posted August 25, 2014 02:22 PM            

Another thing I don't like is how they bash the other woman. Look its okay to feel hurt when a guy chooses someone else over you, its okay to not like that person because of that (immature, but who can help it?) but psychics will just drag the other girl through the mud and I don't think thats fair. Oh she's a "***** " and a "**** " she has "bad energy" shes "no good for him"....like whatever first of all he still picked her so what does that say about him if she is all those things? Second of all, this girl has probably been just as hurt and lost and alone as you are now, just because hes with someone else doesn't mean she is a terrible person. Also this promotes anti-sisterhood and I find that to be pretty despicable.

posted August 25, 2014 02:33 PM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
The thing that frustrates me about psychics is that (regardless of their ability) none of them can be straight up. Like I'm sorry, but if a guy hasn't contacted me in 2 weeks, 3 months, 4 years...he's NOT interested in me! If we told our mothers or friends about these guys they would tell us that this guy is a jerk and we need to move on. Hell, a stranger on the street would tell us to move on. From my experience, even when the guy does finally contact you, its not that he has come to his senses and realized what a mistake he has made...it that he remembers how easy it was to get me hooked so he thinks he can get what he wants out of me again. A psychic will go on and on about how crazy he is about you...if he's crazy about me and can't stop thinking about me how come he can go weeks without talking to me?It's not that he's "busy" (who isn't busy) or "confused" or has "family issues". Its because I'm not on the radar and he doesn't care. When a guy wants a relationship with you he puts in effort. Period.

Another thing I don't like is how they bash the other woman. Look its okay to feel hurt when a guy chooses someone else over you, its okay to not like that person because of that (immature, but who can help it?) but psychics will just drag the other girl through the mud and I don't think thats fair. Oh she's a "***** " and a "**** " she has "bad energy" shes "no good for him"....like whatever first of all he still picked her so what does that say about him if she is all those things? Second of all, this girl has probably been just as hurt and lost and alone as you are now, just because hes with someone else doesn't mean she is a terrible person. Also this promotes anti-sisterhood and I find that to be pretty despicable.

Anything for a good review, I guess.

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posted August 25, 2014 03:11 PM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
The thing that frustrates me about psychics is that (regardless of their ability) none of them can be straight up. Like I'm sorry, but if a guy hasn't contacted me in 2 weeks, 3 months, 4 years...he's NOT interested in me! If we told our mothers or friends about these guys they would tell us that this guy is a jerk and we need to move on. Hell, a stranger on the street would tell us to move on. From my experience, even when the guy does finally contact you, its not that he has come to his senses and realized what a mistake he has made...it that he remembers how easy it was to get me hooked so he thinks he can get what he wants out of me again. A psychic will go on and on about how crazy he is about you...if he's crazy about me and can't stop thinking about me how come he can go weeks without talking to me?It's not that he's "busy" (who isn't busy) or "confused" or has "family issues". Its because I'm not on the radar and he doesn't care. When a guy wants a relationship with you he puts in effort. Period.

Another thing I don't like is how they bash the other woman. Look its okay to feel hurt when a guy chooses someone else over you, its okay to not like that person because of that (immature, but who can help it?) but psychics will just drag the other girl through the mud and I don't think thats fair. Oh she's a "***** " and a "**** " she has "bad energy" shes "no good for him"....like whatever first of all he still picked her so what does that say about him if she is all those things? Second of all, this girl has probably been just as hurt and lost and alone as you are now, just because hes with someone else doesn't mean she is a terrible person. Also this promotes anti-sisterhood and I find that to be pretty despicable.

Anything for a good review, I guess.

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posted August 25, 2014 03:18 PM            

If they were straight forward enough, we wouldn't have to hold on to a fantasy. Plus, even if he likes you, the energy can change! That's why I don't trust the so-called feelings they pick on. He can like you one day, change his mind then when the grass doesn't look so greener anymore, come back around.

A guy who is truly into you will always keep contact. He won't drop you because you said XYZ or because he's busy. Unless you're completely nuts or highly unlikable, if a guy likes you, he's going to stick around. Guys don't disappear on girls they secretly like! No guy likes someone secretly when they had the chance to date them. Sure, they might like you from afar if they haven't approached you yet but if you've already dated/been on dates, it just means he's not interested. Or maybe not interested enough to pursue you!

"You shouldn't take this personally because it's obviously his loss. You're an amazing woman and any guy would be lucky to have you. If this man wasn't able to see what you have to offer then he's just not the right guy for you! " - That's what I always TRY to tell myself.

Us, women, are wasting so much energy on men who barely remember our names! We're just another number/chick. If they don't care to stick around the first time, they won't the second/third ... You can't raise a man. You can't get him to like you (unless he's got no options and he suddenly shows up).

For the first time in my life, I ended up being someone's last resort before he turned to hookers. Trust me, it hurt me to the core! He only came back around when he gathered he had no sex options. When I said no to sex, the next day I found out he created an account on a sex website a couple of hours after our last date. He hasn't contacted me since. Yes, that's the infamous N I was so hooked on.

Damn girl, where's your head at?! Have some pride ladies! Don't let any man make you feel worthless.

@Fairy - I know men haven't been so nice to you, but girl, you seem like an amazing woman with a big heart! I'm sure these men will eat their hearts out one day. You seem to have so much love to offer, don't let these men destroy your hopes. You'll find true love girly! Hold on. The Angels above are definitely looking out for you. A man's rejection is God's protection. The right guy will come along, don't you worry

I believe you came across these men to be taught a lesson. Whatever that lesson is, once you learn it, you won't care about them anymore. Look for the similarities in those stories and try to understand what's the pattern you need to drop. The right guy will come along once you will have learned these lessons.

I genuinely hope you'll find true love. You seem so deserving and genuine, God always rewards good persons

Yes Ladies, it's time to empower yourselves! Don't let any man destroy your self-pride or make you feel bad about yourself. Lord, we all know men have a lot to learn too! Just because a specific man doesn't want you, doesn't mean you're bad. It just means there's a reason. The reasons are not always transparent but in time, you'll understand why it didn't work and you wonder: "Why did I waste so much time on him?".

Besides, you want to be a man's priority! You don't want to be someone's option. It's cliché, but it's true. Me thinks that if a man doesn't cherish you from day 1, then he's not worthy of your time especially if he comes back around after some disappearing act.

Dating and love are supposed to bring you happiness and fun. If you find yourself worrying about a man to the point where it affects you personally and it becomes an issue, just wash you hands off of him. He certainly isn't the one!

Stay strong y'all!

<3

posted August 25, 2014 03:40 PM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
The thing that frustrates me about psychics is that (regardless of their ability) none of them can be straight up. Like I'm sorry, but if a guy hasn't contacted me in 2 weeks, 3 months, 4 years...he's NOT interested in me! If we told our mothers or friends about these guys they would tell us that this guy is a jerk and we need to move on. Hell, a stranger on the street would tell us to move on. From my experience, even when the guy does finally contact you, its not that he has come to his senses and realized what a mistake he has made...it that he remembers how easy it was to get me hooked so he thinks he can get what he wants out of me again. A psychic will go on and on about how crazy he is about you...if he's crazy about me and can't stop thinking about me how come he can go weeks without talking to me?It's not that he's "busy" (who isn't busy) or "confused" or has "family issues". Its because I'm not on the radar and he doesn't care. When a guy wants a relationship with you he puts in effort. Period.

Another thing I don't like is how they bash the other woman. Look its okay to feel hurt when a guy chooses someone else over you, its okay to not like that person because of that (immature, but who can help it?) but psychics will just drag the other girl through the mud and I don't think thats fair. Oh she's a "***** " and a "**** " she has "bad energy" shes "no good for him"....like whatever first of all he still picked her so what does that say about him if she is all those things? Second of all, this girl has probably been just as hurt and lost and alone as you are now, just because hes with someone else doesn't mean she is a terrible person. Also this promotes anti-sisterhood and I find that to be pretty despicable.

Anything for a good review, I guess.

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I do agree however one thing I will say is with this latest soul connection I can't control my emotions one minute I miss him like crazy and love him
Then I have anxiety attacks and want to block him on every app for no reason other than things I made up in my head
He triggers me so badly I can't control it
I have full on anxiety attacks and want to ignore and sabotage
Then a day later I'll be missing again
It's only counsellors and my own desire to push though this stuff for my own healing that makes me able to face it or even try.

So fears of commitment and stuff can be horrific and genuine and account for some running I guess

I suppose why truth and honesty from both sides is important but it's hard to say I have anxiety attacks over you and want to block and ignore u
Especially for a guy to say it

posted August 25, 2014 03:59 PM            

Psychic maya reynolds also told me (bitwine ya) that she sensed strong energy that she wondered why i need to get readings in the first place. (This is when i was still getting readings abt the dude too lol)

Gave me tips to conquer my emotional side so i can start using it for good. She felt i can see through things so easily- BS meter is high - and can heal people if i choose to and change outcome of things, but only when my emotional side is conquered.

So, maybe i should take the good (tips of self improvement, DLD gave me some too actually w/out me asking and it helped) and throw away the bad (false hopes).

About girl ppl choose: right- if a man choose a 'negative' girl it also shows his character- so rather than hating on the gf, we should question him also.

But if u have any chance to see their gf in person like i did- it's easy to spot a truly nice person/woman vs appearance wise (when meeting another woman in presence of bf- this works generally also)

A truly nice person would try to get to know you, will want to try to connect and see you as a person worth getting knowing. There's curiosity and theres some engaging convo.

Appearance only - usually would converse mostly only things pertaining to herself (if you engage her by asking qs), about herself w her bf, or about you with the bf. They have no real interest in getting to know you as yourself, not as a female friend of ur bf, even if they talk nicely. When parting ways, they tend to make no remarks of meeting again.

The reason i noticed this is not because of meeting the dude's gf, but also my past with ex girlfriends... With their new girlfriends.. Or not so close male friends with new girlfriends.

This marks more of insecure women than actually negative women though, so no 'bad, manipulative' women. Just insecure...

posted August 25, 2014 04:08 PM            

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Well I spoke with AV last night and it wasn't quite the reading I hoped for. She pretty much lined up with what MsDream and Trishula said. I sort of feel heartbroken today. I guess it's time to let him go. They all say he will contact again but I'm not so sure. Just right now doesn't look so good for anything. I was going to try contacting him once more but now I'm not so sure I should do it. I just don't feel confident anymore.

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posted August 25, 2014 06:02 PM            

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Fairy: 'obligation' was thrown around a lot too here in my case 'he is stuck, he felt obligation etc' haha

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posted August 25, 2014 06:28 PM            

I think you have so much love to give and you are so loving, and that love needs to be directed towards yourself first.

I recommend the book - Why Men Love B**** , I'm rereading it now, so hilarious and so true. The other book I always recommend - If I'm so wonderful why am I still single by Susan Page.

And like my numerologist told me - I asked him whether anything in my numbers says that my ex will return to me. The numerologist said - no, he probably moved on (he did) and there's no point talking about him if he hasn't even contacted you (which he hasn't). And suddenly it clicked - why would I waste time and energy speculating about my ex and thinking about him contacting me when that hasn't even happened. The numerologist also told me that if my ex will contact me in the future then we can discuss it and check the number but until then I'm not to look back and move forward... fair advice.

posted August 25, 2014 06:35 PM            

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Originally posted by happyaskings:
I think another thing with psychics is that they prevent clients from moving on. I don't think they do it on purpose but I think getting readings does do it. Like with a person who isn't getting psychic readings they come to terms with what happened and move on from the person and situation. Speaking from personal experience, psychic readings stopped me from doing this...here was someone with messages from a higher power that was telling me that me and X were meant to be and that he would come back in "3" days/weeks/months...it was always 3 psychics love the number 3. So I would wait for him never actually moving on and sometimes I would get nervous that maybe he wasnt coming back so what would I do? Find another reader just to confirm...which they would and I would be excited and waiting all over again. Viscious cycle.

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So true!!!!!

That is what happened to me. I set up a time to meet with a psychic weeks ahead. During that time my ex told me he would like us to not be in contact anymore because he got married... I felt heartbroken.

When I came to that psychic I didn't even want to ask about him because I was trying to move on but she picked on it and asked me who is that person from overseas that I'm so sad about... I told her, I told her that he no longer wants to be in touch with me. She told me that we will reunite, that his marriage won't last, that she sees #4 and thinks they'll divorce after 4 months. She saw him contacting me in Sep and that I'll be going to him in Nov/Dece (and I was like - no, that's not going to happen).
She said she is very black and white and she knows that his heart belongs to me and that my heart belongs to me.

Well more than two years later - they are still married (I think they might even have a child now), there was no contact whatsoever.

And I really regret that reading... I was trying to deal with it and move on and after that reading I really thought that we will be back together and waited... and waited... and of course nothing happened. The reason I thought she was right because she made a small prediction that at the time made absolutely no sense a week later it made complete sense.

posted August 25, 2014 07:03 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
Well according to AV there's 75% chance he's going to contact. I don't know if that's a clear yes or no or maybe.

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If he contacts that's great. Don't make my mistake and wait for that contact ... waiting won't make it happen any faster (or happen at all as in my case).

posted August 25, 2014 07:18 PM            

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Originally posted by St@r2013:
If he contacts that's great. Don't make my mistake and wait for that contact ... waiting won't make it happen any faster (or happen at all as in my case).

The easiest way is to think that there's not going to be any contact whatsoever. If there will be, you'll be pleasantly surprised, if there won't be - you wouldn't care cause you moved on...

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This is exactly correct.
It's what I've been working on with Willow regarding living in TODAY (he's not present) and not carried away in fantasies of what if, or "waiting". It's the absolute worst place to be in.
Have I conquered it?
No...
Am I trying? Yes. Working on myself & making myself happy today is the most important thing.
I'm a work in progress 😁
For a very very long time I had little to no predictive readings. I was in a much better place mentally then I slipped up.
How many relationships have genuinly formed based on outcomes psychic readers have given?
I really don't know. I know I hold the person in my own situation very close to my heart. But what's meant to be will be. Dwelling won't change the outcome.

posted August 25, 2014 07:44 PM            

But I have to say, it seems to me many psychics would rather give you the fairytale - tell you that this is the guy, that he does love you, that his gf is a witch, that you will be together - at the end of the day instead of empowering us with information they hinder us.

If the guy is not contacting, if he does have a girlfriend - why should we wait for him?

I agree with you, going to someone who will work on your empowerment is far greater than predictive readings.