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Topic: Parents
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raj_105_2001
Knowflake Posts: 1219
From: Chennai
Registered: Apr 2001
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posted November 25, 2002 09:07 AM
 
Parents are necessary and important in an evolutionary, scientific as well as spiritual sense. The baby birds are nurtured by their parents until they learn to fly.Yet the truth is there are parents, who obtain ego gratification through the children (The parents who were mine, did). There are parents who buy love. You can buy clothes, cars and food stuff. You can't buy love. Yet these parents try to do it. There are parents who dominate in the name of 'for your good'. There are parents who make the children as their slaves. There are parents who commit crimes under the name of parenthood (Can you burn someone's clothes when he is wearing it and escape from Law? A parent can do likewise to the child). There are parents who deserve no respect, yet demand it ('Though I am a useless fellow, you should respect me, because I am the father' - does that make any sense?) Such parents are a major hindrance to social progress. As for mys-elf, I don't respect the parents who were mine, they were blooming examples of egoism, deceit and manipulation. IP: Logged |
Sher bear
Knowflake Posts: 161
From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2002
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posted November 25, 2002 10:08 PM
interesting - My mom is another fine example of this sort of parenting....For years I was angry, and in dis-belief over many of the things she put me through....Her favorite thing to say was "you are to be seen and not heard"..She was vulgar and cruel having little regard for my better interests...Essentially I was a babysitter and a house maid - and so long as I kept the house clean, and my mouth shut, everything was pretty good....I can't express to you the lonliness I felt....It's only been in the last few years I've been able to forgive my Mother - and I except the fact that she truly did the best she could with the knowledge she had....I think the biggest thing was realizing that it was my soul that "choose" her......If we beleive in re-carnation, and karma, then we need to accept that our parents were chosen by our higher S-elfs in order to teach us something about ourselves.....I respect my mother now - and I love her deeply....It's interesting that she's pretty much the same women she was 28 yrs ago when she had me....And so I must remember that she chose me as well...My Mother has taught me to listen to other people's feelings, because she never listened to mine..She also taught me to be self sufficient - cuz well if I didn't do my laundry, sew, or make my lunch, nobody else was going to do it...And so my Mother taught me many things through her neglegence-I suspose it's how my soul wanted to learn.....And so in some way, i guess these sort of parents are a hinderance to social progress - but I'm truly grateful for my Mother's ego, and lack of respect....in some strange way she did teach me to fly.. (maybe not by society's "blueprint" or by some unspoken "accepted" quality standard..)  BLEZZINGS
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theFajita
Knowflake Posts: 2007
From: Boca Raton, FL USA
Registered: Sep 2002
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posted November 25, 2002 11:19 PM
Sher bear, I am glad despite all that your mother put you through, you seemed to get up and brush yourself off and turn out lovely!
LIke you said, and something it took me a long time to learn, was that parents don't get a handbook when they have kids, they can't know everything, they are human and allowed to make mistakes.Raj I am sorry for all that you mention your parents put you through. I think it's crazy some of the parents I hear about today. Karma or no karma, abuse and mistreatment of kids is wrong, and if I can interfere, I would gladly do it. That stuff makes me sick! ------------------
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Sher bear
Knowflake Posts: 161
From: Canada
Registered: Nov 2002
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posted November 26, 2002 09:01 AM
Hey Fajita, The biggest thing I learned from Mom is how "not" to be a parent. ..And so in a way she is acting sort of as manual for me...There's no doubt - abuse of children is wrong!!!! Abuse in any form is wrong whether against another, yourself, or a helpless animal.....And Fajita - I do like to think as myself as "work in progress" ....Thanks for the Love - you're one fine speciman yourself!!! 
Anyways, off the work I go and so BLEZZINGS and Love in huge doses.... Sher Bear  IP: Logged |
theFajita
Knowflake Posts: 2007
From: Boca Raton, FL USA
Registered: Sep 2002
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posted November 27, 2002 03:20 AM
Oh Sher bear, you are so sweet!!
Hey, I am a work in progress myself!
Blessings to you too!!  ------------------
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