posted December 24, 2014 09:04 PM            

I find quickmatch to be disappointing. As a matter of fact, OKC was a headache for me. I used it while I was living in different places of the world and the result was the same each and every single time ... none of the guys were looking for a girlfriend. Maybe I don't know how to pick them.

I met a bunch of guys on OKC:

1. He ended up being my on and off college fling who online stalked me for about 2 years after we parted ways.

2. The infamous N. I keep talking about. It's been two years. I can't rehash the details of this miserable failure.

3. I met another guy who was plain obnoxious because he was only looking for WASP models. He shattered my confidence in pieces.

4. One who literally investigated my entire life before our first date. He thought I was a "fake".

5. A trader who thought I'd sleep with him after a fancy drink. It never happened. He wasn't even good looking.

6. A sweet guy you'd love to take home to your parents but I declined the second date because I was still hooked on N. I was harsh on this last guy and I should have given him a fair shot. I didn't. It wasn't meant to be.

Ha. OkCupid can be fun but after 4 years on this thing, I decided to call it quits. I sometimes wish I hadn't signed up on it. That would have prevented me from meeting N. I can't deal with any headache regarding men now. I'm kinda done with both online and real life dating.

P.S: This is post #1000 on this. Funny ha.

posted December 24, 2014 10:01 PM            

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Originally posted by ProxyxBlue:
Ah, you too? That's why I mentioned the "special connection." I always get that feeling only with Y. But when someone randomly pops into my mind without that feeling, there is a chance that person might call me or something.

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I get that with dreams. Sometimes I'll dream about someone I haven't spoken to in a while and then they'll contact me that day.

posted December 25, 2014 08:03 AM            

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Originally posted by ProxyxBlue:
Ah, you too? That's why I mentioned the "special connection." I always get that feeling only with Y. But when someone randomly pops into my mind without that feeling, there is a chance that person might call me or something.

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Yes

I only feel it with one person. I always get a strange urge to contact him, then something happens and I understand why I wanted to contact him so badly. It only happens with him and my sister though. I don't have this bond with any other people. They usually contact me and I wasn't even expecting them to. I believe it's mainly the case with soulmates

posted December 25, 2014 09:11 AM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
Well apparently no one wants to contact me lol. None of the people I ever asked about in a reading ever came back. Ah well. New Year is coming, hopefully new and better things as well.

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Aw. Forget about these men Fairy. Online dating is usually a hit or miss. Men tend to be very flaky for various reasons. Don't take it personally!

Focus on improving yourself and feeling good. Once you start feeling good about yourself, things will fall into place without you having to force them to happen. The more you "force" things to happen, the further away you're pushing the results.

posted December 25, 2014 11:46 AM            

I just wanted to thank you all for your posts. I have been reading, and your honesty about your experiences with men and wanting men and men not reciprocating is so helpful. I have the deepest feelings for someone I have ever had in my life, and he has completely cut me off, and in my mind I maintain he loves me. NOT healthy. Your honesty has helped me to be objective about what I am experiencing.

posted December 25, 2014 11:51 AM            

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Originally posted by FairyDust75:
Well apparently no one wants to contact me lol. None of the people I ever asked about in a reading ever came back. Ah well. New Year is coming, hopefully new and better things as well.

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posted December 25, 2014 12:51 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
Quickmatch is basically where you are shown suggestions regarding profiles that you might be interested in (based on your answers to the questions ...). Some of the guys who show up on Quickmatch are guys that "liked" your profile.

I find quickmatch to be disappointing. As a matter of fact, OKC was a headache for me. I used it while I was living in different places of the world and the result was the same each and every single time ... none of the guys were looking for a girlfriend. Maybe I don't know how to pick them.

I met a bunch of guys on OKC:

1. He ended up being my on and off college fling who online stalked me for about 2 years after we parted ways.

2. The infamous N. I keep talking about. It's been two years. I can't rehash the details of this miserable failure.

3. I met another guy who was plain obnoxious because he was only looking for WASP models. He shattered my confidence in pieces.

4. One who literally investigated my entire life before our first date. He thought I was a "fake".

5. A trader who thought I'd sleep with him after a fancy drink. It never happened. He wasn't even good looking.

6. A sweet guy you'd love to take home to your parents but I declined the second date because I was still hooked on N. I was harsh on this last guy and I should have given him a fair shot. I didn't. It wasn't meant to be.

Ha. OkCupid can be fun but after 4 years on this thing, I decided to call it quits. I sometimes wish I hadn't signed up on it. That would have prevented me from meeting N. I can't deal with any headache regarding men now. I'm kinda done with both online and real life dating.

P.S: This is post #1000 on this. Funny ha.

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Thank you! For the explanation, and for sharing your experience. I think my online dating days are over after all (I think I lasted all of 23 hours on OKC, lol). While it was sort of nice for my ego to get so many messages & likes based on one photo, it was ultimately meaningless... I'm sure some of them are great guys, but--for me--I think meeting in person is essential (chemistry level, creepiness level, manners...). And since I didn't actually have anything written on my profile... well, all their messages/likes felt pointless--they were basically like guys who check me/you out at the post office or wherever, just bolder because they don't have to talk to me/you face-to-face. I may be hard to please... lol But I think I'm okay with being single, for the time being.

posted December 25, 2014 01:00 PM            

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Originally posted by venus2tinkerbell:
I hope for good things for you. I really hope you can find someone who will appreciate all you have to give. Until then, I hope you can hold and love yourself. You deserve it.

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posted December 26, 2014 11:35 AM            

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Originally posted by St@r2013:
I never had any inappropriate messages ... but lots of 'hi'. Makes you feel like they send that to every single profile whereas I was looking for a bit more ... I liked the ones who actually responded to something in my profile, made me think they took the time to read it at least..

I can see why it can be scary, I felt the same, but it's really not a big deal... it can be fun.

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posted December 26, 2014 01:26 PM            

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Originally posted by lily712lily:
Thank you! For the explanation, and for sharing your experience. I think my online dating days are over after all (I think I lasted all of 23 hours on OKC, lol). While it was sort of nice for my ego to get so many messages & likes based on one photo, it was ultimately meaningless... I'm sure some of them are great guys, but--for me--I think meeting in person is essential (chemistry level, creepiness level, manners...). And since I didn't actually have anything written on my profile... well, all their messages/likes felt pointless--they were basically like guys who check me/you out at the post office or wherever, just bolder because they don't have to talk to me/you face-to-face. I may be hard to please... lol But I think I'm okay with being single, for the time being.

ETA: I often feel that a family member/friend is going to contact me right before they do. I also had a similar, but much more intense, feeling about this one guy but he never actually contacted me when I felt that way... Weird.

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It's these spiritual connections that are the issue you are bored of being connected to someone eventually don't even truly see what it is your attracted to
Yet the connection continues
You meet nice perfect lovely guys rly hot sweet and fun but a week in it becomes boring and that . Familiar pull comes back
The dreams
The visions

posted December 26, 2014 01:38 PM            

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Originally posted by lily712lily:

ETA: I often feel that a family member/friend is going to contact me right before they do. I also had a similar, but much more intense, feeling about this one guy but he never actually contacted me when I felt that way... Weird.

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posted December 26, 2014 01:43 PM            

Feelings are a result of "telepathy". It usually happens with other soulmates whether romantic or platonic. The person has to be in your energy field. It's a matter of vibration.

Dreams are more likely to occur for any kind of encounter. It doesn't even have to be a soul connection of any sort.

The thing is you have to distinguish the sudden energy you're feeling from your own thoughts. Sometimes our own thoughts trigger the heart fluttering and we confuse this with telepathic symptoms.

The energy happens out of the blue. You could be focusing on something then you start thinking of someone pretty unexpectedly. You're almost in a fog and cannot concentrate on anything until the energy dissipates. It can go from 1 minute to a couple of hours.

That's when you're not obsessing with someone. If you're obsessing with a potential lover then it's nothing more than just wishful thinking.

Usually, if you have a very strong bond with someone, you can feel them from afar. I can feel my sister's mood even if we're not in the same country. Same goes with the man I believe to be an soul connection.

posted December 26, 2014 01:43 PM            

It made me realize how people can truly when you aren't in their presence to hear what he/or she really think about you.

posted December 26, 2014 01:48 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
I think contact "premonitions" can happen through dreams and feelings.

Feelings are a result of "telepathy". It usually happens with other soulmates whether romantic or platonic.

Dreams are more likely to occur for any kind of encounter. It doesn't even have to be a soul connection of any sort.

The thing is you have to distinguish the sudden energy you're feeling from your own thoughts. Sometimes our own thoughts trigger the heart fluttering and we confuse this with telepathic symptoms.

The energy happens out of the blue. You could be focusing on something then you start thinking of someone pretty unexpectedly. You're almost in a fog and cannot concentrate on anything until the energy dissipates. It can go from 1 minute to a couple of hours.

That's when you're not obsessing with someone. If you're obsessing with a potential lover than it's just wishful thinking.

Usually, if you have a very strong bond with someone, you can feel them from afar. I can feel my sister's mood even if we're not in the same country. Same goes with the man I believe to be an SC.

It's a good feeling but it can sometimes be overwhelming.

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Yeah that's true. It can be very overwhelming at times. I remember once the feeling was so intense it was almost hurting. Not hurting like pain...hm, it's difficult for me to explain. But it had happened as I was going to bed and the next day, Y contacted me and eventually called after the message he sent.

posted December 26, 2014 01:51 PM            

I usually can tell what people are thinking about me even if I'm not in their presence. It's a beautiful gift but it can also be a curse.

The good thing with being an "empath" is that you instantly feel it if someone has bad intentions. You can definitely prevent certain outcomes. The flip side is if someone you care about is not truthful, you can see through them and it hurts.

For instance today, I had a feeling my mother was only on good terms with me because she's hoping I'd give her money. Well, my intuition was right as she told me she'd never set a foot in my home ever if I don't give her money. She said that once I'm out of my parents house, she won't visit me ever. I had been feeling ill at ease with her intentions for a while now and thankfully the angels made her show her true colors. I can now shut the door and let go of the doubts I had about her.

posted December 26, 2014 01:58 PM            

I understand the "pain" feeling. It usually comes in the heart or solar plexus chakra. You feel as though you're hurting when you're not. It also involves "heatwaves" and sometimes shaking to the point where you can't stand on your own two feet.

I had this bizarre sensation on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday regarding N and believe me, during the holidays I was more focused on having fun. Well, it ruined my holidays. It stopped last night but the pain I felt was pretty bad. You feel as though you're about to have a panic/heart attack. It's very disturbing as you're definitely not sick.

I don't even know why I felt this way considering the fact he and I haven't spoken since last February and I haven't tried to reach out to him. I gave up a while ago and the daydreaming stopped way back.

The last time I felt this way was on Valentine's Day and he got in touch the following day. I don't have FB and changed my number so I wouldn't know if these sensations were legit.

Sometimes you have to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you're feeling. It's a good thing to be able to connect with someone on such a deep level. It means the connection you have with them is real which is a pretty good start.

posted December 26, 2014 02:08 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
Yes, I know what you Proxy.

I usually can tell what people are thinking about me even if I'm not in their presence. It's a beautiful gift but it can also be a curse.

The good thing with being an "empath" is that you instantly feel it if someone has bad intentions. You can definitely prevent certain outcomes. The flip side is if someone you care about is not truthful, you can see through them and it hurts.

For instance today, I had a feeling my mother was only on good terms with me because she's hoping I'd give her money. Well, my intuition was right as she told me she'd never set a foot in my home ever if I don't give her money. She said that once I'm out of my parents house, she won't visit me ever. I had been feeling ill at ease with her intentions for a while now and thankfully the angels made her show her true colors. I can now shut the door and let go of the doubts I had about her.

Sometimes you want to believe your intuition is wrong but you can't dictate what you're feeling. You just have to trust yourself.

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Sometimes I've wondered if I'm an empath, because I can easily feel how others are feeling just by looking at them.

Wow, really? I'm sorry to hear that happened between you and your mother. I am glad that you were at least able to let go of all the doubts that you did previously have about her.

posted December 26, 2014 02:21 PM            

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Originally posted by MineAgain:
@[b]Proxy:

I understand the "pain" feeling. It usually comes in the heart or solar plexus chakra. You feel as though you're hurting when you're not. It also involves "heatwaves" and sometimes shaking to the point where you can't stand on your own two feet.

I had this bizarre sensation on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday regarding N and believe me, during the holidays I was more focused on having fun. Well, it ruined my holidays. It stopped last night but the pain I felt was pretty bad. You feel as though you're about to have a panic/heart attack. It's very disturbing as you're definitely not sick.

I don't even know why I felt this way considering the fact he and I haven't spoken since last February and I haven't tried to reach out to him. I gave up a while ago and the daydreaming stopped way back.

The last time I felt this way was on Valentine's Day and he got in touch the following day. I don't have FB and changed my number so I wouldn't know if these sensations were legit.

Sometimes you have to allow yourself to feel whatever it is you're feeling. It's a good thing to be able to connect with someone on such a deep level. It means the connection you have with them is real which is a pretty good start.

It's quite draining though because you also tend to feel some random's feelings too. I hate being in a crowd of people because I can usually tell what they're feeling and I'm not self-conscious in any way. [/B]

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So, that's what it is? I've read that's the cause on some article online before, but I was never too sure. That's a good word to describe the warm pulsating feeling in my chest, heatwaves. I'll use that terminology from now on, lol.

Maybe N has been thinking about you or will reach out some how? I'm not entirely sure. I had this really good friend, D, and we were very close. Not on an intimate level, but our relationship was platonic like siblings. We stopped talking as much back in 2011. Every once in a while he would randomly pop in my mind. I didn't know if it meant he was thinking about me or maybe it was all me. Yet, I never attempted to reach out to him and he never attempted to reach out to me. So, a few weeks ago I decided to reach out to him, just to say hi because I didn't know if he remembered me or not. We only have one way of contact now since I no longer have his number and I deleted my facebook and he did also and now that contact is only through Playstation 3. I sent him a message, because I used to see him signed whenever I was online. I wasn't expecting anything back, but surprisingly enough a few days later (maybe weeks, I'm not sure) he did reply. I replied back but ever since then he never responded. It doesn't bother me, but I am glad he did respond.

I say all that to say, maybe sometimes when we assume that the person we are randomly thinking about will be the one to reach out, it could be in fact you that reaches out and then they respond. I could be wrong, but I believe sometimes it may work like that. I'm positive if I never sent him anything, I still would have never heard from D, despite me seeing him signed on PS3 all these years and I'm sure he saw me, but we just never said anything to each other.

posted December 26, 2014 03:04 PM            

OD replied to my card- sending me photo of the winter. He seem to avoid answering directly how his vacation is going, however (he answers everything else). Maybe he wants to keep his lovelife private, or it's not doing so well (typical of him to kept his silence on sensitive issues in the past, which make ever more sense in this context)

I do notice recently he's been online way more than before on the FB chat platform ever since I sent & we talked abt the card over there (he's been inactive everywhere really) but I figure it's because of xmas.and he was chatting to other family members (we haven't talked again since xmas because I kept it short, and I don't think it's right to bug someone's vacation )

posted December 30, 2014 09:04 AM            

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Originally posted by ProxyxBlue:
Yeah that's true. It can be very overwhelming at times. I remember once the feeling was so intense it was almost hurting. Not hurting like pain...hm, it's difficult for me to explain. But it had happened as I was going to bed and the next day, Y contacted me and eventually called after the message he sent.

When I get the feeling, it's unexpected. I could be fully focused on doing something and that sensation comes to me and Y will randomly pop in my mind. Sometimes I do attempt to ignore it, because I know what it means and I'll continue doing whatever it was that I was doing.

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I get the same for the soul connections I've had it's intense like you said pain but not pain but Increadibly uncomfy and even when you don't feel needy at all. I think it might be subconscious wound triggering mixed with some telepathy. Same as you say sometimes the pull follows shortly with a message sometimes nothing

posted December 30, 2014 09:06 AM            

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Originally posted by ProxyxBlue:
So, that's what it is? I've read that's the cause on some article online before, but I was never too sure. That's a good word to describe the warm pulsating feeling in my chest, heatwaves. I'll use that terminology from now on, lol.

Maybe N has been thinking about you or will reach out some how? I'm not entirely sure. I had this really good friend, D, and we were very close. Not on an intimate level, but our relationship was platonic like siblings. We stopped talking as much back in 2011. Every once in a while he would randomly pop in my mind. I didn't know if it meant he was thinking about me or maybe it was all me. Yet, I never attempted to reach out to him and he never attempted to reach out to me. So, a few weeks ago I decided to reach out to him, just to say hi because I didn't know if he remembered me or not. We only have one way of contact now since I no longer have his number and I deleted my facebook and he did also and now that contact is only through Playstation 3. I sent him a message, because I used to see him signed whenever I was online. I wasn't expecting anything back, but surprisingly enough a few days later (maybe weeks, I'm not sure) he did reply. I replied back but ever since then he never responded. It doesn't bother me, but I am glad he did respond.

I say all that to say, maybe sometimes when we assume that the person we are randomly thinking about will be the one to reach out, it could be in fact you that reaches out and then they respond. I could be wrong, but I believe sometimes it may work like that. I'm positive if I never sent him anything, I still would have never heard from D, despite me seeing him signed on PS3 all these years and I'm sure he saw me, but we just never said anything to each other.

Yeah, it is good to allow yourself to feel those emotions. I remember once I felt a sudden wave of betrayal and sadness. I couldn't explain it and I felt in my heart at the time Y was seeing other women. This emotion was so strong, yet so random and I couldn't understand why I felt that way. It was during a time when he wasn't communicating (for only one week.) Then at the end of that week, Y contacted me. He was very sad and hurt. The first thing he said to me was, "You hurt me." and I didn't know why he would say such a thing and because of that feeling, I told him he hurt me. He eventually told me that he felt in his heart that I was seeing other men and that he knew I was and it was hurting him. Apparently during that entire week, we both were probably feeling each other's doubt (because of the distance) and it intensified to the point we both were hurting and assuming the worst. So, maybe he can feel my emotions too.

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Also good point sometimes the pull follows with an message from them and sometimes it's more a pull for me to contact it's like they have different qualities
I hate reaching out and initiating but sometimes the pull doesn't go away till I do and then I feel light and happy and don't even care anymore so I do feel mine is linked to needing to be a bit more open as it is a big fear

posted December 30, 2014 01:00 PM            

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Originally posted by Vivi327:
So I guess people have been backing off the psychics....that's a good sign!

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I think some people are still seeing a psychic and just aren't saying much in this particular thread. Or it could be brcause of the holidays, lol.