posted August 18, 2014 11:49 PM            

I always also ask about his relations, and most of them say he is not in love, but they are good together. Some said, his gf is manipulative and clingy (which I can see the clinginess actually now that I spent time with them together but they were very affectionate and sensual to each other, lots of PDAs) and not an open minded person. But some said, she is fine, just what they ultimately need is not the same thing.

So, i think 50% said he will be too scared to make a move to ever be in relationship with me, but will remain in my life somewhat... somehow (either for selfish reasons or actually because of care)

30% said he's not himself and influenced into making bad decisions because of his own fears- and will forget about me for a while- but when clarity happens he will return and clarify everything (no mention of romance, just healing)

and the other 20% says he will be in my path, just very complex time, and time apart means nothing- just experiences away from each other to grow and return together- we have to grow before we can be together, else it will fail due to his problems not addressing his own mistakes (because of hurt), but "he will be in my path guaranteed. "

100% of them say he will break up with his current gf no doubt.

but if u think about it, most ppl dont have relationship THIS complicated- and they're ok with it. So maybe they will work out anyway.

I think this is just my first time having such strong connection with someone before- and it happens to be someone almost unattainable. and he was the first person whose affection truly heals me. (we were never physical as well - he was the one who told me he wont sleep with me. which is why I always question the romance aspect to the psychics I had readings with )

It hurts, but I rather had those experiences than not because I admit I grew a lot in the past year because of this experience. I even owned my femininity and repaired my past traumas (family issues) and my career skyrocketed (not for him- was motivated because I need to distract myself haha)

posted August 19, 2014 12:49 AM            

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Originally posted by peacefulclouds:
I always ask about the connection : Is it familial connection, such as sisterly connection, not romantic? And most psychics say no, there's attraction- romance, warmth and even deeper than that.

I always also ask about his relations, and most of them say he is not in love, but they are good together. Some said, his gf is manipulative and clingy (which I can see the clinginess actually now that I spent time with them together but they were very affectionate and sensual to each other, lots of PDAs) and not an open minded person. But some said, she is fine, just what they ultimately need is not the same thing.

So, i think 50% said he will be too scared to make a move to ever be in relationship with me, but will remain in my life somewhat... somehow (either for selfish reasons or actually because of care)

30% said he's not himself and influenced into making bad decisions because of his own fears- and will forget about me for a while- but when clarity happens he will return and clarify everything (no mention of romance, just healing)

and the other 20% says he will be in my path, just very complex time, and time apart means nothing- just experiences away from each other to grow and return together- we have to grow before we can be together, else it will fail due to his problems not addressing his own mistakes (because of hurt), but "he will be in my path guaranteed. "

100% of them say he will break up with his current gf no doubt.

but if u think about it, most ppl dont have relationship THIS complicated- and they're ok with it. So maybe they will work out anyway.

I think this is just my first time having such strong connection with someone before- and it happens to be someone almost unattainable. and he was the first person whose affection truly heals me. (we were never physical as well - he was the one who told me he wont sleep with me. which is why I always question the romance aspect to the psychics I had readings with )

It hurts, but I rather had those experiences than not because I admit I grew a lot in the past year because of this experience. I even owned my femininity and repaired my past traumas (family issues) and my career skyrocketed (not for him- was motivated because I need to distract myself haha)

Just, sad that's the extend of sharing we could have had....

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oh i felt for you Cloud.
my A is exact same pain at axx.
i first fell for him at May2011, to be honest i broke up with my ex because of him. after i met A, i literally know that the relationship with ex was not the same anymore and would never be the same.
i hated to break up when i was dating someone else at the same time.
so i just initiated the break up and moved out. so i can set myself free before going into another relationship.
i was SOOOO naive, naive in the way that i believed another relationship would come as i wanted.
NO.
A was very very shy, very very reserved and very very very slow. ALL my readers told me same thing, they said it is going to take time; but i didnt notice it took me 3 years, 36 months just to get a DATE.
now, i know A warms up....but i am done. totally done. it takes him 36 months to date me, then maybe another 36 months to propose then another 36 months to sleep together...what if i found out he is not able to xxxx??
NO!!
lol

posted August 19, 2014 12:57 AM            

But I have no problem flirting/charm other ppl up, just will feel guilty if they end up having feelings for me for real so I keep my distance. But perhaps this is something I need to work on... I notice I get attracted to complex people (or ppl have baggage), even from the first impression.

You know what's funny? Every single one of my exes found their long term partner after they dumped me, so maybe that's why destiny in life: marriage catalyst- just have to date me first! *siiigh lol*

posted August 19, 2014 01:04 AM            

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Originally posted by peacefulclouds:
Haha! That sucks minimini- I'm not shy but it's just because that's my professional face- in reality I'm quite fragile, which is maybe why I like this guy so much, he can see through me (and I him) so feeling consistently vulnerable yet actually taken care of was very liberating.

But I have no problem flirting/charm other ppl up, just will feel guilty if they end up having feelings for me for real so I keep my distance.

So I think now I realize, connection is nice but hardly works out. If it does, it's something for profound mystery. lol.

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posted August 19, 2014 01:06 AM            

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Originally posted by peacefulclouds:
Haha! That sucks minimini- I'm not shy but it's just because that's my professional face- in reality I'm quite fragile, which is maybe why I like this guy so much, he can see through me (and I him) so feeling consistently vulnerable yet actually taken care of was very liberating.

But I have no problem flirting/charm other ppl up, just will feel guilty if they end up having feelings for me for real so I keep my distance. But perhaps this is something I need to work on... I notice I get attracted to complex people (or ppl have baggage), even from the first impression.

You know what's funny? Every single one of my exes found their long term partner after they dumped me, so maybe that's why destiny in life: marriage catalyst- just have to date me first! *siiigh lol*

So I think now I realize, connection is nice but hardly works out. If it does, it's something for profound mystery. lol.

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posted August 19, 2014 01:10 AM            

Though we're too complex to use the power only for the highest good ;P

I find it funny he came forth now, minimini. He's starting to pursue u?

I think it'll be unlikely this guy pursue me in the future.. he's already 50, he knew if he 'pursue' me after he broke up, it'll sour our relationship because it's as if i'm being used as a last resort. and I'm still so young.

posted August 19, 2014 01:35 AM            

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Originally posted by minimini:
connection is one thing, being together being committed is another thing.
i learnt from A no matter how connected at one point with someone; it doesn't mean you two will be together. a connection may just a connection; it will be there forever but it doesnt neccessarily materialise.
we were very very connected; when i first met him, we were travelling with few other friends. sometimes i just looked at him i know what he wanted and i know he can feel the same too. BUT just connection didnt bring us together.
i tried to initiate something i tried to give him hints i tried to make him feel confidence i tried to make him feel comfortable. i tried whatever i can to make him come out of his kennel; he is right now. but i am done.
afterall, TIMING is more critical than anything else.

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I've had the connection once before and currently

This time round I'm having counseling from a spiritual pair in union it's really good we go into all my issues and blocks and stuff from family and childhood etc

It has actually changed my life and I truly do believe that a lot of why the spiritual connections don't work is because we don't realise that the energy matters more than the actions
It's a spiritual connection thus energy makes all the difference
Possibly even with none spiritual connections.

We can be super cool and never message them but while our full focus is on them they we havnt rly left them alone we are atill chasing
It's not easy
I'll let you know when I'm proficient at really removing my energy but I'm getting better .

posted August 19, 2014 01:37 AM            

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Originally posted by minimini:
haha
jennifer i mentioned her here long time ago; she is good. not a lot of details she could provide but she was spot on and accurate with the things i asked her by then.
Stephanie is definitely a sweetheart; her accuracy for me is like 70%. no time frame could be provided.

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I don't rly believe in time frames anyway
I'm happier it's open ended so don't have loads of expectations her and Jennifer said pretty much identical
Altho I did yet a time line from Jennifer inline with others

posted August 19, 2014 01:43 AM            

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Originally posted by peacefulclouds:
yeah, I think that's what so wonderful about the human mind (if believing in spiritual connections, fate, life paths etc)- we can break chains of fate for better or for worse.

Though we're too complex to use the power only for the highest good ;P

I find it funny he came forth now, minimini. He's starting to pursue u?

I think it'll be unlikely this guy pursue me in the future.. he's already 50, he knew if he 'pursue' me after he broke up, it'll sour our relationship because it's as if i'm being used as a last resort. and I'm still so young.

eitherway, it's complex, it's fear based on care not pure selfishness, so that's what makes it harder to move on. But I will, just have to focus on the simplified ver: He's just not that into me to even try the risk, so move on, gurllll.

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he is 50....well, let the connection be the connection only then. seriously, 20+ age difference i dont see it works; it may work for 10 yrs but then ?

sorry if i sounded like a mom..i could be hahaha

yes, A is stepping up now. at first he was trying to initiate chat with me and another friend (yes, he is such a loser he always have to chat with one more person) i didnt reply.
then he started sending cats pictures in that chatroom coz i love cats; i still didnt reply.
then he said at his facebook he lost his contacts in mobiles (chats as well) so asking his friends to add him and chat so he can get all the contacts back. i still didnt do anything, i was thinking; holy are you a high school student?
finally he chatted me himself asking me how am i doing (i thought you lost all your contacts weeper!!??)
i replied; i am doing good thanks for asking.

posted August 19, 2014 01:58 AM            

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Originally posted by PSYCHE:
I've had the connection once before and currently

This time round I'm having counseling from a spiritual pair in union it's really good we go into all my issues and blocks and stuff from family and childhood etc

It has actually changed my life and I truly do believe that a lot of why the spiritual connections don't work is because we don't realise that the energy matters more than the actions
It's a spiritual connection thus energy makes all the difference
Possibly even with none spiritual connections.

We can be super cool and never message them but while our full focus is on them they we havnt rly left them alone we are atill chasing
It's not easy
I'll let you know when I'm proficient at really removing my energy but I'm getting better .

I did promise no more readings though with this counselling and it's bought up do much and made so much happen between us I've had more than ever

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i think i understand what you meant by 'energy'...that is the 'chi' in chinese.
i do believe due to my childhood i used to have a lot of blockages. at 37, it was a very critical age to me, something dramatic happened i started seeing a psychologist; and it helped a LOT to review to verify to let go and to rebuild my true self. i really do think after this journey, a lot of my blockage disappeared; and i could feel my life is MUCH smoother than before. i can feel ppl come to me, i can feel problems could be solved easier, i can feel good intentions from others....

posted August 19, 2014 03:44 AM            

I'm not looking to have a child nor build a family line, so maybe that is why I'm less concerned of the future, and I'm a little unconventional maybe, rather be with someone for only 10 yrs but at least it's filled with growth rather than stagnancy of 40+ yrs.

posted August 19, 2014 09:45 AM            

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Originally posted by peacefulclouds:
I always ask about the connection : Is it familial connection, such as sisterly connection, not romantic? And most psychics say no, there's attraction- romance, warmth and even deeper than that.

I always also ask about his relations, and most of them say he is not in love, but they are good together. Some said, his gf is manipulative and clingy (which I can see the clinginess actually now that I spent time with them together but they were very affectionate and sensual to each other, lots of PDAs) and not an open minded person. But some said, she is fine, just what they ultimately need is not the same thing.

So, i think 50% said he will be too scared to make a move to ever be in relationship with me, but will remain in my life somewhat... somehow (either for selfish reasons or actually because of care)

30% said he's not himself and influenced into making bad decisions because of his own fears- and will forget about me for a while- but when clarity happens he will return and clarify everything (no mention of romance, just healing)

and the other 20% says he will be in my path, just very complex time, and time apart means nothing- just experiences away from each other to grow and return together- we have to grow before we can be together, else it will fail due to his problems not addressing his own mistakes (because of hurt), but "he will be in my path guaranteed. "

100% of them say he will break up with his current gf no doubt.

but if u think about it, most ppl dont have relationship THIS complicated- and they're ok with it. So maybe they will work out anyway.

I think this is just my first time having such strong connection with someone before- and it happens to be someone almost unattainable. and he was the first person whose affection truly heals me. (we were never physical as well - he was the one who told me he wont sleep with me. which is why I always question the romance aspect to the psychics I had readings with )

It hurts, but I rather had those experiences than not because I admit I grew a lot in the past year because of this experience. I even owned my femininity and repaired my past traumas (family issues) and my career skyrocketed (not for him- was motivated because I need to distract myself haha)

Just, sad that's the extend of sharing we could have had....

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posted August 19, 2014 10:10 AM            

I don't have high hopes for the future love either, but it is really time for me to accept the truth and just go. From now on I will just do readings for others or do my own personal thing. It was a good experience, and it's just the time to focus on what's here and now, and make a decision for my own life -now-, and close that chapter of my book.

I've grown spiritually by miles, so I did not regret spending all those money. If anything, they have listened to me, made me think and I'll think of it as a nice warm blanket that gave me nice dreams, even if not reality but at those moments I had a nice dream and that's plenty enough

thanks everyone especially those who responded, and read my ventings- once I'm less busy I'd like to offer free readings in the forum as thanks. Good luck, and wishing for your happiness and good news

posted August 19, 2014 12:54 PM            

I. Died. Laughing.

When I first saw her with her husband and kids I was.... Confused. She looks like a 5'10" Rosie O'Donnell. Please let me be a member of the family when this comes out. Please. Please. Please. Please. I'm going straight to hell, but PLEASE. PLEASE. PLEASE

I can't believe she picked that up. I was like

Jazzy was like...

posted August 19, 2014 01:58 PM            

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Originally posted by MinceyMouse:
Bitwine?

Shy Owl.

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Interestingly Shy Owl is the only reader who gave me a totally negative outcome on my situation.

So that leaves me to question all of you lovelies on LL...

What happens when many readers see the same thing but one seemingly legit reader sees the complete & utter opposite??

posted August 19, 2014 02:10 PM            

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Originally posted by IntuitiveJ:
LP- she is scary good for you!
Send those vibes my way please 😁😁😁

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You wanna come to hell?! Because that's where I'm going.