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Topic: Ready for this? ... Cuddle Party
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AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 22, 2005 09:14 PM
 
Interesting. I was just putting on my shoes myself.  (If it's a guy thing, I should introduce you to a few Cancerian guys. You won't find them cuddling first and asking questions later.) IP: Logged |
Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 1156
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 23, 2005 09:04 PM
AG,I say go for it my dear, it could be fun and you just never know. LOL!!! It looks like a invite to the big O, if you know what I mean. Each to their own AG and I really can't say either way. We all need different things for different reasons. IP: Logged |
Ra
Moderator Posts: 509
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Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 23, 2005 09:20 PM
I agree that something is missing from these people's lives.  IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 23, 2005 09:43 PM
An invite to the big O?Not sure what you mean.  IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 2089
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 23, 2005 10:50 PM
Someone should really show you sometime.You can probably do it yourself, but you know....
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AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 23, 2005 11:02 PM
Orgasm? Oh yes, I can do that on my own...it is more fun with a partner, though.  This discussion is fascinating to me. The creepiness of cuddling, and what that must imply. I already said I'd go, so I'm kinda screwed on backing away, but I'm not so certain that it's such a terrible position to be in. I'd be interested to hear what people think of meeting strangers for a cuddle versus meeting strangers for a drink. Would you judge the person meeting people at a non-alcoholic, [enforced->] non-sexual cuddle party as more pathetic than say someone who goes to the pub in hopes of getting lucky? Do you think there would be a different quality to a couple that gets together at a cuddle party versus a couple that gets together at a bar? Is one inherently better? IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 2089
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 12:51 AM
Well, it is certainly easier to cuddle at a cuddle party than at a bar.
So if cuddling is your forte, can't get any better than at a party designed for it.
sometimes you feel lik ea strange cuddle, sometimes a pokey one.IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 4057
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 24, 2005 03:25 AM
"a pokey one"hahahahha,,,,,,ooooh love a pokey one..... Love you girl, love yer humour.....keep it up....  xxx IP: Logged |
Iqhunk
Knowflake Posts: 293
From: Chennai
Registered: Oct 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 03:50 AM
<<Do you think there would be a different quality to a couple that gets together at a cuddle party versus a couple that gets together at a bar? Is one inherently better? >>Applying the wisdom of "All is fair in love and war", there can be no judgement on how or where a couple gets together as long as they do manage to get together. ------------------
Sun-Cancer, Moon-Libra, Asc-ARIES, Mars-Taurus, Venus-Taurus, NorthNode-Libra. IP: Logged |
Solane Star
Knowflake Posts: 1156
From: Ontario, Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 07:52 AM
Big O is a Orgy!!!IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 11:15 AM
Ahhhh... I'm not sure that I could participate in one of those.IP: Logged |
TINK
Knowflake Posts: 2126
From: New England
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted October 24, 2005 11:26 AM
So you're going? Will you bring back pictures for us? We'll need details of course.IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 12:13 PM
If I go (it's Sunday) I'll let you guys know how it went. No, I won't go in there with a camera. Although if they allow pictures maybe I'll take some. I've got a disposable camera with some pics left on it in my car.IP: Logged |
sue g
Knowflake Posts: 4057
From: ireland
Registered: Sep 2004
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posted October 24, 2005 12:22 PM
Oh do....go.....I mean...AG......just for the craic!!! LOL !!!XXXX IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 01:50 PM
 OK ... LOL!! IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 1785
From: ohio
Registered: Aug 2004
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posted October 24, 2005 06:08 PM
You know what's funny? That the idea of a cuddle party sounds far more creepy than an orgy, and yet...I'm intrigued, in any case. If you go, you know you gotta come back and tell us all about it! I don't think I could ever participate in an orgy, or even a threesome. My mind is too one-track and I think I'd just get confused! Really! IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 06:52 PM
Tell me if this makes sense:I can see where I would be creeped out by 6'9" tall men asking to cuddle with me. It would make me think of prison sex or something, and that's really disturbing. Is that an adequate comparison to the creeped out feelings you people have? I can relate to that feeling on that level - that assumed sexuality level. However, if I imagine them as 6'9" chubby, bald-headed monks then it becomes a much more palatable scenario. There's no implied danger. Which brings us back to, who would be interested in spending a few hours cuddling? Prison sex guy? That's a possibility, but how is prison sex guy going to find out about a cuddle party, and wouldn't prison sex guy be mad and take off once he learned his sexual advances were unwelcome? Personally, I imagine the group being more like the people here. People interested in the odd and the unexplainable. Would you women be ok with cuddling even with the other women here? Is that creepy? I'm still not understanding. IP: Logged |
proxieme
Knowflake Posts: 5313
From: Southern 'Bama
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted October 24, 2005 07:28 PM
Some people just aren't into cuddling strangers - they view intimate physical contact as, well, a more intimate thing than that.I don't think I'd be up for it.
More power to those who are, though. IP: Logged |
fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 2600
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Registered: Mar 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 07:29 PM
sounds like the group gropes of the 1960s and 70s!!!! Like at the 76 Freedom concert....300,000 very happy folks passing the doobies and rocking and swaying and getting rather silly and cozy! No...not really a group grope(well we had those too..clothing required...but as for orgies...well...you get the idea...anything goes)actually just a big happy cuddle fest with such great music for three days!
ELO...Eagles...so many!!!!
But I do not think this new cuddle party idea is the same thing or has the same atmosphere.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Moderator Posts: 2089
From: Ontario Canada
Registered: Jun 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 09:07 PM
I know someone who is a total touch person.
She talks close, in an intimate space, and almost confides in you. She is charismatic and smart and nice and pretty.. people generally welcome her....
She makes you feel 'special'...
She is a total toucher.....
The first day she met me, she totally swatted my bum as she told me something.. and do you know what?
I loved it!
I just said.. "Oh, you are one of those touchy people, I love that you're a bum toucher.. good in my books!"
I seriously do! I know it wouldn't work well in all scenarios, and I can only do that when I know someone.. the more intimate touches.... respecting boundaries and personal comfort zones and all that.....
But I do appreciate that quality.
She sat beside me today and touched my thigh.
I love it!
Who can just touch someone's thigh? I love intimate touches in theory, it helps you become close to someone... like.. she's welcome to my bum or thigh anyday... but I can't say that for everyone....
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AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 09:25 PM
That's a sweet story. I think a lot of us have known people like that. It really is a comforting thing. --------------
I emailed the leader of the local cuddle group earlier, and amongst other things told her about some of the concerns listed here. Here's what she said: quote:
In the meantime, thanks for your comments - and your willingness to try this out. Yes, people often have fears, consider "cuddling with strangers" creepy, etc. I've heard it all.
AND it all changes after they've been willing to come and check it out. Very loving space, created among "friends-who-haven't-met-yet" (rather than strangers!) - and there haven't been any creeps to my knowledge ;-)
I tend not to go on the boards and "defend" - best to talk in person. So, if any of your friends are interested in asking questions via email or phone, please give them my info. Thanks!
Warmly,
Suz
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fayte.m
Knowflake Posts: 2600
From:
Registered: Mar 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 09:43 PM
I am a hugger and toucher...a patter and a cuddler. And I am talking about the non sexual kind here! Touch is so important!
I even hug my Dr and chiropractor and they appreciate it...and will not let me leave until they get their hugs! It is so nice and sweet! IP: Logged |
proxieme
Knowflake Posts: 5313
From: Southern 'Bama
Registered: Aug 2002
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posted October 24, 2005 10:40 PM
Wow.I kinda feel like some preachin's goin' on...  IP: Logged |
AcousticGod
Knowflake Posts: 3289
From: Pleasanton, CA, USA
Registered: May 2005
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posted October 24, 2005 10:49 PM
Interesting. Not sure I understand.IP: Logged |
TINK
Knowflake Posts: 2126
From: New England
Registered: Mar 2003
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posted October 24, 2005 11:19 PM
Always  Are you really truly going to do it, AG? When you come back, I would like an essay comparing and contrasting the effects of cuddling someone you know and love versus someone you just met. IP: Logged |
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