posted December 03, 2014 06:01 PM            

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Originally posted by SophiaFrank:
What are the good online dating websites? Anyone know of any?

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I think okc is decent. Cos it's not so formal and you answer q's (lots of random ones) to get a good match. Try it out lots of losers but there are also decent guys too.

posted December 03, 2014 06:03 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
I remember a while back, you said if Y pulls back again you won't give him another chance. In the last month and a half, how many times has he gone MIA? Don't you think you deserve so much more than this confusion. A relationship or interaction shouldn't be so stilted or this much hard work.

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He's pulled back once since the last time I said that, which is currently (we last spoke when I was sick and he was calling to check up on me, which was Nov 16th.) Yet, when I said that I meant months. I know that is true and you do have a point, yet, I haven't honestly reached that point yet where I'm ready to just give up. I know that it may seem stupid or a waste of time, but the way my personality is and how I view this situation is different. Everything between Y and I is good. No arguments or anything negative. However, he is really bad with communication at times, which could have something to do with our distance, but I have encountered someone else very similar to Y (in the communicating part only) and he lived probably 15mins away, but he was worst than Y. My feelings at this point are too invested to force myself to do something I know I'm not ready to do. I know people say, "If someone truly cares for you, he/she will always make time for that person." Yet, everyone isn't the same and sometimes can't do that. I, however, can make time for certain people, but I understand Y's situation and yes what he does annoys me, and he knows that and we've talked about this before. He's someone that moves slow and isn't used to this sort of thing. I'm willing to be patient with him about it because I know he'll eventually get better. It's just that I become anxious when this happens.

Y returned in September and has pulled back three times since he has returned (this being the third time.) That is an HUGE improvement from previous months and I can tell he is trying but he does have his moments and this is one of them. And the times he pulled back weren't for one month or anything like that, it's like for a week or two.

posted December 03, 2014 06:04 PM            

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Originally posted by St@r2013:
Don't get another reading proxy. It won't make contact happen faster.

Either contact Y again or just wait. Don't waste your $$$$

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posted December 03, 2014 06:10 PM            

My first love played mia games as a power trip mechanism.
I know it's not easy. :/ It's so hard and you feel so helpless.

1-2 weeks is ages when it's silence.

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Originally posted by ProxyxBlue:
He's pulled back once since the last time I said that, which is currently (we last spoke when I was sick and he was calling to check up on me, which was Nov 16th.) Yet, when I said that I meant months. I know that is true and you do have a point, yet, I haven't honestly reached that point yet where I'm ready to just give up. I know that it may seem stupid or a waste of time, but the way my personality is and how I view this situation is different. Everything between Y and I is good. No arguments or anything negative. However, he is really bad with communication at times, which could have something to do with our distance, but I have encountered someone else very similar to Y (in the communicating part only) and he lived probably 15mins away, but he was worst than Y. My feelings at this point are too invested to force myself to do something I know I'm not ready to do. I know people say, "If someone truly cares for you, he/she will always make time for that person." Yet, everyone isn't the same and sometimes can't do that. I, however, can make time for certain people, but I understand Y's situation and yes what he does annoys me, and he knows that and we've talked about this before. He's someone that moves slow and isn't used to this sort of thing. I'm willing to be patient with him about it because I know he'll eventually get better. It's just that I become anxious when this happens.

Y returned in September and has pulled back three times since he has returned (this being the third time.) That is an HUGE improvement from previous months and I can tell he is trying but he does have his moments and this is one of them. And the times he pulled back weren't for one month or anything like that, it's like for a week or two.

Anyhow, thank you for your advice. I really do appreciate it, because I know you're trying to help and I know what I've said in the past, but my persona couldn't move on that quickly, especially when this is the first person I've fallen in love with. ^^; lol

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posted December 03, 2014 06:21 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
Stand strong.

My first love played mia games as a power trip mechanism.
I know it's not easy. :/ It's so hard and you feel so helpless.

1-2 weeks is ages when it's silence.

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Thank you, Haplesschild

Yeah, it is hard. Like, my fears sometimes give me doubt that he wouldn't contact me and will go missing again for two months like he did before. However, how things have been lately, I know for a fact he wouldn't do that anymore and he is done with that. I wish he knew how it felt to do that, but his personality wouldn't show that it bothers him like it does me. For example, if I did what he is doing to me, it would hurt him very badly, but he would never tell me. He's an enigma...a BIG one, lol. I'm very good at reading people, but he can be hard for me to read sometimes because he is such a mysterious man. He does have his rare moments when he does open up, like when he started to tell me about his family life, and even told me how he felt about me on his own which shocked me since I normally have to ask questions to know lol. He told me how special I am to him, that I'm in his heart and I don't need to worry about anything and that he knows he makes me sad because of his communicating problems and etc, etc. Even told me that he wants to marry me when he comes to see me :O which made my eyes nearly pop out! Haha

posted December 03, 2014 07:21 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
Proxy love makes us do crazy things. We can't control how we feel or when it's time to let something go. Only we can be the judge of that. You do what you feel is right for you and don't let anyone influence your actions. I get how you feel. Love is not easy and it doesn't make sense.

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Yes, it does. Love has it's ups and downs, and can be painful at times. However, I know in the end things will be better. I'm going to continue being patient with him. Thank you, Fairy

posted December 03, 2014 08:22 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
I really hope things work out for you the way you want Proxy. I do believe good things will come if we have faith and hope.

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posted December 03, 2014 08:50 PM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
I'm glad you were selected for that reading with Twitterbird. I was going to try but felt perhaps I've asked too much lately. I hope the reading is positive for you!

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posted December 04, 2014 07:31 AM            

Hmmmm. Totally didn't expect that prediction to pan out. Bt it seems perhaps it might?

posted December 04, 2014 11:23 AM            

eby said in a matter of hours: nope! But OD did end up checking facebook though and he hasnt checked since sunday.

toria: weekend/near weekend

my own feeling: no contact until I return/or until january

man I wish I can get a real answer about this weird situation- why wanting me meeting his family yet uncommunicative even as friends?? My other male friends are never this weird about it. Soooo freaking weird! but at least there are no more 'promises' between us- well.. he promised to meet me on Jan and usually he fulfil his promise even if we had some tiff. But that was then.

but deeds are done, no more 'ties' between us as I already met his parents and back, so.. guess it's a freedom for me as well.

Rachel Marie prediction is set for march (which is around my bday), january-february for eby, dld, Jennifer Louise Hay, cosmic73 & psychic reader & all others but I guess they were all right in predicting a sense there'll be a period where there's no more things I can do and it will reach a short plateau/silence in my part (Rachel Marie, Jennifer Louise Hay) before the chaos ensues from his part.

so what's left of the 'big' predictions that has not passed yet (from various psychics) regarding OD:
-Loss of a person/situation either me or him (early 2015)
-Friendship period then he'll initiate/pursue (early 2015)
-he would want to commit/he'll suggest a committed relationship mid 2015 (May), DLD particularly said I'll be the one who's ambivalent about it then due to personal issue but he will stick around regardless.
-Travel together to another country in April/May

small prediction (contact, meeting up etc) is set for end of dec, early january, this weekend, next weekend lol

so, will update if any of those hit the mark.

posted December 04, 2014 11:10 PM            

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Originally posted by Haplesschild*:
I think okc is decent. Cos it's not so formal and you answer q's (lots of random ones) to get a good match. Try it out lots of losers but there are also decent guys too.

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posted December 06, 2014 11:23 AM            

I met two guys on OKC who turned out to be significant influences in my life. Then, I went on a couple of dates with guys I never wanted to see again. Online dating is usually a hit or miss. Don't get your hopes up once you start talking to someone daily because it might be a dead-end. If you're one of those people who cling on to people for far too long even if they didn't call you after the first date, online dating isn't for you.

Talking to someone online for weeks and going on a first date does not make a relationship. You can't cling on to someone until you have reached a point where you're seeing each other regularly. There's a high failure rate with online dating.

I know some girls who are still pining over a man they talked to for weeks and only went on one date with them. Girl, you can't take online dating that seriously because men on OKC don't take it seriously at all.

posted December 06, 2014 01:04 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
OKC is pretty good but it heavily depends on your location and what you're looking for. Most guys on there are 20-35 and aren't necessarily looking for a relationship.

I met two guys on OKC who turned out to be significant influences in my life. Then, I went on a couple of dates with guys I never wanted to see again. Online dating is usually a hit or miss. Don't get your hopes up once you start talking to someone daily because it might be a dead-end. If you're one of those people who cling on to people for far too long even if they didn't call you after the first date, online dating isn't for you.

Talking to someone online for weeks and going on a first date does not make a relationship. You can't cling on to someone until you have reached a point where you're seeing each other regularly. There's a high failure rate with online dating.

I know some girls who are still pining over a man they talked to for weeks and only went on one date with them. Girl, you can't take online dating that seriously because men on OKC don't take it seriously at all.

Good luck on OKC!

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This is true and this is how I've always treated "online dating". I have been doing this almost my entire life and I'm used to it. Don't take it seriously at all until you meet in real life and actually click, interact, etc..online life is just not the same as the "real world" sometimes.

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