posted August 30, 2006 02:38 PM              

>>>>Thank you for caring,
but send it to my mother, perhaps it will heal her insanity.

posted August 30, 2006 03:33 PM            

January 25, 2006
Freeing Yourself
Knowing When To Let Someone Go

Just as a good relationship can have a positive impact on your life, stressful, draining, or imbalanced relationships can have negative effects on your health and well-being. It's common to maintain a relationship because we feel the other person needs us or we believe that they will eventually change. We may also be afraid of hurting the other person or feel insecure in our ability to find new relationships. But knowing when to end a relationship and acknowledging that the pain will pass can often prevent greater pain and feelings of loss in the long run.

If you're in a relationship that isn't satisfying or one that has become unhealthy for you, rather than spending energy attempting to fix the problem or complaining, ask yourself what you really want from the relationship. Consider whether the other person truly considers your feelings or if they are willing to change their behavior. Ask yourself if you've often thought about ending the relationship or if you feel your bonds have atrophied. While every relationship has ups and downs, when there are more downs than ups or the two of you are bringing out the worst in each other, it may be time to sever the connection. Be honest with yourself and your answers, even if the truth is painful.

Relationships thrive on honesty, communication, mutual caring, and time spent together. When one or more of these elements are missing, it may be that the relationship, no matter how passionate, simply isn't worth it. It's far better to end a relationship that doesn't feel right than to hold on to it and languish in feelings of anger or resentment. Moving on without struggle, on the other hand, can be the door that leads you to a more nurturing relationship in the future.

http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2006/2002.html

posted August 30, 2006 06:42 PM              

In my situation, the "friend" has gone crying to my husband telling him how nasty I have been. He now thinks I've been cruel and heartless. However, I am confident I have done the right thing. I feel at peace. I take this as a sign from my angels or whoever that it was the right thing to do.

posted August 30, 2006 06:46 PM              

Take care,

posted August 30, 2006 06:51 PM            

True colors always fly!

What in the world gives your "friend" the right to go crying to YOUR husband?! Says alot for the individual, and I know nothing of anyone involved!!!

Sounds like a bit of emotional blackmail, with a bit of manipulation and insecurity thrown in for good measure!

Seding peace to you right now!!!

posted August 30, 2006 07:43 PM              

I thought of replying to your post last night, but I was so exhausted, that all I could muster was an astral hug at the time.
But I was thinking of your situation and caring.
The hug was meant for all who posted here, including you.

And unfortionately I have to run for the moment, but I wanted to at least reassure you that others are listening and do care.
Hope you'll return here.
And wish I had more time at the moment to give you some advice.

, everyone.

posted August 30, 2006 08:06 PM              

hippichick, teaselbaby, Touchstone, glad you are all doing a bit better these days.
It does sound difficult to overcome when it hits you so strongly.
I don't think I have any sort of chemical condition but I have hit the well myself, and so I at least understand that feeling.

Nice article, teaselbaby. Lots of inspirational advice in it.

*waves* hey, D!!
I owe you a letter. Best of luck on school and finding a place.

posted August 30, 2006 10:21 PM              

Sue, I have called the cops on her. She has also been in the Mental hospitals several times.
Restraining orders do not work.
She is not afraid of getting in trouble.

She gets arrested, then gets suicidal, then hospital, then released.

The weird part is when she goes to Scotland, Ireland, she does not act crazy!
I think she takes her meds and does not drink then.
I wish she would go back there and stay.
She seems saner and happier there.

posted August 31, 2006 05:48 AM              

Maybe she wil come and be my neighbour....

posted August 31, 2006 05:57 AM              

My body has gone into such a bad state of shock since my mum passed and my heart is so sore and aching like mad. I went to the docs and she referred me to a chest pain clinic, I know its only stress, but even so I am going thro the motions of having my heart monitored and getting blood tests and stuff.

I am terrified at times of the thought of going thro the funeral and seeing my sister who is giving my dad a very hard time......she said to him what did it matter what mum thought..."she is DEAD". Oh God this really hurt me that she could be so cold and heartless...and so lacking in faith.

Thank God for my faith....such coldness in the world, what would we do without each other....the few we draw to our sides, our soul friends....what would we do if not for them...

Thanks for listening...

love to all....

posted August 31, 2006 08:50 AM            

Sounds to me could be a bit of anxiety, but always good to have checked out by a medical professional.

In my practice as a RN, I believe firmly in the mind-body connection and I believe heart aliments (including stress related anxiety) comes from a blockage of love through the heart. Given your recent experiences w/ your mom, etc. not suprising!

Stress can do all kinds of ugly things to us. Try some relaxation/visualiztion techniques, herb thearpy and most of all, have a qualified MD check you out ASAP!

Sending Peace, Love and Light

posted August 31, 2006 09:09 AM              

fayte.... " ignore her"

Aaahh music to my ears....and so nice to read that...it sort of makes what I was thinking real and just...

Its has been so hard for me to do this with all that 7th house stuff going on in my chart (the peacemaker) but I know you are right. I actually think she would rather me out of her life...so it will be a blessed relief to return the compliment!!

I dont really want to be around selfish and godless people, too negative and destructive....so i will stand back!

"Onward Christian Soldiers"....uuugghhh I always couldnt stand that either....sounds so bloody pious doesnt it?

THANKYOU.....!!!!!

posted August 31, 2006 09:21 AM              

See...
THAT IS A WAY to peace with her.
If you act as if you could not give a fig of what she does and in fact say you "do understand", she will most likely not bother you again.
Or it will confuse her and make her think about things. But I doubt it.
Most likely scenario is you will be free of her, as she has seemed to have wanted already.
Set her FREE of YOUR expectations and she may in time change or at least stay away from you.
You do not get along.
All your hopes will not fix that.
Free her from familial obligations and free yourself from her in the process. Like I have said before, blood is indeed thicker than flowing water, and blood can clot.

posted August 31, 2006 01:10 PM              

Aw, Sue, have a hug from me. The process of grieving for someone close takes time so just take one day at a time and go at your own pace. It must be extremely hurtful to have a sister with that kind of attitude but if you can let the comments go and ignore her then that will be best. She won't change so don't let her be an extra source of stress.

posted September 01, 2006 10:24 AM              

Thanks girl, your words helped.....

posted September 09, 2006 01:16 AM            

That is not correct in majority of the cases. Having gone thru child abuse the abusers never abuse others in the same way.
What is your source? Don't make others truth your own truth. Listen to your heart always.

Ok back to reading your other posts.