posted October 08, 2007 10:45 PM         

Overall, this is an exhausting situation for the Querent. It looks like a big source of motivation for entering the marriage was a need for security, stability and control (4 Coins--also, typical Cappy reasons for marriage)...she was probably proud to wed...perhaps family/societal pressures made her feel that this marriage, or any marriage, would confer status. She has a strong sense of ethics, justice and principles about marriage and this marriage, believing it's "right" or just to wed and stay wed (King of Swords as situation.) She felt a small sense of achievement to wed (6 Wands)...Right now, she's lugging a heavy burden around trying to make it work (10 Wands), she's exhausted and bottomed out (10 Swords)...and what's going on right now (4 Cups) is some apathy and lost spirit, lost motivation, the kind of disappointment that turns in on itself and becomes something more shapeless and haunting than disapointment. Coming up (8 Cups) will be more exhaustion, a possible giving up, and maybe a search for deeper meaning...she will need to give up a little (10 swords), and it this point take a real break (4 swords) to figure out where she stands.

A positive side of this...the Cappy woman has the potential to transform her life (Magician, Wheel of Fortune)...there's more to her as a human being than what's going on in this marriage, which in a certain way (perhaps even a subtle way) has hurt or silenced her into numbness. Her husband is really not in this...he's absorbed in his own world and can't or won't open his heart in this marriage...he takes things for granted, turns to self-absorbtion and apathy (4 Cups...note: this might just be in the marriage...like the wife, he might have more vibrance or potential in other areas.)

I'm not sure that these people should stay married. The Querent might find more potential in her life if she left the marriage...but, overall, here are some positive options:

-The Querent needs to REALLY find a way to rest, recharge and get back in touch with herself. Can she take a vacation alone to somewhere exotic?
-Also, she needs to do something creative--some journaling, some painting--Caps can be secretly creative. She needs to rediscover her own interests.
-The Querent should get in touch with things other than being a wife that make her proud of her identity.

According to the reading, the Querent's happiness inside OR outside of the marriage depends on her getting some real, deep rest. She is worn down and emotionally, maybe even physically and spiritually, ragged. After she recharges, she can begin creating her life (Magician) and really living again.