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Topic: hanged man - old admirer (delicate situation at work!)
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Enneline
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posted May 17, 2014 08:13 AM
  
Dear all:around 10 years ago, i had an "admirer" or something who I first didn't even notice.  I almost acted as if he wasn't there (i did not mean it harm; I just hardly didn't notice his existence.) I was a little nobody at work, he was a high-profiled Manager. He took revenge and we lost contact points (not because of his revenge but things changed)
Now, 10 years later, I met him again.  it was last week. He was tied up with entertaining very important investors and I first thought he did not recognize me. Later I wasn't sure anymore and I realized that I am still his type (I think) but as I said he was tied up with something else. The worst thing: I am going to meet him again and I need to get along with him.
I pulled the card "hanged man" for this situation. How could I interpret this card? Everything will be fine? The admiration is over? Please advise.
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VenusDiSirius
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posted May 17, 2014 08:51 AM
ONE OF MY FAVE CARDS.  I'd need a clarification or two -- "He took revenge" ??? "he said he was tied up with something else" Did he use these words himself or are they yours, post card drawing? IP: Logged |
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posted May 17, 2014 08:54 AM
When he took revenge 10 years ago: he humiliated me. I used the words. He was tied up with someone else: he was tied up with very important Investors. He had no time to look at me but he did and first i thought he did not recognize me but later I wasn't sure anymore and I realized that I still could be his type (ain't sure though). IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 17, 2014 09:03 AM
Humiliation (shame). I suspected as much. Very important : Was it humiliating because you found it so, or was it something that was perceived by the others, too? Hanged Man is also tied up.  IP: Logged |
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posted May 17, 2014 09:08 AM
I found it so. One time we were alone, the other time his boss was there as well but he did not react. Ah okay, thank you. Okay, when we meet again he will be tied up with Investors again. Don't think he will have time to do anything regarding me. And I will try not to attend the meetings he will. Last week I tried to withdraw myself from the Meeting, i did everything to withdraw myself, but my colleagues were all like "Ah, Enneline, pls. take part...." IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 17, 2014 09:24 AM
I'm not done! Wait! Why I asked for further details - It struck me that he could be HM. However, the question wasn't about him - it is about the potential situation the 2 of you would face. When I saw that the words were his, I found it curious. You're bound by the unpleasant event, and after a considerable amount of time (classic, with HM) you're facing each other again and that situation is HM. So, my prediction - the situation will reverse.  And in that case, the power is in your hands. You've been shamed and you know better than to inflict the same upon the others. Or... Do you? #Smackdown HM is not about revenge, but it is revengefully cyclical. The lesson of HM is to rise above that, after the uncomfortable period of exposed shame. Now, if you're interested in that additional questions, will it end fine, or is the admiration over, I could pull a few cards. IP: Logged |
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posted May 17, 2014 09:31 AM
Ah okay, thank you Yes, if you like, pull a few cards if you want. I would be grateful Thank you in advance AND please let me know what I can do for an Exchange IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 17, 2014 09:47 AM
Don't be apprehensive! It will be very unusual, however. If you primarily asked about the situation, and somewhere in the back of your mind, "will it be fine" was looming, than you'll have to wait and see. HM is all about the maybe. I asked is his admiration for you over -- 2 of Pentacles + Hierophant No, it isn't. But it's not love admiration. He digs your knowledgeable persona. I respect the principles of exchange. BTW, we don't really do that in this subforum. I love the principles of gifts, however. Feedback would be cool, if you find time. Also, maybe somebody else will chime in on this. IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 17, 2014 09:58 AM
Additional #Food4ThoughtHe digs you, but finds it inappropriate because his job, reputation etc. IP: Logged |
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posted May 17, 2014 10:09 AM
Thank you
Maybe you will receive a gift when not expected He doesn't know me; we never talked (apart from saying "hello" to each other if necessary).
Last week I felt sooo uncomfortable in his presence and I don't want the upcoming meetings with the Investors (it's important for my job) to be spoiled because of this. I just asked "how will this situation develop?" and I pulled the card "nine Cups" and the card "8 pentacles" slipped. These are good signs I suppose And of course you will receive a Feedback on this IP: Logged |
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posted May 17, 2014 10:13 AM
quote:
Originally posted by VenusDiSirius:
Additional #Food4ThoughtHe digs you, but finds it inappropriate because his job, reputation etc.
Thank you very much
yes and he is supposedly to be married (to his former secretary I heard but i did not see a wedding ring on one of his fingers) and we will never be alone and we will always be with very important Investors. He has no chance to make a move  IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 17, 2014 10:14 AM
How on Earth did he humiliated you without knowing you? OK, what I said doesn't apply then... I misunderstood you. Like, totally.  IP: Logged |
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posted May 17, 2014 10:22 AM
Well, that's a long story. He knew my name, my job title/position and we had job-related contact only. He did humiliate me by commanding me around in a harsh way. One time in front of his boss and the other time we were alone and he commanded me around in a very snobbish tone and without even looking at me. And, I almost forgot this, he once complained about me -> my boss got angry with me.
How did I know he was into me? Others told me "he is into you" and I was like "ah, who's that?" First he was very nice, tried to establish contact with me and i ignored him. I thought it would be the best but I was wrong.IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 17, 2014 10:49 AM
Sweetling, Office gossipers know nothing. The philosophy behind "he tortures you because he is into you" should be applied to kindergarten situations only. He could be, quite genuinely, an a$$ and that's it. Anyways, the investors get together/reception/party shall be as fine as they get (9 of cups) & you'll be able to make a cool pro move or two (pertaining to your job, 8 of Pentacles). IP: Logged |
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posted May 17, 2014 10:57 AM
Yes, it's not the first time this happens to me. I think a man dislikes me and others tell me "he's into you" and I am like "strange way to show affection"  However, this a§$h*le was nice first. Anyway, thank you for your patience and time. The cards tell me not to worry and that's the point.IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 17, 2014 11:02 AM
Indeed. Good luck! IP: Logged |
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