posted September 15, 2005 11:44 AM              

yes, sounds like Lialei and Magus should get together, that be a knockout couple.

Fayte, you're beautiful just the way you are.

Any pictures yet?

Sue, how are you?

posted September 15, 2005 11:45 AM            

Jennifer Love Hewitt

posted September 15, 2005 01:03 PM              

Magus!
That bit on the male Aquarian IS from the Sexual astrology book...not Sex Signs...the women outlook book.

posted September 15, 2005 01:53 PM              

My, this thread IS long now!

Did anyone manage to change anyone else's views?

Speaking personally, I cannot have sex without love/commitment. Thats just me. I believe that the ocean of each individual soul has infinite depths....without long-term commitment how will we ever explore those depths intimately? Thats just my opinion.

posted September 15, 2005 02:00 PM              

NO intimacy, without pureness of heart, I say.
I've been alone for many mmany years.
All the men I've met are still my friends, I simply told them, I'm sorry,
But, you're not the ONE.

I'm confused about my twin,
much deception and confusion
within.
I'm waiting for answers
at their alotted time...
TIME
stands still for me
while
I wait to SEE

posted September 15, 2005 02:43 PM            

I'm a Capricorn, which is prone to life-long romantic partnership, and I have Gemini Rising. I also didn't lose my virginity until I was around 20 years old due to my own restraint and convictions.

I'm trying to think of how to answer your question in a way that makes sense. It's a matter of the importance you attach to sex. I think most people want to have it in the context of a loving, committed relationship. However, as an action that is pleasurable and fun for two people, it can happen outside of those kinds of relationships. To me, sex only requires desire, and a feeling of comfort with one's own body for it to have the possibility of happening.

So, for instance, I can go to a movie with my roommate, and it's somewhat enjoyable entertainment. I can also go to a movie with my best friend, and it becomes great entertainment. It's the same action, but the pleasure derived is greater when the action is done with a person you care more deeply about. Same with sex.

Also, I think most people who have had multiple partners are not actually THAT casual about it. The one thing about sex that screws everything up, is the release of endorphins at the end. This can lead either person to temporarily feel a lot more affection toward the other person, which later can have the consequence of imbalancing the relationship. One person will feel so much love and connection with the other person immediately after having sex that they will say or do the wrong thing thereby scaring off their friend. So I think people are careful even when it's a casual situation.

I hope that as you assess your own values with regard to sex that you begin to see how placing sex on a pedestal can really end up being very hurtful to you in the long run. I fear that you might eventually feel you've found 'The One' only to find out later that he/she isn't the one, and you'll think to yourself, "but I had sex with this person," as if that meant that it was naturally going to last forever. It doesn't.

posted September 15, 2005 02:54 PM              

AcousticGod....thankyou for sharing your thoughts

I think the only sad thing about the 'pedestal' is when two people who have been commited to each other for some Time separate, but don't stay friends

I guess that, being a Moon conjunct Pluto girl (Cap rising too....& Venus in Cancer)...I prefer to love TRUELY MADLY DEEPLY...

posted September 15, 2005 03:03 PM            

I like that.

posted September 15, 2005 05:31 PM              

I used to see sex or a relationship period as simple as a matter of "are you commited to me or not". I still beleive if someone makes any commitment/agreement then all parties should do all they can to keep that agreement , atleast untill it is obveous that we just arent doing any good for oneanother.... Now looking back to my days of flat out "take it like this, and only like this" mentality,,, Ive noticed that I missed out on a couple joys and possative experiences in my life that wouldnt have required the terms of my most desired kinda relationship.

And I dont have to completly surender my being , just to be honest, sincere, and intimate with another for a time... If anyhting, demanding that and only that out of another person made me a slave to my own vices of what I desired.

all the while-

When I meet my next potential for a possative and healthy relatinship, and we both know the time is rite,, then I will have no problem being monogamous, and loyal with her and her alone.

posted September 15, 2005 05:54 PM              

Lialei- Sure more on your astro later ! With some freckles and the large dark brown eyes, dont even worry about no red hair- no dissapointment AT ALL.

I presume your "what about you Sir Aqua" was asking for my look -

5ft8 tall, thick shoulder and boned build, still geting rid of a belly after gaining some weight earlyer this year from being on crutches for 5 months or so [tore a tendant in my knee] , german looking facial bone structure,, with some Irish,Scotish,Biritsh features. Hazel eyes[ they are blue again today though],,, redish brownihs goatey is growing back in [shaved it day after last concert], and have 2 mohawks- the one on my cranium is down to about midback, brown to dirty blond coloured hair dpending on how much Ive ben out in the sun... Lost my freckles when I wsa about 6.

How was that for a phsical description ?

posted September 15, 2005 06:16 PM            

Secret Garden not too long ago did an interpretation of part of my chart that suggested I will never have a conventional sex life. At this point I'm not sure whether that's true or not. I know that given the right opportunity I would like to visit a sex club I've read about in the city at least once. I think and hope it's more of a voyeuristic fantasy of mine. In fact, that kind of sums up my views on a lot of things. I like to see and I like to be aware, but I also don't trust people or people's collective judgment enough to go along with what may be more questionable human practices. I hold myself to a certain standard that doesn't tend to allow me to get too involved in the possibly darker or less safe aspects of life.

On the flip side of that fascination, though, is a terribly romantic, sensitive guy who delights in the sweetness of being intimate with someone whether sexually or not.

It would be difficult for me to try to tolerate partner swapping. I don't know if this is normal or not, but I look at the person I'm with as a sort of extension of myself, so I take it personally if she does something unattractive. For instance, if she shows consistently how she cares for me, I'm proud that she'd feel that way. Makes me feel good about myself. Conversely, if she's always showing how she isn't considerate of my feelings, it doesn't just show her as inconsiderate. It also shows that there's some reason within me that may be causing her to act that way. Looking at this now, maybe it's wrong for me to feel that way, but this is kind of how I've always been.

My birthday is December 26, 1972. The day after Christmas.

posted September 15, 2005 06:49 PM              

I have almost 3 full albaums of concept story outline. Only have half the lyrics for this first story's songs.. And half of those I already know I intend to completly rewrite. Even taking a walk to my favorate park by the river every day doesnt bring them out when I want them too.

BTW AG- Never participate in any "darker" or more extreme sexual acts when you arent completly sure you are comfortable with them. COMPLETLY SURE.