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From: Chennai
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posted December 30, 2002 04:47 AM         

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If you (or someone) gave someone 'good advice' 'for his own good', and changed him, please share the experience.

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posted December 30, 2002 10:05 AM         

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THINK before one SPEAKS... or better yet, you can THINK it, but not always prudent to SAY it.

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From: The Mists of Avalon
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posted December 30, 2002 10:55 AM         

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RESPOND rather than REACT.

~Hopeful

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From: Boca Raton, FL USA
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posted December 30, 2002 07:33 PM         

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My mom taught me if someone is rude not to sink down to there level.

Another piece of good advice I give to people is to be happy for other people when good things happen. I am always surprised at how many people make snide or rude or jealous comments to their so-called friends when something good happens to others.

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posted December 31, 2002 01:49 PM         

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In such a case, the recipient often attacks thre messenger, I have found.

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From: Chennai
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posted January 11, 2003 02:43 AM         

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I hate giving advice, to be honest. It assumes the advisor knows better than the listener - it could be actually false. Often if my listener attacks me, I know probably I know less or he or she is simply so defensive - that he or she doesn't listen at all. That is why it is important to understand first, then to be understood.

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