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From: the pineapple under the sea
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posted June 24, 2012 11:48 AM            

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Yes ma'am, I read your other posts. And in reading this one I'll defer to your logic, trying to change you to fit the advice is no good advice at all...
Whether you change your perspective or no on your own, do at these truths for all future things that involve you, ohers, and your heart.

You cannot change them.

Their feelings can be influenced, if those feelings are already there.

What you can't do is change water into wine, nor would you want to if you could.

Most important, please consider this if you consider nothing else. Always find out where you stand by whatever means that work for you. To suffer silently or to go against your own health and happiness to make another happy means that you are sacrificing your own ability to love and support, when really needed. And really needed includes when you need you.

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You, Sir, deserves more than a thank you for taking your time understanding my current situation and actually changing my mind with the advice you have given me. I never realized how I actually need time for myself and all I cared about was attending the needs of others, I am a selfless virgo, needless to say. I guess you're right, I can't just force my self to change to fit in with the situation.. I guess all I have to do now is maybe ask where I stand with him, but how? I know he considers us as 'best friends' which makes letting go of him even harder for me, it's like I'm so close from him yet so far..

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From: Neptune because it's blue
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posted June 24, 2012 05:58 PM            

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heartstrings! If I remember correctly, I saw your chart somewhere & i think you're a Sag moon right? Aww man, I love you guys. Now I really want to know where you're hiding that "always be optimistic" side. Cmon girl, don't let the Venus get you

Going by his reply on your FB status, I feel like you should actually give him some time without you, so that he REALLY knows how much he misses you in his life. Distance makes the heart grow fond, eh?

And exams, holy, I have them too. Good luck to you
Stay cheerful!

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From: The center of your mind- muhuwuaaa
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posted June 24, 2012 09:35 PM            

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I think Affy has it exactly right. Your focus right now is on you, correct? Those exams are your priority. If your friend is the best friend he says he is, and you believe him to be, he can can take care of himself while you focus on making all the hard work you put into the last quarter or semester at school pay off during exams.
Don't give in to giving him answer on what he worried about on FB. Let him stew on it, it'll do his young soul some good, and your spiritually older one, some good as well.
Then when you are ready, and he's bursting at the seams, best friend to best friend you lay it all out- your feelings all this time, the frustration, the pain, and finally, just how important is your relationship, are YOU to him. Whether it goes in a romantic direction or not, is he friend enough to shut up, listen, and take in exactly who you are and how you feel?
But there's time to devise an approach...later. Your biggest focus and necessary self-service is hitting the books and perhaps some emergency catch-up study time with another student, or your teachers, to ensure you do absolutely well on your exams.

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posted June 25, 2012 01:42 AM            

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heartstrings! If I remember correctly, I saw your chart somewhere & i think you're a Sag moon right?

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oh affy!! haha tell me about it.. yess I do have a Sag moon! and I seriously feel like a freakin emo right now XD and I don't like it!! ugh, makes me feel like I'm so lonely and hard to have fun when all I wanna do is reach out with my girls and partayy ahaha. It's funny though how I can be like a drama queen here while if you see me in real life, i'll be just like.."meh, who cares? you only live once so enjoy it!.."

i'm proud to say that I haven't talked to him for almost a month now nor seen him..and I've been focusing with something else I enjoy, music and fashion! now that's what you call moving on!

and oh, good luck with ur exams! i just finished mine couple of weeks ago, hopefully i'll pass, hopefully we'll pass!!

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posted June 26, 2012 11:48 AM            

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Good luck.

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posted June 27, 2012 09:45 AM            

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Let us know how you do.

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posted July 02, 2012 01:28 PM            

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got my results back! was a little depressed because I got quite a low GPA, I only got 2.7 for this semester..was originally aiming for 3+!!! I dunno how to tell my parents with all these things happening around me, I don't even know what I should feel..ugh, I'll really try and do my best next time . This is really depressing T.T I really thought I did alright -___- hopefully I'll do much better next sem without any distractions.

I also just kinda accepted the fact that LIFE - LOVE = GOOD GRADES, yup, been livin this kind of life until I met him.. I guess I should've never cared about love in the first place I'd be much much much much happier to be successful at uni than if I was in a relationship with him, seriously..I guess this is just a wake up call! I gotta get over him quick! I'd rather be single but successful than in a relationship with my dream guy but slacking off.. I swear this whole love thing going on is ruining my life, I need a stone heart to replace my heart, NOW, aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!

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From: The center of your mind- muhuwuaaa
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posted July 02, 2012 02:16 PM            

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Naw, it ain't the love that distracts.It's all the other stuff that goes with it and when it doesn't get returned equally that distracts. I'm supposing summer school has already started?
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posted July 03, 2012 10:36 AM            

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A 2.7 isn't too bad.

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posted July 03, 2012 01:41 PM            

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Naw, it ain't the love that distracts.It's all the other stuff that goes with it and when it doesn't get returned equally that distracts. I'm supposing summer school has already started?
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I'm from oz winter vacation just began here hehehe

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posted July 03, 2012 01:44 PM            

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A 2.7 isn't too bad.

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thanks Randall but apparently an average of 3+ should be maintained if I wanna be a real good engr I really hope its still not too late to improve

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posted July 07, 2012 04:15 PM            

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Aww.. heartstrings!
You shall get what you aim for Don't let one result pull you down, that's all

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posted July 08, 2012 10:46 PM            

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Aww.. heartstrings!
You shall get what you aim for Don't let one result pull you down, that's all

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thanks affy!! I'm still a newbie in college and I'm still trying to settle with how college works hehehe this is like one of the major transformations of my life and I'm excited!

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posted August 02, 2012 10:53 AM            

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I feel like Lindaland is my love diary now

I saw the girl today but I didn't see my guy friend. I was able to have a little chat with her. She's shy, acts like a real lady, very pretty, she has a really nice brown eyes, she's smart. I can't help to compare myself with her. She's got everything a guy would love to see in a girl. I wish she was me.. so that he can like me the way he wants her I just realized that I'm still really not over him tomorrow I'll see him, I wish I could disappear in this world, right now :'(

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posted August 04, 2012 01:54 PM            

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
I feel like Lindaland is my love diary now

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Girl you and me both! We both have rant threads here now

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Originally posted by heartstrings:
I saw the girl today but I didn't see my guy friend. I was able to have a little chat with her. She's shy, acts like a real lady, very pretty, she has a really nice brown eyes, she's smart. I can't help to compare myself with her. She's got everything a guy would love to see in a girl. I wish she was me.. so that he can like me the way he wants her I just realized that I'm still really not over him tomorrow I'll see him, I wish I could disappear in this world, right now :'(

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I know that feel...but stay strong! Don't let yourself think about him romantically anymore. Change your thoughts towards him (tell yourself you don't like him anymore) and your feelings will follow. That has always helped me, hope it works for you

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posted August 05, 2012 01:58 AM            

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hey Cancer/scorpio I didn't knew you'r just about to enter college this year! i read it in your thread omg I am starting to like you now haha maybe we're about the same age! I also just started college this year so yea.. juggling between our studies and love, is what makes our world such a twisted one i believe XD

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posted August 06, 2012 02:52 AM            

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Haha! I got creepers on my thread, I feel popular

You started college this year? I'm a senior in high school now, getting ready for college. School and young love, it's a youth problem

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