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posted October 08, 2021 05:59 PM            

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Hi all,

I am learning tarot and struggling to blend the intuitive with the cards. I asked how someone feels about me. It's a new relationship that is currently in the friend range but the chemistry is strong and electric.

The cards pulled were Nine of Pents followed by Chariot.

Nine of Pents, as his feelings- I am independent and content in my life with myself.
Chariot- controlled feelings- he knows what he wants from me? Bcs it's with a Pents card, he's not rushing in? He is slow and steady wins the race?

We actually have talked about this to some degree. He is recently out of a relationship and he asked me my intentions towards him, to which I said I was not actively looking for relationship, and I was happy where I was in life. That is true but... The issue is more that I want to pursue something with him, but I want to respect his space so I am being very reserved about my feelings towards him.

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posted October 09, 2021 06:33 AM            

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If he asked about your intentions, he might be interested. Maybe tell him something like: "I'm not so sure I don't want a relationship in my life. How about you? Do you feel like you're ready for a new love?" Or something along these lines. Sending an indirect, yet clear message, which will encourage him to act if indeed he's interested.

But anyway, I would advise you not to communicate to him such an important message until Mercury returns to direct motion, meaning not before the 24th of the month (5 more days are taken after the exact day as precaution).

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posted October 09, 2021 07:33 AM            

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9 of Pentacles and Chariot feelings would mean imo He’s minding his own business, literally. Major arcana, his plan Chariot is to stay in 9 of P energy: Single. Decisively.

If the truth is you want something with him, then you’re aware you lied by omission in light of the person when stated you’re “not actively looking”. What you said generally translates to “I’m not seeking one, thus I don’t want one.” That’s a tough position to have put yourself into... Were you trying to mirror him?

Ayelet has sound advice about how to pool more information and to clarify your interest. However 9P/Chariot, tells you might be reminded by him of his current plans to be independent *cough* single.

Also imo it is a rarely a good deal to pursue someone in a period of mourning, however subtle, who’s in transition. Often, when the process is completed, a person will take giant a leap away from their prior place/perspective as a whole, leaving much behind them—as they should. Wouldn’t enter or attach to that “space”. Let them be alone, would insist it.

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posted October 20, 2021 06:59 AM            

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I missed these responses!

Thank you. And Vansio, yes, I agree. I feel like I was deceptive and I have wanted to clear that up with him, but like Ayelet said, I am also aware of Mercury Retrograde.

I wasn't mirroring him, I was telling him that I am not actively seeking. I did tell him I am open to what life brings me, and at this point I want a relationship that happens organically. That said, I also agree with you that it's not good to pursue someone in a period of mourning. I would like to clarify that he initiates every get together. I asked him directly if me spending time with him was respecting his need for space, to whioh he answered yes, it was.

I appreciate your responses here. I see him Friday and will clear my message, not to pursue him, but to just be upfront. I am ok with letting him go if that is what he wants.

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posted October 20, 2021 10:20 AM            

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That’s wonderful. You can keep this simple and let him know you do harbour sweet feelings for him. See how he responds to your tenderness. Being able to let go is a fair way of also explaining there are no expectations yet. Getting to know one another can be a pleasure of its own.

Nice that he initiates seeing you. Enjoy

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posted October 20, 2021 12:45 PM            

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Vansio- question here

My question was "how does he feel about me". and the cards were 9Pentacles and Chariot... so minding his own business... where do you get that? I am newish to reading and am curious.

I read his feelings about me is that he sees me as the 9Pents and the Chariot. That I am happy and content in my life and the Chariot indicates I am moving forward in life... I would love to hear how you arrived at your thoughts.

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posted October 20, 2021 01:55 PM            

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how he feels (in general) vs how he feels for you are two sides of a question, that both can be answered through the same set of cards, informing each other. I interpreted, based on the former question, since it was a pentacle suit. No fire or water which I would personally want to see if asking about feelings, at the beginning of a relationship. Without them, it’s a stretch to describe feelings per say. Much too practical. The 9 also, is solitary. You didn’t ask how he “sees” you, so I refrained from interpreting these two for a different question.

Try another question with fresh cards, since you’ve spoken since then.

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posted October 20, 2021 02:24 PM            

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Gotcha- that helps just that you used the definition of water/fire as desirable for feelings. Good point!

I will try another pull. It has been two weeks now. The hard part is knowing there are multiple sides to each card, and then deciding which one is the current meaning. It's easy to do wishful thinking interpretation!

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