keen,
i can't speak for me yet, but some said she was not accurate?

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posted September 03, 2014 11:15 AM            

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Originally posted by IntuitiveJ:
Her reading for me was very fluffy
All good things- very rainbows & fairy tales.
My life isn't like that at all. She was one of several on bitwine who saw my PayPal ID and then commented about my business- which is clearly stated in my ID name.
Would not go back.

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posted September 03, 2014 12:21 PM            

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Originally posted by intuitivefish:
So
how many of you here, do readings?
and what tools do you use or any of you psychic with no tools ?

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I do- more on a private basis rather than keen ect.

posted September 03, 2014 12:32 PM            

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Originally posted by MinceyMouse:
I do- more on a private basis rather than keen ect.

I do cards, cards + intuition, and intuition only. Thing is that my cards are fallible- intuition less so. Cards are to focus, intuition goes everywhere.

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posted September 03, 2014 12:34 PM            

The ex that cheated was below average and had issues in all areas of his life while my ex from last year was super well rounded, emotionally stable, caring and looked like a European model. He wasn't a cheater even though he had lots of attention.

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Originally posted by PSYCHE:
this guy i added as practise with a player he's turning out to be the opposite yo ureally can't judge a book.

But the weirdest thing happened we exchanged whatsapp numbers today and he asked me not to send him any naked pictures of myself,
i was like
are you actually kidding me? your pretty safe on that one.
I don't think ive ever sent someone a naked pic of myself maybe something a bit sexy if I'm properly dating and into someone.
He reckons that women just send them almost as soon as he adds them on whatsapp and he hates it.
I truly didn't know this.
What are women doing to the dating world!!!
we all blame men but when women do this no wonder men turn into douches.
I am kinda in shock that women do that so easy.

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posted September 03, 2014 01:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Yeah a lot of good looking guys are really decent people. A lot of the time it's more the average and below average guys that are jerks who cheat. Attractive people are still human and sometimes they do look for more than a surface connection.

The ex that cheated was below average and had issues in all areas of his life while my ex from last year was super well rounded, emotionally stable, caring and looked like a European model. He wasn't a cheater even though he had lots of attention.

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Really true I think I always got a bit judged actually
As I used to model and have a lot of pics of me out drinking glammed up on fb
But I was so insecure and closed off I think ppl took it as not interested and made a number of assumptions
But I was rly loyal kind had barely slept with anyone and insecure truly around that time .