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Topic: Extremely depressed about bring single. When will I find love?
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SunAscendant
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posted May 19, 2020 12:38 AM
  
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I'm really glad to hear that, SunAscendant. Thanks for the good news. I wish you both the very best together.
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Graham
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posted May 19, 2020 01:36 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kUiph6JPO2g I am pleased to see that the gates appear to have now been opened. IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
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posted May 27, 2020 03:30 PM
I’ll never ever find love. Again, now this didn’t work out. Here I am putting in effort for someone who is apathetic. He didn’t care if I left him, so I did. I just want someone who can’t stand to lose me. I just want a man who puts in tje same effort as me. I just want real love, the kind I give out. I’ll never ever find someone. Nobody will ever love me. Venus is retrograde and they say Venus rx breakups don’t stick. I’d love for him to come around and say he’d give it his all to try and make it work. I don’t want to break up, but he doesn’t care.IP: Logged |
Graham
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posted May 29, 2020 05:47 AM
WHY does he not care though? ... Presumably, you are not putting out the signal/message that you believe yourself to be doing.Why, why, why are you so convinced that what YOU consider to be loving behaviour will be perceived as such by the other? Currently, you are self-sabotaging your relationships ... And steadfastly refusing to confront the reason(s) why you are doing so. "I just want real love ... The kind I give out" = My way ... Or the highway. IP: Logged |
Kannon McAfee
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posted May 29, 2020 02:40 PM
Why are you engaging in such a preemptive strike? Consider very carefully that this is an unhealthy urge traced back to Moon-Uranus-Neptune opposite Asc. This is a highly reactionary figure prone to co-dependency mixed with lonerism in which you are heavily invested in the idealism of relationships, but quickly detach out of discontent. Relationships take time and patience. Consider that you may be expecting entirely too much from one person. Also consider retracting the very negative and potentially self-damaging prophecy you just wrote out publicly for yourself here. Your cells hear every word you say and align to their commands. If you don't take your own words and their command of your reality seriously, then there's not much power in your efforts, just idealistic, high expectations to be disappointed over and over. Love is BUILT. It is not automatic, in-my-lap, perfect-as-it-comes. If this guy is not the one, fine. But the "I'll never ..." statement is like throwing yourself on your own sword. Why do that over one guy who is not the one? You'll have other opportunities and you're in a prime period in which there are more. But you have to be receptive and open. ------------------
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SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 2840
From: California
Registered: Oct 2014
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posted May 29, 2020 05:37 PM
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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
Why are you engaging in such a preemptive strike? Consider very carefully that this is an unhealthy urge traced back to Moon-Uranus-Neptune opposite Asc. This is a highly reactionary figure prone to co-dependency mixed with lonerism in which you are heavily invested in the idealism of relationships, but quickly detach out of discontent. Relationships take time and patience. Consider that you may be expecting entirely too much from one person. Also consider retracting the very negative and potentially self-damaging prophecy you just wrote out publicly for yourself here. Your cells hear every word you say and align to their commands. If you don't take your own words and their command of your reality seriously, then there's not much power in your efforts, just idealistic, high expectations to be disappointed over and over. Love is BUILT. It is not automatic, in-my-lap, perfect-as-it-comes. If this guy is not the one, fine. But the "I'll never ..." statement is like throwing yourself on your own sword. Why do that over one guy who is not the one? You'll have other opportunities and you're in a prime period in which there are more. But you have to be receptive and open.
I do give it my all. I am always accommodating the other partner. Maybe that’s my problem. I just want someone who will put in the same amount of effort as I do. I feel taken for granted all the time. I voice this. I communicate it. I told him but he doesn’t seem to care. It is upsetting that nobody is willing to be 50-50 in a relationship. They always seem apathetic.
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SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 2840
From: California
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posted May 29, 2020 08:31 PM
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Originally posted by Graham:
WHY does he not care though? ... Presumably, you are not putting out the signal/message that you believe yourself to be doing.Why, why, why are you so convinced that what YOU consider to be loving behaviour will be perceived as such by the other? Currently, you are self-sabotaging your relationships ... And steadfastly refusing to confront the reason(s) why you are doing so. "I just want real love ... The kind I give out" = My way ... Or the highway.
No not my way. I want someone who shows interest and communicates. Relationships are lost when communication is not regularly occurring. I’ve repeatedly asked him to communicate just a tiny bit more. I know it’s hard for him, but I need that. And I have a right to want communication. It’s not asking too much. And I bend over backwards anyways IP: Logged |
Graham
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posted May 30, 2020 07:01 AM
Not your way ... Yet he must give what YOU need ... Even though you know it is hard for him.So ... how exactly is that not insisting on your own way? What you are offering is conditional love - which is not really love at all. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 06, 2020 03:21 PM
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SunAscendant
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posted June 08, 2020 01:42 AM
I don’t understand though. Our Venuses are tightly conjunct, my sun conjuncts his mercury and my sun conjuncts his north node. We are compatible. We have sun conjunct venus in the composite as well. I have tried talking to him and communicating, but it’s hard for him. I feel he may be on the autism spectrum since he said he has trouble reading nonverbal cues and doesn’t emote (I’ve observed both to be true in him). I know that he’s not going to find anyone else who is right for him. I just have an intuitive feeling about that for some reason. IP: Logged |
Graham
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posted June 08, 2020 03:14 AM
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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
I don’t understand though. Our Venuses are tightly conjunct, my sun conjuncts his mercury and my sun conjuncts his north node. We are compatible. We have sun conjunct venus in the composite as well. I have tried talking to him and communicating, but it’s hard for him. I feel he may be on the autism spectrum since he said he has trouble reading nonverbal cues and doesn’t emote (I’ve observed both to be true in him). I know that he’s not going to find anyone else who is right for him. I just have an intuitive feeling about that for some reason.
Why are you insisting that the problem is with him rather than with you, SA? IP: Logged |
SunAscendant
Knowflake Posts: 2840
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posted June 08, 2020 03:22 AM
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Originally posted by Graham:
Why are you insisting that the problem is with him rather than with you, SA?
I have been nothing but perfect in the relationship. He was the one who did not communicate and was all around apathetic
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Graham
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posted June 08, 2020 03:47 AM
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Originally posted by SunAscendant:
I have been nothing but perfect in the relationship. He was the one who did not communicate and was all around apathetic
Then ... once again ... my advice is that you consider how/why your "perfect behaviour" in relationships may not be seen that way by your potential partners. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted June 24, 2020 04:10 PM
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