posted August 15, 2014 11:53 AM            

I have loved 2 guys. I have been interested in 5 guys, including those 2. (I have Venus-Pluto square and my Sun is smack on my Venus-Pluto midpoint - love is not about fun and flirting to me and I don't compromise what I want.) Both guys I've loved reach out to me if they don't hear from me; the 1st one doesn't hear from me at all, so he contacts me every 2 years, while the second one I can't seem to shake off for long, so we contact one another when we think the other has been quiet for too long. The other 2 guys I've been interested in... One I tried to keep in touch by email - he'd keep his replies short and to the point, until he finally stopped answering. I emailed him twice after my last email went unanswered and let it go. If he comes around, I'm not giving him 10 sec of my day. The other one I'm interested in shows signs of interest, but he keeps trying to ask me out without asking me out on a date. I'm oblivious to this kind of approach so I never catch onto what he's doing before I've already said I'm too busy. Weird thing is, people seem to think I have his number and that we talk a lot, but the 2 or 3 times I tried FB-chatting with him, he left me talking after 5 min. I hate when people do that, so this is a major issue for me.

I've had random guys approaching me by saying 'hey, don't I know you from ____' and they usually do, but I don't know them and it freaks me out that they think they know me. I was waiting to sit for an exam while chatting with some people; we all started saying where we went to college and when I said mine, guy went, "I knew it was you. I used to see you in the corridors. I taught (subject) there." First, I was rarely loitering in the corridors. Second, guy never taught any of the classes I took. Third, he had a commitment ring on. Fourth, it freaked me out that he remembered me after 3 years had passed. I was out of that circle of people in 3 min.

Another guy FB-friended me. I find out he's an old family acquaintance. At the time I was 12 and had a huge crush on him, he was 14 and thought he was too good for me. Kept pushing for a meet-up and wanting to know what I've been doing and what I had done in the past. I never replied right away to his messages, but he always did mine. Finally gave me his number and asked for mine. So I give it to him. I close saying, "oh, and congrats on your wedding! Looking forward to meeting your wife." Never. Heard. From him again.

I'm holding out for the one I'll be in love with, I've realized. I want THAT, so every other guy that comes around and shows some interest kinda ammounts to a nice stroke to my ego, and that's all. I'm never mean to them, but I don't string them and myself along.

(I still want to jump the bones of the 2nd guy I loved, just because he's hot and to say to myself that I did. Rationally, I know it's stupid and it'll be meaningless, but the 17-year-old inside me still wants to have that notch. Teenagers )

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posted August 15, 2014 11:54 AM            

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posted August 15, 2014 12:22 PM            

If you guys had to choose one and ONLY one psychic for each category, who would you choose?

I or anyone can tally up the results once it seems like everyone answered and then can add another category.

The categories can be as specific as you like. I think this would help those who is just starting to get readings and those who just want to make a quick decision as to who to choose without too much confusion or being overwhelmed.

I hope everyone will participate.

posted August 15, 2014 12:35 PM            

This guy invited himself to my home to study. Wanted to do a daily study date. I wasn't too interested in it, but I thought, "it's studying, what's the harm in it?" We were both 18 at the time. Anyways, he came over the first day and tried to kiss me. I was into Guy I Loved #2, so I deflected him and played dumb. Told him I'd lend him books if he wanted to study but I didn't think a study group was a good idea. He insisted on a second study date, so I called over my best friend in order to make it crystal that I wasn't into him. They both came over and we basically just chatted, right? Next thing I know, he's hitting on my best friend in front of me. I don't if he wanted her as well or he was trying to make me jealous, but it sure backfired in his face. I told him it was time for him to go and made hand motions towards the door. He stalled, asked me to walk him to the door (door was maybe 20 steps away, if that). He texts me a couple of days later to tell me he wants to return the books he borrowed; I say, "sure, leave them with the doorman"; he asks, "can't I come over?"; I say, "are you sure you wanna do that?"; he finally decides, "I'll leave the books with the doorman then".

We chatted a few times on FB throughout the years. He was the only person who read the 55-page dissertation for my final paper. He's mentioned in my Thanks Page, too.

Last year we talked again and he says, "Wow, haven't talked to you since high school!" To which I replied, "Are you crazy? We talked 2 years ago. You read my college dissertation!" He played dumb and we talked about other stuff.

This guy is a really good person, and he's cute to boot, but he has this ugly need where he tries to mindgame you to give him the upper hand that is just... no-no in my books. He's a great friend, though.

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For those who are wondering and curious, my astro placements:
Virgo Sun in 10th
Aqua Moon in 2nd
Leo Venus in 8th
Aries Mars Rx in 4th
Capricorn Rising

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posted August 15, 2014 12:39 PM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
Fille wrote a list to display the foolishness of men. *a tear* 😢 I'm so proud.

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And then I gave you another example.

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posted August 15, 2014 12:42 PM            

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It is a mix. I'll hold on and even when I let go, try to go back. You know.... Just in case it could be good (that goes for everything). Then Scorpio moon is over it. That's where my emotions are and I just cannot fake them. I cannot maintain bulls*** relationships. I just cannot.

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that makes more sense i truly have had leos not give up for years and if i contacted them now know they would be open to be in touch but that is more friends than lovers to be fair.

I think if they chose to end it then maybe it might be different also rather than not being given the choice.

I agree the other parts of the chart come into play i don't know what it is but i have a switch that can tolerate so much then BAM once its flipped I've never worked out how to flip it back i can go years and never even have the person cross my mind.
I once reconciliated with a friend as she was so ill and i am not a bad person i wanted to help her, just thinking i could have her as a light level friend. I moved away due to a number of things she did i felt were inappropriate. When we started speaking again she was saying how much she missed me when i wasn't in her life, truth was i just never even thought of her, its a weird thing once the switch switches its just like that person never existed, but it does take a LOT to get to that point when the emotions are real.

posted August 15, 2014 12:44 PM            

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Originally posted by LoadedPistil:
I had one guy ... Pretty much a sexual thing. He separated at one point like all psychics predicted, but went back to her. I was interested in no one for years so I let it continue. Then M came along. I cut him off and he went through this whole ego trip " We wouldn't have worked anyway, right? But maybe we would've!" I recorded the conversation, so I won't convince myself he said anything but what he said.

He came back months later. "But what if it works out with you and M and my situation doesn't work out. What about me?"

WHHHHHAAAAAAATTTTTTTT?!?!?!?!?!!!!!!
GET OFF MY STOOP

Btw, I made this gif myself.

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posted August 15, 2014 12:47 PM            

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Originally posted by filleaspirant:
I'm of the mind that if a guy is not engaging, then he's not interested and wants me to beat it. So I do. I usually do 2 tries before I make up my mind, but if I have to continually initiate conversation and his answers are short and to the point - bye! Not wasting my time nor his. I do hold on feelings wise, though. I can't help it. What I can help is what I choose to do, that's all.

I have loved 2 guys. I have been interested in 5 guys, including those 2. (I have Venus-Pluto square and my Sun is smack on my Venus-Pluto midpoint - love is not about fun and flirting to me and I don't compromise what I want.) Both guys I've loved reach out to me if they don't hear from me; the 1st one doesn't hear from me at all, so he contacts me every 2 years, while the second one I can't seem to shake off for long, so we contact one another when we think the other has been quiet for too long. The other 2 guys I've been interested in... One I tried to keep in touch by email - he'd keep his replies short and to the point, until he finally stopped answering. I emailed him twice after my last email went unanswered and let it go. If he comes around, I'm not giving him 10 sec of my day. The other one I'm interested in shows signs of interest, but he keeps trying to ask me out without asking me out on a date. I'm oblivious to this kind of approach so I never catch onto what he's doing before I've already said I'm too busy. Weird thing is, people seem to think I have his number and that we talk a lot, but the 2 or 3 times I tried FB-chatting with him, he left me talking after 5 min. I hate when people do that, so this is a major issue for me.

I've had random guys approaching me by saying 'hey, don't I know you from ____' and they usually do, but I don't know them and it freaks me out that they think they know me. I was waiting to sit for an exam while chatting with some people; we all started saying where we went to college and when I said mine, guy went, "I knew it was you. I used to see you in the corridors. I taught (subject) there." First, I was rarely loitering in the corridors. Second, guy never taught any of the classes I took. Third, he had a commitment ring on. Fourth, it freaked me out that he remembered me after 3 years had passed. I was out of that circle of people in 3 min.

Another guy FB-friended me. I find out he's an old family acquaintance. At the time I was 12 and had a huge crush on him, he was 14 and thought he was too good for me. Kept pushing for a meet-up and wanting to know what I've been doing and what I had done in the past. I never replied right away to his messages, but he always did mine. Finally gave me his number and asked for mine. So I give it to him. I close saying, "oh, and congrats on your wedding! Looking forward to meeting your wife." Never. Heard. From him again.

I'm holding out for the one I'll be in love with, I've realized. I want THAT, so every other guy that comes around and shows some interest kinda ammounts to a nice stroke to my ego, and that's all. I'm never mean to them, but I don't string them and myself along.

(I still want to jump the bones of the 2nd guy I loved, just because he's hot and to say to myself that I did. Rationally, I know it's stupid and it'll be meaningless, but the 17-year-old inside me still wants to have that notch. Teenagers )

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I'm very similar to you loved two men that one is on the sort of weird place and hasn't been anything yet and the other was a nightmare from start to finish. Fancied maybe another 5 men in my life.

posted August 15, 2014 12:48 PM            

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Originally posted by minimini:
do you guys believe candle work??
like green candles could bring $ in stuff???

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posted August 15, 2014 12:49 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
I'm glad you shared Fille. Unfortunately my list would be a long list of rejection. I've never been too successful with love and I'm seriously beginning to think at my age that it's just not meant to be for me. It's exhausting. The constant hoping and trying. I'm just not in a good place right now is all.

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posted August 15, 2014 01:04 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
I'm glad you shared Fille. Unfortunately my list would be a long list of rejection. I've never been too successful with love and I'm seriously beginning to think at my age that it's just not meant to be for me. It's exhausting. The constant hoping and trying. I'm just not in a good place right now is all.

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To be honest, I think the reason I haven't been rejected so much is that I just don't act on any of the attractions I feel for guys. I don't know why, I just don't feel compelled to go after strangers, even though I feel a initial pull. In all fairness, it takes me 1-2 years to even trust my feelings for a person for me to do anything about it.

I'm turning 26 this September and I haven't ever had a boyfriend or gone on a romantic date. I'm by no means asexual, but I can't work up the will to go on blind dates or chat up guys I know nothing about. I do want the experience of dating and being in a relationship, but I just don't feel that for most guys. To push through my reservations just to be a couple with someone I'm not in love with doesn't appeal to me. I want what I want and I want to be treated the way I want. I can't compromise on anything aside that - that would feel like settling for less and I wouldn't be true to myself if I did that. I'd rather be all alone for the rest of my life than to have a lukewarm relationship with a guy.

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posted August 15, 2014 01:51 PM            

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Originally posted by PSYCHE:

I'm very similar to you loved two men that one is on the sort of weird place and hasn't been anything yet and the other was a nightmare from start to finish. Fancied maybe another 5 men in my life.

It sucks to be like this in a way i wish i was one of those people that could deb interested in loads of guys or casual dating but i need the real thing to even get something off the ground with dating, and its SO RARE TO FIND!!!!!

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I don't know, I don't mind being this way. I've been told it's an attractor factor for guys so...

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posted August 15, 2014 02:45 PM            

As people that got a hold in my heart- I think only my first love (girlfriend,scorp) and this guy that I had lots of psychic readings on( taurus), that ever moved me in such a way that actually good for my self-expansion (facing fears, admitting wantsand needs and a bit more on unconditional side.)

Lately though, seems like it's easier for me to get ppl attracted somewhat, maybe because I don't invest in anything much anymore and just flirting/charm up for fun. But I won't lead them on, not until I've completely moved on.

I guess since i'm privileged that I don't seek to build a family and financially independent, I am in no hurry to find someone that could match what I might need in life... well, I'm not even looking, which is why i'm single i guess :I

but at least now i know i'm very into ppl with lust for learning and expansion of self.. especially if their look/appearance betray their actual personality. might be my scorp moon ;p

Asc Capricorn
Sun Pisces House 3
Moon Scorpio House 10
Mercury Pisces House 3
Venus Pisces House 3
Mars Sagi House 12
Jupiter Pisces House 3

posted August 15, 2014 03:27 PM            

Like, you have your free will to do x and y, but when you meet a certain person or experienced a certain event, it triggers a path in your life. You can choose to take that path and like a real life path, you can stray from it also but that requires going off the path extremely (think of forest path)

So I believe there are paths that can be triggered by meeting certain events, people or what have you, but you have a free will to successfully complete that path in your life or not.

I don't think some ppl are meant to be alone nor some are meant for coupledom.

Ppl that tend to end up alone usually they have this unshakable belief within themselves that their needs are not worthy of someone else's devotion. This triggers the easiest (and lonely) path. As life gets tougher, it discourages the mind even more, so you get even deeper into the path- sometimes to the point it gets really numb and you completely abandoned your needs and wants.

The solution tend to sound simple- to let go of the attachment to the outcome (eg coupledom), and admit+accept on what do you really seek in a relationship- why do you not want to be alone? Is it family making, happy ending story, romance, self-expansion.. or what?

Many ppl seem to partner up so easily because they tend to take it lightly- they have one or two thing in mind about what they want (unsure about need) and they tend to get that, cause they just think it's a natural thing to get (aka no attachment to the outcome because they believe they will naturally get together with anyone/someone, just a matter of compatibility)

posted August 15, 2014 03:40 PM            

Some paths are stronger than the other (aka seen as soul connection or something like that) so some psychics can be very sure that oh yea it's coming no worries- because the energy... it's felt so strongly. But free will still play part in it because humans are so interesting and unique, each with powerful minds, so they able to take another choice- despite the energy involved.

To continue the path analogy- I see psychics predictions as something like this:
U ask about the condition of the path you're in/about to take, or the possibility of the bad weather. Your psychic is someone who are experienced + in tune with the universe so they can sense the weather and stuff- so they tell you about the possibility according to the current situation. They can see the paths- how broken or smooth the paths are, or how easily seen they can be. So they say (while not going thru that path themselves) yeah seems ok/looking good/not recommended/you will be fine/dangerous

But like any paths, those are just guidance. A smooth path seen does not mean it will be without any accidents (which can be human error or other stuff) . A dangerous path does not mean you cannot successfully traverse it.

The difference of (genuine) good and bad psychics is how well they can fit what they see (paths) to the inquirer. Has to be able to clearly see the path- and also assess if the inquirer has enough strength to traverse it to get a clear yes/no. Most psychics probably only describe the paths- or see the inquirer and rarely balance both (as psychics are humans too, and like any professional/skilled jobs, how well u are at ur job depends on how well u 'translate' problems into 'solvable' things & you can still create mistakes even if you're so good at it cause you're still a regular person)

So, the key player is still you- which is why psychic readings should be empowering while being honest because by the end of the day, it's you the pathwalker that is the most powerful decision maker of your own life.

Psychic readings lead to disappointment perhaps when ppl rely on the guidance to happen instead of doing other things & take the guidance as a warning, not as the goal.

"You will reach the end of the path." does not mean you don't have to walk it.

posted August 15, 2014 04:28 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
I'm glad you shared Fille. Unfortunately my list would be a long list of rejection. I've never been too successful with love and I'm seriously beginning to think at my age that it's just not meant to be for me. It's exhausting. The constant hoping and trying. I'm just not in a good place right now is all.

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I feel the same at the moment... maybe because things at work are not so great and there's nothing going on with relationships.

The guy 'B' I was chatting to, we were chatting for 3 weeks every day and it went horribly wrong after the phone call and then I think he was over it, I initiated most of the conversations after that and tried to go back to happy chatting but no use really... and he hasn't messaged since Tuesday... and I'm not going to message him.

Funny thing, I spoke to the numerologist from back home last week and he told me the numbers aren't that great between 'B' and I.

And then yesterday the numerologist texted me to ask how I'm going so I told him that nothing has been going much 'B' hasn't texted since Tue. An the numerologist goes - 'well, we knew that was going to happen, good thing you've let it go, you can meet someone else now'. So I whinged to him a bit and he said 'I know that you need encouragement that's why I'm not deserting you, I'm here to support you'. Very nice of him.

posted August 15, 2014 04:32 PM            

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I do believe it can work but I personally haven't had any success. I've used candles anointed with oils specifically for attracting money, love etc and have also had dressed candles set for me at Lucky Mojo but they didn't work either. I have had minor success using the oils on their own but nothing major.

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Same.
I had candles set for me at Lucky Mojo, and I think couple of years ago it did work but the ones I've done through them in the past year didn't seem to work...

I think there's no harm in lighting a candle to ask for help.

What did work for me was - to write on a piece of paper what I'd like help with from the angles - fold the paper into four - light it (place it in a safe dish, fire resistant) and as the smoke goes up from the paper imagine that smoke (request) is going to the angels.

I've done that couple of months ago and I asked for a job - 2 hours later got a call for an interview (that the job I'm in now).

posted August 15, 2014 05:15 PM              

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Originally posted by St@r2013:
I feel the same at the moment... maybe because things at work are not so great and there's nothing going on with relationships.

The guy 'B' I was chatting to, we were chatting for 3 weeks every day and it went horribly wrong after the phone call and then I think he was over it, I initiated most of the conversations after that and tried to go back to happy chatting but no use really... and he hasn't messaged since Tuesday... and I'm not going to message him.

Funny thing, I spoke to the numerologist from back home last week and he told me the numbers aren't that great between 'B' and I.

And then yesterday the numerologist texted me to ask how I'm going so I told him that nothing has been going much 'B' hasn't texted since Tue. An the numerologist goes - 'well, we knew that was going to happen, good thing you've let it go, you can meet someone else now'. So I whinged to him a bit and he said 'I know that you need encouragement that's why I'm not deserting you, I'm here to support you'. Very nice of him.

It just seems lately every ready I've done says that there will be two guys I'll meet - one this year but it won't work out and one next year, and that one will work out... just wish I'd meet the one it suppose to work out with already... feel like every year I'm told - you'll meet 'the one' and then every year I don't ....

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Sorry to hear that St@r. I was told P was the one and that never happened. I was told A wasn't the one but a relationship. Honestly it doesn't even look like that's going anywhere at the moment. I keep getting told the right one is coming before the end of the year. It's hard to not lose faith though. I've been single so long I just want someone to tell me they love me that isn't related to me.

posted August 15, 2014 05:27 PM            

The other interesting thing he told me that it's much healthier for women when they are the ones initiating the breakup than being dumped... and I see the logic in that.

So with regards to A, I think I personally would have taken the advice of your friends and asked him - are you interested in chatting further? yes or no. And then you'll actually get a clear answer.

But that's me... at times I can be super blunt with people ...