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posted July 30, 2014 10:20 AM            

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Asked how going to an event would affect my relationship with someone

Star-Lovers-4 of swords

How not going would affect the relationship

page of swords-page of discs- page of rods

In comparison it looks like going is the mature thing to do. What do you guys think?

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posted July 30, 2014 10:46 AM            

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Go girl

If you want to go to that event of yours, go and have a blast.

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posted July 30, 2014 12:54 PM            

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Why wouldn't you want to go?
First option looks better, calm mind.
The second looks like quarrels.

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posted July 30, 2014 01:29 PM            

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I didn't create the event, the guy I'm interested in created it. Except he has a gf now so I don't want to be around that. Also people in general seeing me in a bikini with all the weight I've gained. I hate the way I look right now and I'm not comfortable with others seeing me or pictures being taken of me. Hence the confliction. But there's only so many days of summer left and I love the beach so.... Ugh! Why must things be complicated.

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posted July 30, 2014 03:59 PM            

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Comparing the two - if you went it would obviously increase the connection, but the connection still wouldn't be acted on (Star is hopes and 4 of Swords is resting, or having a break. Maybe something the guy keeps mum about but not an active card nonetheless)

If you didn't go it would lessen the connection hence Pages. The tiny court cards.. to me they kind of represent nagging thoughts and whatnot but are not that strong.

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posted July 30, 2014 04:02 PM            

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We just got into an argument and I'm even more conflicted.

But yes I can see the inaction in the first spread. Like I'm watching you watch me but I'm not saying anything about it.

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posted July 30, 2014 05:25 PM            

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Originally posted by littlecloud:
We just got into an argument and I'm even more conflicted.

But yes I can see the inaction in the first spread. Like I'm watching you watch me but I'm not saying anything about it.

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The watching you watch me thing sounds more like Pages, since they're full of curiosity. jmho.

Either way you'd be on his mind, so that's a good thing right?

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posted July 30, 2014 08:56 PM            

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I guess so...except I was thinking it was less based on curiosity and more like watchfulness. To keep track of someone or something.

I'll probably go and stay off to the side or something.

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posted July 31, 2014 01:31 AM            

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Originally posted by littlecloud:
I didn't create the event, the guy I'm interested in created it. Except he has a gf now so I don't want to be around that. Also people in general seeing me in a bikini with all the weight I've gained. I hate the way I look right now and I'm not comfortable with others seeing me or pictures being taken of me. Hence the confliction. But there's only so many days of summer left and I love the beach so.... Ugh! Why must things be complicated.

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ah! now I understand..

You asked if going to the event would affect your relationship with someone, I thought you wanted to go..

May be you could organize a quiet day on the beach with some friend you like and trust?

or may be you could be more direct and ask your cards if you are going to enjoy the event should you choose to accept to grace your presence to this event and therefore make the person happy..I really don't see the point of going to a beach party to stay off on the side watching everyone having fun..

or may be I still didn't get the question

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posted July 31, 2014 01:49 AM            

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I asked how going or not going would affect the relationship. Like when you have a birthday party and invite people and hope certain ones will show up and if they don't you get dissapointed or hurt. And the ones that do show up, you end up building a stronger bond with because events tend to do that; being people together. Does that make more sense?

I work the night before and likely won't get much sleep so partly why I would stay off to the side. I like going to the beach, tanning, reading and swimming. Even when I go alone I get annoyed when there's a lot of kids running around and making noise. Then there's the shyness of my body. I don't fit in my bathing suits anymore and it's annoying as well as embarrassing for me. But it's the beach and it's one of the few places that make me happy.

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posted July 31, 2014 02:19 AM            

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ahhhhh! okkkkkay

sorry littlecloud, I really couldn't understand..

okay, let's see, if you choose not to go, exchange of heated words that could be squabbles over something silly, I doubt you will explain the real reason why you didn't attend the event.It won't help strengthen the relationship with the person that's for sure.

If you do choose to go, which is what the person would hope for or what you would really like to be able to be carefree about being able to CHOOSE but ehh I don't like that 4oS..

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posted July 31, 2014 02:30 AM            

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But without the cards, jmho, I would advise you to go.

You don't have to wear a bikini if it makes you feel uncomfortable, but you could still go and wear something light that makes you feel comfortable and you could still be able to enjoy yourself. It's just a matter of shopping for the right attire for this kind of event.

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posted July 31, 2014 03:17 AM            

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Maybe I can find a cheap bathing suit. I prefer a two piece anyway. I can't mess up my tan lines lol. Money has been tight so I've been putting off buying something I won't need for long.

I never wear clothes at the beach. I'm not that shy. At the end I say **** it because usually I'm not around a large group. This time I will be hence the lack of comfort.

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posted July 31, 2014 06:22 AM            

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I`d say: go.

I do not like the second spread, it looks like a lot of talking and nagging and explaining why you did NOT show up. Do you want that?

The 4 of swords in the first one I do not like either, but maybe it just indicates a restful period, or letting your mind rest for a bit?

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posted July 31, 2014 06:50 AM            

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I see that too, it's why I said the first spread looked more mature, since the pages are, well..pages.

For lovers+4 of swords the phrase of "lovers retreat" came to mind. Not that I expect a vacation or anything but it looks calmer even in it's lack of action.

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posted July 31, 2014 07:01 AM            

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I'd like to personally slap the life out of the 2nd spread.

Go!

P.s For me, 4 of Swords came up as timing - like dusk. Maybe it's not a retreat.

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posted July 31, 2014 02:30 PM            

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Lol Venus, why slap it?

And when you say not a retreat are you implying hanky panky?

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posted August 01, 2014 02:03 AM            

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For me I see it as you just need a break, you are determined mentally to enjoy yourself,however may not be entirely free to enjoy the event..

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posted August 01, 2014 04:28 AM            

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The infestation of Page cards is highly suggestive of being out past their bedtime.

LC,

I am not implying that. You are. And what a fine applied, tarot-at-its-literal possibility that is! Lovers + a shack... Or a monument really. (kinky heh!)

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posted August 01, 2014 11:28 PM            

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Venus- Actually in my deck the 4 of swords shows a man seated as in meditation with the 4 swords pointed down behind him. So I tend to read it literally as a need to meditate on something.

Jessica- I should be going on vacation soon and it's a much needed break. The 4 of swords looks restful enough for now. I was mostly wondering if going would help improve my relationship with this guy.

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