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Topic: Originally a lover's spread, I used this for a friendship
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littlecloud
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posted May 21, 2014 01:27 AM
  
To see where she's at in regards to our friendship right now
1) where I'm at- 3 of discs
2) Where she's at- 3 of cups (she's on her honeymoon)
3) what she feels about me- 4 of discs
4) what she thinks of me- Strength
5) what she keeps from me- Temperance
6) what she reveals to me- 3 of rods (seems everything I learn about her is via fb)7) where she wants this relationship to go- The Chariot
8) how the friendship will evolve- Moon 4 majors, and three 3's
I need objective views...probably shouldn't be drawing things for myself right now as I'm pretty convinced about the way she's thinking/feeling right now. IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 21, 2014 04:43 AM
1) buzzing away, at whatever is that you do; willing to put some effort & work in it
2)  partying away
3) apprehensive, set in her opinion
4) you're a piece of work
5) her attention/mind is somewhere else, as if she has a new friend and likes them little better
6) first thing that popped in my mind - direction for 3 of Wands; so her plans, everyday chatter etc. I like 3oW for fakebook.
7) under the wheels/hooves of her mighty chariot? She wants it over perhaps, or less demanding?
8) everywhere & nowhere. Sorry for uninspired reply, but it is the Moon.  With the amount of 3s I wouldn't bother drawing any more... Here's everything you need to know regarding this friendship.
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Jessica2407
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posted May 21, 2014 10:32 AM
All depends on how much both of you truly care about each other as friends and how much you guys want to keep each other in your lives.IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted May 21, 2014 01:30 PM
Jessica- That's just the thing, I sent her a text telling her her actions hurt me and I've heard nothing for weeks. I have a thread on this in personal readings, I just pulled the cards to see things from her perspective. Venus- There is not better friend than me! I am a Leo after all and we're deathly loyal. You seem to have illustrated exactly what I was thinking. With strength I saw it as someone to be tamed, to control and temper down so that with chariot can do what she wills. As sad as this whole thing makes me it's made me appreciate my friendships all the more. IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 21, 2014 04:38 PM
When I see Strength as an outside factor, that's something difficult in nature, almost always. It's troublesome. Sometimes denotes avoidance in addressing the problem. When it's a personal spread, the one that aims that psychological insight, then I see it as a continuation of Chariot, from hard control to refinement; taming the impulse, taking the time to tackle a particular beast, in a manner that can be unorthodox. IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted May 21, 2014 05:23 PM
In this case she thinks I'm someone to control, I take it? Also her way of controlling the situation has been to completely ignore my text and concerns. So I'm not sure if that's unorthodox exactly.... But I can see my text as being this difficult outside force. IP: Logged |
Jessica2407
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posted May 22, 2014 01:13 AM
^Yeah for me the Chariot indicates someone is wanting to slightly dominate the other or try to steer the other way quite forcibly to do or see things their way. If I interpret the cards having in mind to gauge her perspective of things, I'd say she wants you to concede to something that she will not ask you to do directly. Passive aggressive that sort of thing.IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted May 22, 2014 01:31 AM
Yea, I figured. Fudge that sugar. I don't have my Mars in Aries for nothing. IP: Logged |
VenusDiSirius
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posted May 22, 2014 08:14 AM
What Jessica2407 said... #DemControlFreaksFUDGE THAT SUGAAAAAA! IP: Logged |
Twirl
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posted May 25, 2014 12:23 AM
With strength I actually think, she thinks you are a bit domineering. Not vice versa. IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted May 25, 2014 12:27 AM
When I'm around her I'm not that domineering. She's usually the ones calling the shots. But I can be in general. IP: Logged |
Twirl
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posted May 25, 2014 07:27 AM
Is this the one who you had a 'situation' with? If so, I think that's why Strength shows. IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted May 25, 2014 03:10 PM
Yes it is. But all I did was send her one text telling her that she hurt me. She never responded and barely spoke to me at the wedding. I don't see myself being domineering here, unless she took it that way being a bride and all, having that mentality. I specifically stated in the text that I was telling her so she knows how I feel, that I wasn't expecting her to change any plans at all. Clearly it wasn't important enough to her to think about addressing my concerns. She could've simply said we would talk after the wedding and I would've been ok with that, but she didn't. For me I feel her actions showed her true colors. So I wanted to see where she stood and did this spread. IP: Logged |
Twirl
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posted May 26, 2014 05:05 AM
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
Yes it is. But all I did was send her one text telling her that she hurt me. She never responded and barely spoke to me at the wedding. I don't see myself being domineering here, unless she took it that way being a bride and all, having that mentality. I specifically stated in the text that I was telling her so she knows how I feel, that I wasn't expecting her to change any plans at all. Clearly it wasn't important enough to her to think about addressing my concerns. She could've simply said we would talk after the wedding and I would've been ok with that, but she didn't. For me I feel her actions showed her true colors. So I wanted to see where she stood and did this spread.
Just my 2 cents: I think that when planning a wedding and all, there is so much to be arranged & the focus is on her and a happy day. So I can imagine not going into it then and/or even be annoyed/feeling pressured about it, because there's so much other stuff going around too.
Perhaps she didn't want to go into it and/or just fight know what to say or she thought it wasn't appropriate.
Just highlighting a different perspective. But it fits strength in my opinion. And it's supported by the 4 of pentacles. IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted May 26, 2014 05:27 AM
Yes. I considered that as well. But she could've at least suggested we talk at a later time. Instead she did nothing. No response, no acknowledgment of receiving my message. And in her own words, wanted the other girl to be her maid of honor. Either way she didn't consider me and it hurts. Her lack of response just drives the point further. IP: Logged |
Twirl
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posted May 26, 2014 03:11 PM
Just because she chose someone else doesn't mean you are not important. It does quite possibly mean that she is closer to the other girl & you may have grew apart a bit. So what you meant was 'I miss that we aren't that close anymore'.
Could be that she just found it an awkward situation too & did not know his to addres it herself. Because what can you say except that she is indeed closer with the other one. Don't think it's with ill intent. Do think the moment & a text possibly wasn't the best move, but since that's done, perhaps you can calmly addres it again after she is back from honeymoon? But without all the emotion attached to it & more of the 'I miss our past connection' angle? IP: Logged |
littlecloud
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posted May 27, 2014 02:53 AM
It's other stuff that has made me feel under appreciated as well. This just kinda tipped the edge. Little nuances here and there over the past 10 years that I brushed off at first but now I'm starting to think I should've paid attention to. And all of this I don't believe was ill-intent, not her choosing someone else. I honestly believe she has this back bone of selfishness that is the core of a lot of what she does. I believe we are all selfish to an extent, but with her I think it's a bit more than that. Many time when we would meet up and talk it was mostly me listening to her and I would end up feeling a bit let-down. In retrospect the timing of the message was likely wrong but it didnt hit me how upset I was until she basically implied that she thought I was ugly, or at least not pretty enough that anyone would pay attention to me while around her. It was very passively aggressively done and I think it came from a misunderstanding in our conversation, which I explained. But she's a Taurus and can be very stubborn. There have been other instances where I was defending her but because she didn't hear the other person she thought I was being malicious to her...I don't think she gets past that too well. Even after things have been ironed out and discussed. These assumptions got exhausting and at one point I didn't even want to bother explaining what had just happened. Sometimes I think my Saturn Rx is cursed lol. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted June 17, 2014 03:35 PM
I used this spread for a relationship for a friend.
1) Where`she`s at: Devil
2) Where he is at: Sun 3) what he feels about her: Temperance 4) what he thinks aout her: 3 of wands 5) what he keps from her: Empress 6) What he reveals to her: Queen of Pentacles 7) where he wants this relationship to go- 3 of swords 8) how the relationship will evolve - 8 of wands
It`s an interesting spread.
It seems that she is in a bit of a painful situation. Passionately attached to him and the relationship, but at the same time there is maybe a bit co-dependency going on. Interestingly he seems to be at a completely different place. Quite happy as it seems. Of course both are majors, indicating that this is a majorly significant relationship I think.
What he feels about her: Temperance.
I am not quite sure what that means in terms of feelings, maybe there is something that needs healing or mending.
What he thinks about her, 3 of wands, he sees a ot of possibilities in her, or maybe thinks of her as a very communicative straightforward person.
What he keeps from her, mmmh, his mother? 
Not sure how to interprete that, though maybe there is someone else involved here?
What he reveals to her, well the Queen of pentacles actually to me is almost like an echo to the Empress, just in a more subdued, subtle way.
Not sure what the 7th card means her. the wants the relationship to evolve into heartbreak? And then where it will evolve, no clue either , but whereever, it seems to be quick and switft and energetic. Usually I would say it might have something to do with falling in love at first sight, but this is not a new relationship. so I am not sure. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted June 17, 2014 03:36 PM
quote:
Originally posted by littlecloud:
Yes it is. But all I did was send her one text telling her that she hurt me. She never responded and barely spoke to me at the wedding. I don't see myself being domineering here, unless she took it that way being a bride and all, having that mentality. I specifically stated in the text that I was telling her so she knows how I feel, that I wasn't expecting her to change any plans at all. Clearly it wasn't important enough to her to think about addressing my concerns. She could've simply said we would talk after the wedding and I would've been ok with that, but she didn't. For me I feel her actions showed her true colors. So I wanted to see where she stood and did this spread.
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littlecloud
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posted June 17, 2014 04:03 PM
Ceri that's the same spread I used, in this case with my friend. Who are you reading about? The 3 of swords for where he wants things to go, to me shows he doesn't know. He may be feeling pressure from her or interested in a mother woman (since the empress is hidden) and the 3 indicates that he doesn't know where this relationship is going. He doesn't know where he wants it to go and it's a mental burden for him. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted June 17, 2014 04:22 PM
that makes sense, I suppose. Thanks. IP: Logged |
Ceridwen
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posted June 17, 2014 04:24 PM
I feel tempted to use this spread for this actor and me. But I`ll fight this particular temptation. 
(even though mostly because I think that my state of mind might influence the cards I pull) IP: Logged |
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